I dumped him because I loved him too much

[shandi]

He sent it.

 

He replied to my email by sending this:

"Why did you send me that link about Viagra? to begin with, that was kind of weird,and random. I don't like B.S email games."

 

So, he must have gotten one of those weird spam emails about viagra from me. I've never heard of such a thing, but I guess it happens. So, I send this email:

 

"Really.. do you think I would send you a viagra link? That's not my style. It never has been and never will be. If you ever get some kind of weird email, appearing to be from me, it is NOT. Obviously someone in your life is messing with you. It's not me. If you have anything that looks like it came from me, forward it to me. I would like to see it.

 

And not even your "ass" email would make me retaliate by sending something hurtful to you. That just isn't in my heart. I honestly cared about you. Sending that email was a heartless thing to do. I know what my ass looks like. Which is why I'm running like crazy so that the next guy won't have an excuse for cheating on me. I haven't run in years. I'm actually starting to enjoy it. I'm not going to waste money on liposuction. The right guy will come along who loves me regardless. Thanks"

 

Thing is, I'm not fat. You're all probably thinking I'm obese at this point but trust me, at most I'm about 15 pounds over my ideal weight. Yeah, my ass could use some tightening after all I'm 41 years old and I have a desk job. The running is working. My butt already looks fuller and tighter.

 

I'm not an ugly person. I'll post a real photo of me on my profile when I get home. Yes, we should all be physically attracted to our mates. Yes, guys are more visual but... I'm no SHREK. I'm not 21 any more. You can't expect perfection at my age.

 

He was with me for almost a year. How did he manage to get through all those months if the sight of my jiggly butt disgusted him?

[Halflife]

Shandi, so you unknowingly sent him a link about Viagra and he has now admitted to revenge with the Brazilian link? That at least makes some sense. If it's true, it just shows he was naive and a little stupid to assume you humanly sent it rather than a spammer using your email but that at least explains his actions. I would put this down to a misunderstanding turned nasty rather than it simply being an unprovoked malicious act on his part.

 

I used to get spam from my sister's email, they look like they are geniuinely sent from her email, and when I told her, she discovered a computer virus was responsible. So I recommend you get yourself scanned

[shandi]

halflife: If he sends me the so called "viagra" email from me I'll send that one to you for dissection. The "ass" email was from him as retaliation for the viagra BS. This is absolutely ridiculous! I feel like a freak'n teenager playing "he said/she said" games. This is not the expected maturity level of adults in their 40's.

[Halflife]

Shandi, good idea. But look, if he is telling the truth then you have to consider that he may have actually felt like he was in your position - hurt by the fact that your first contact to him was actually you taking the piss out of him. At least that would show he cared about you to some degree but that's the ideal scenario and could easily be wrong.

 

Personally, I'd withhold judgement until he provides the evidence or fails to do so but I don't know him, so whatever

[shandi]

So, getting something about viagra is hurtful enough to a guy to attack her "ass"? I don't get it. If he cared about me, he would have sent a message similar to mine. Say, "Thanks for the viagra advice but my "***" works just fine!" Why go for the jugular (or the ass in this case)?

 

Halflife, is this really a normal response for a man? Would you ever do this to a woman you remotely cared about given the same circumstances?

 

And yes, I'll consider getting "scanned" it's better and cheaper than getting "lipo'd".

[Halflife]

Would I do it? No. Is it a normal response from a mature adult man? Probably not. But from everything you've told us in this thread, your ex doesn't seem particularly mature and intelligent (sorry if I'm speaking out of turn). So his naivety and immaturity may have lead him to believe you actually made this attack and therefore his childlike defence mechanism was to give back what you dished out.

 

So I see this as a realistic scenario right now and although I don't know him, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt until he provides evidence or fails to do so.

 

I take back my comment about him possibly caring - I think it's too difficult to judge simply based on that reaction.

 

BTW, this is a great free anti-virus: link removed

[shandi]

Thanks for the link. I'll check it out when I get home. But you know what... it just occurred to me that he sent this to my work email. He most likely go the virus from my work email not my personal email. Maybe I should have our IT department check it out. Not professional if this is happening to my other contacts. Wow!

 

I also think I'm going to print out his little brazilian email and tape it to the console of my treadmill. Just the inspiration I need to run my ass off.

[Halflife]

I also think I'm going to print out his little brazilian email and tape it to the console of my treadmill. Just the inspiration I need to run my ass off.

Love it!

 

We are both on a fitness mission it seems. Nearly vomited last night from overdoing the exercise. I want to look my best when I meet my ex but if I don't get her back, at least I'll be in a good position for dating.

[shandi]

Yeah, this morning while on the treadmill, my heart wanted to burst through my chest. Even the backs of my hands were sweating. I want to look my best too even if it's not going to be for the ex. This last bit of hatred sours my stomach. I don't think I'm going to want reconciliation after this. I'll let you know if he sends anything else but I think I've heard the last from him.

 

NC for 2 months and this is how the silence ends?

[sadchick83]

You are Hot!!!!

[shandi]

Thanks Sadchick. I really appreciate the encouragement. I'm not hot yet but will be after a few more months of running. I just wanted to prove that I haven't really let myself go as this jerk would have me believe. He took that photo of me about four months ago.

 

I found an article on google about trojan emails stealing your email address and spamming viagra to everyone in your contact list. I sent the article to him as proof that I DID NOT send him the viagra email.

 

I doubt he will respond. Guys like him don't apologize. I doubt I will hear another word about it.