grayclouds Posted June 1, 2010 Share Posted June 1, 2010 I'm an 18 year old female (college student) and there's this man who's probably 30 something possibly even 40 (I'm not exactly sure of his age even though he doesn't look old) who's a neighbor of mine. We live in the same apartment building and is someone that I see every now and then. He's married with kids and trust me, I understand that married man are OFF LIMITS but, I've been thinking that this man may be attracted to me and/or flirting with me even though I am NOT interested in him. We don't know anything too personal about one another. Not even each others' names but here's why I think he may be attracted to me/flirting with me: Every time he sees me, he says hi and I know that it's no big deal for neighbors to say hello to one another but this guy will pretty much go out of his way to say hi to me. For example, he sees me but I don't see him, and he'll still call out something like "Hey girl! How you doing?!" even if I'm like 10 feet away from him. He's always being nice to me and to my dad who I'm really close with and live with. He also stares at me and if/when I catch him staring at me, he won't look away. Instead he'll try to hold eye contact with me. He has actually held eye contact with me longer than you normally would hold eye contact with someone. He always looks at me as I was walk past him. Whenever he sees me, he seems to find something to say even if it's silly and unimportant. Sometimes, I can't help but think that he does it to try and grab my attention. Whenever he gets the chance to, he tries to make small talk and when we talk the conversation is pretty much always about me. One day, as I was walking outside while he was driving past, he saw me and wouldn't take his eyes off of me until he had driven too far ahead to keep looking. Mind you, I wasn't even wearing anything revealing just a fitted t-shirt and jeans. One time, as I was entering the building, he held the door open for me and as I was walking through the door, he reached over and touched the hair that was by my face with his hand. I was so shocked, confused, and uncomfortable that I just walked away without saying anything or even looking at him. Then, another time when he and I saw each other we had a small conversation and when our conversation ended he suggested that I give him my email address. This wasn't the first time that he implied that he wanted my email address (he had done it before a couple of years ago). A few weeks after that, I was on my way out one morning with my dad. He said good morning to my dad as he greeted him with a handshake and then proceeded to greet me the same way. The difference was that when he shook my hand, he wouldn't stop looking at me, he gave my hand a slight and gentle squeeze, and held my hand a little longer. It felt as if he didn't want to let go of my hand. There was also this time when I was going out and he was accross the street from me. He seemed distracted but as soon as he saw me, he went "oooh" and seemed really happy to see me (again, I wasn't wearing revealing clothing (I never do) just a simple fitted jeans and fitted shirt). His face just lit up. The last thing that happened (or at least the last one I can remember) was when we ran into each other at a gas station. I was sitting in the passenger seat of the car I was in, with the window closed as he parked his car right next to the one I was in. He kept looking at me the whole time and even playfully stuck his tongue out at me once. I tried my best to ignore him but, I could just feel his eyes on me the whole time. Even when he was paying for the stuff he bought, he kept turning to look back at me. He also didn't leave till I waved good-bye to him. Now, sometimes I feel/think that maybe he's just being friendly and I'm just being a paranoid 18 year old that's over- analyzing stuff but...then I add up all of his actions and the way he looks at me and I just can't help but think that he may be attracted to me/flirting with me. There's just something about the look in his eyes when he looks at me that makes my gut feel like he's more than just friendly. Anyway, I guess what I want you guys to answer is: Do you think that I'm just maybe misinterpreting the situation? And that maybe he IS just being friendly and nothing more? If you DO think that he's attracted to me/flirting with me, what do you think his intentions are? Any tips/advice on how I can may be handle this situation. I've thought about telling another adult in my family or something but I'm afraid they won't believe me if I tell them about my suspicions because he's a nice guy and doesn't seem/look like a creep or anything like that. I've also thought about telling a friend of mine but I'm pretty sure that I won't be able to get a mature response from her (or anyone else) without getting something along the lines of "Eww, he's a creep". Sorry for making this post so long but I really need some opinions and advice. Thank you guys. Link to comment
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