Mauxly Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 So I’ve been on here long enough to gather that the friendzone makes men quiver in their shoes. And I don’t really get it. Personally my best relationships have started out as friends. The ones where we had that instant mutual physical spark were the ones that wound up going down in flames because we didn’t have a solid friendship foundation. That isn’t to say that every male friend I have is going to turn into a romantic interest, but it can happen, I just need a little time to figure them/us out before I get physical. It seems that people want to rush into things with people they don’t really know. And by the time we get to know them our hearts/egos/neither regions are on the line so we wind up clinging to unhealthy relationships. But heaven forbid we be friends right? I guess another thing that bothers me are the men who want to date me/sleep with me, but get irritated if I want to be friends. Wait a minute, I’m good enough to bed down, but not good enough to be friends if I don’t bed you down? Can you see how that would make us feel a little objectified? And yeah, I’ve been friendzoned by a few men that I adored. Was I disappointed? Of course! Did I resent them or think something was wrong with them…OK…yeah…for like a minute I thought, “Oh he must be gay” and then I got over myself. I’m now wonderful friends with these obviously straight men who just weren’t into me like that. The anti-friendzone brigade makes me kind of sad. Maybe I’m simply out of touch? Maybe I don’t get it? I can tell you that there is a lot about dating that I do not understand/abide by. Link to comment
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