Advice about the healing process for you

[Nappyloxs]

I have been on here since October last year.

 

My ex. and I really broke up in August of 2009. I have done every thing 30 day challenge, letters, flowers, romantic CDs, emails, texts, therapy, couples counseling, etc........

 

My ex and I have been on and off (at her convenience) since then. We broke up at about the 2.5 year mark. (I read somewhere 50% of couples break up in year two).

 

March of 2011 will have been 4 years of knowing her. It will be about 1.5 years of us being broken up and me still pining for her.

 

The point I am trying to make was that last year and even earlier this year, I was like we were together for 2 years. We have been together 3 years off and on. etc....... Now it is going on 4 years. It flew by.

 

Don't get stuck like me where you are thinking of them constantly (like many others when I move on, then they want to suck me back in and kick me out at their convenience). Before you know it, it will be 3 months, 6 months, a year. Live your life now, not in the past and not for the future (to a degree).

 

Time really does fly and you (and I) are missing on so many great opportunities.

[savignon]

Well said!! Sounds like you're finding it's time to move on. Good for you and best wishes in 2011.

[ForumGuy]

This is why going NC is so important. Being strung out and spinning in the same place after all that time. Good for you for realizing this.

[browneyedgirl36]

Good advice. I have been where you are, except it's been even longer for me. I can't go NC without quitting my job (which I will never do), but there are things I could have (and should have) done to not keep getting sucked back in. Too much time spent pining and longing that can never be gotten back...

[Live-N-Learn]

I here ya loud and clear. Been stuck for 11 months and am finally letting go and getting out. It has been hell.

[Snowy]

Nice advice!