What do I do....help please

[jifeak]

I have been separated from my soon 2 b x husband

for a year and have not had a serious person in my life.

I 've just started dating for real and am seeing someone

nice. (only been on a second date). My problem is that

I've secretly adored my physical training instructor

(who's got a girlfriend and two kids) for

sometime. He's a great guy, looks good and we've got on very well. But I've always thought this was infatuation

and that once I've started dating someone. Unfortunately,

I find that it's not getting any better with time and

I'm fancying him more. I made a decision to stop

attending his classes and informed him. He asked why

and since I didn't have any cogent reason, I told him

I didn't like his way of teaching and that I'm having

to many issues in my life now to continue with the programme.

I was even a bit rude in the process. He seemed very bewildered and hurt.

He doesn't know I like him to bits and wished we could be more.

I think I should apologize for my behaviour but should I tell him

about the fact it's too painful to be near someone I cant have

so regularly? I feel I want to have a relationship but attending

his classes will distract me from putting all in any new guy I may

decide to go with. I want to know, should I just tell him the truth

or keep mum?

[lonelyandblue]

I don't think I would say anything, seeing as how he already has a girl friend. You should apologize for the rude behavior though. Just say you were overwhelmed at the time you spoke with him. Later, if he brakes up with his girlfriend, you might have an opportunity. But for now, try to get your own boyfriend and enjoy your new life.

[Beec]

I would apologize, but not tell him why. If you cannot tell him without explaining, then stay mum.

 

In this case, and in few cases woudl I say this, a short, carefully worded note might be a good idea.

[jifeak]

Thank u both 4 ur input. I've had a think myself and have come to the conclusion that there's no point in giving useless information that does nothing but complicate things. I'll apologize for being rude and leave it at that.

 

thanks again