gluestick Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 Hi guys, Do male dumpers ever realize what they lost when they break up with a girl, especially if the relationship lasted a long time (at least 3+ years) and were very much in love but things didn't work out in the end? Maybe after dating a few more girls and things don't work out with them, their minds drift back to the one ex-gf they really loved? I'm just curious from a males perspective. After my ex broke up with me, I am open to the idea that if we both happen to be single when we reconnect in the future (maybe after 2 or more years), if we still have a great connection and are completely comfortable with each other, I know I would be willing to give him another chance, should he feel the same way. Personally, I wouldn't write off the men I truly loved from my life forever and would be open to try again should the opportunity presents itself. Can I get some male perspectives or experiences if any can relate? I am moving on and know that I will be happy and be able to love again. I just think there are certain people in your life who deserves a second chance if the timing is right. My cousin and his wife had a two year separation after the 2nd time they broke up. When they reconnected after 2 years, she was already involved with another man, in love and already moved on. After spending 2 days hanging out together, I guess something just clicked in my cousin's mind. He realized she was the woman he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. Eventually she chose my cousin over the other man and they got married after 4 months. Turns out, the other guy died from cancer not too long after she got married. Funny how fate works. Any thoughts, experiences, and opinions are welcomed! Link to comment
Penseur Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 Yes, it is does happen to male dumpers. I wouldn't proceed with the hope and expectation that you will reconnect, as in put all your eggs in that one basket. But it sounds like you have a mindset of "forever is a long time, and there's always a possibility." So, that's good. But keep it in your mind as a mere possibility, with also the possibility that it will not happen. Link to comment
NoDice Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 Yes, at one point or another. However at that point they usually make a desicion to either let it go, try to reunite, or hold it in and get bitter. I wonder the same thing about female dumpers who have never been dumped. Or repeatedly dumping someone... Link to comment
symbiot Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 I wonder the same thing about women. Link to comment
gluestick Posted September 23, 2011 Author Share Posted September 23, 2011 I think it depends on the person. I know a few of my girlfriends never regret their decision to breakup with their ex-boyfriends and would never go back. I think this is mainly due to the fact that they found someone new that they loved even more and realized their ex's were not a good fit. Link to comment
22n32 Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 happens to women and men.. all dep what u shared.. and what the future so has to offer.. Link to comment
symbiot Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 I think it depends on the person. I know a few of my girlfriends never regret their decision to breakup with their ex-boyfriends and would never go back. I think this is mainly due to the fact that they found someone new that they loved even more and realized their ex's were not a good fit. If this process repeats over and over how much are they putting into it? Link to comment
gluestick Posted September 23, 2011 Author Share Posted September 23, 2011 If this process repeats over and over how much are they putting into it? I don't think you fall deeply in love with everyone you date. Some you really like, some are rebounds, and only a few you truly deeply loved and you only put in your best effort for those you truly loved. I think it also depends on your emotional maturity and age. Link to comment
symbiot Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 I don't think you fall in love with everyone you date but you should NEVER use another person as a rebound! EVER! I also agree that maturity have a lot to do with it. And just for the record I put everything I can into everything I do ALWAYS. Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 I think it depends on the circumstances, some may and some may not. I can say that i have not realized what I lost when I was the dumper because I was looking for something different. Link to comment
zccr3279 Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 I wonder the same thing about women. Wondering the same thing as well...especially with my recent situation... Link to comment
Melting Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 When I have dumped a man, it has always been for a good reason and I have never looked back. Link to comment
ShoreSea Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 A few I released I later thought, wow, what a great one I had, why did I let him go? The answer, I was stupid and not ready. Now they are happy and in the world doing fine without me, and I am still picking up the pieces. Dumpers get served to some degree, never forget that. Link to comment
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