reboundstudent Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 I've been debating on another forum about what exactly constitutes a "date" and constitutes a "hang out with a new friend." My rule of thumb is that if by the third time I've hung out with a guy (alone) and he hasn't made any physical move, I would assume he was not interested and move on. I've been out with two guys, three times each, which I did not count as dates for this reason. (I was initially interested in them and hopeful, but eventually gave up.) I also didn't count them as dates after a while because: -They did not contact me in between, except to set up the next one -They never stated it was a date or said anything along the lines of "I like you" "I am interested in you" etc. -Both of them talked about other girls; one complained about the hot girls never really went for him, and the other complained about women throw themselves at him -Again, no physical contact except a hug at the end of hanging out -Didn't really ask me about myself -We paid for our coffee/movie/dinner (I occasionally paid for both because they'd driven and I thought it was fair.) To me, all of that signals that they're not really interested in dating, but don't mind me as a platonic friend. Other people say that it just means the guy is shy/awkward, and that I am jumping to conclusions. What do you guys think? Link to comment
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