Blondiegirl Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 I am seeing this guy he likes me and he said he wants kids but quite frankly I do not. Isn't kinda early to decide that?? I mean we are both young people. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 I know many people don't agree with me, but if you are sure and he is sure, I wouldn't waste my time. Link to comment
SicFounder Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 I've dated a few women that want kids. And I can tell you, if you're looking for something serious, then you're wasting your time. Eventually he'll end it when he realizes you really do not want kids and he doesn't want to wait any longer. Link to comment
Blondiegirl Posted July 11, 2011 Author Share Posted July 11, 2011 Also another weird thing he isn't into passionate kissing. He will kiss me on the cheek and stuff and we have great sex but he doesn't like kissing. I asked him and he said when the mood is right. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 Not only wasting your time, but your sexual energy. Link to comment
Stampedingwolf Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 ...I'd probably wait. Better off having kids at a time that you can actually support them with proper housing and raising. Until then, prepare for it, and enjoy being around each other. = ) Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 Not only wasting your time, but your sexual energy. That was very funny, Darcy. Bottom line, if your core values aren't compatible, then you're setting yourself up for heartache. There's also something wrong with a guy who won't kiss you on the mouth, but has no problem nailing you. It's called intimacy issues... Link to comment
Blondiegirl Posted July 11, 2011 Author Share Posted July 11, 2011 That's what I said. I am confused.... I've actually heard of guys not wanting to kiss but this one is a first. He does kiss me just not passionate kissing. Peck here and there but passionate kissing no...... Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 My uncle married a girl a long time ago. Found out later on, she simply refused to have kids. She just didnt want them. As in, ever. Guess what, he divorced her and married a lovely new lady who now has given him 3 kids. (i personally do not want kids either but that is just my choice) As for not wanting to passionately kiss a girl... what guy would not want to do that?? Link to comment
Blondiegirl Posted July 11, 2011 Author Share Posted July 11, 2011 Maybe he is a bad kisser?? Maybe he has intimacy issues?? Maybe he has been burned to many times?? I do not know. I asked and he said when the mood is right. Sex is great kissing eh not too much. Link to comment
abitbroken Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 Depends. If he is 18 years old, I would give things a little time. See how you feel. at that age, p eople can change radically. I adamantly did not want kids at 20, but can't wait to have them in my 30s. If you are both in your 30s, then I would say that you aren't compatible. But like I say, if you are 18-21, have fun dating and see how you feel in awhile or who knows maybe it will be decided for you because you decide to end it over other reasons. But if he really wants them and you are sure you never will, don't continue a long term relationship because it will just be harder later. But if your goal is to just go out and date - have at it. Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 Maybe he is a bad kisser?? Maybe he has intimacy issues?? Maybe he has been burned to many times?? I do not know. I asked and he said when the mood is right. Sex is great kissing eh not too much. Personally, I never get to the sex part with this much unknown about core things. If you're very young and stay long enough together for making a family to become a make-or-break issue, rather than just a hypothetical one, you'll be together for a LONG time -- maybe 10 years? And how will you feel knowing you've spent 10 years with someone who wants something you don't and your visions of the future are different? Unless you plan on possibly being the one to change your view, be prepared for him not to, either. Because ONE of you would have to change drastically, to join the other. I will also add that I've seen people who didn't want children change their mind. I've never seen people who really wanted them change their mind. My suggestion would be to end this now. It's one thing to go into a relationship with two people unsure -- it's another to go in having firmly-planted views that already oppose eachother in something so important. Link to comment
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