eleanorrigby1 Posted May 7, 2010 Share Posted May 7, 2010 We have a 16 month old toddler and we are expecting another in the Autumn. At the moment our evenings consist of my partner getting home from work, eating our dinner together and then at 7pm our daughter goes to bed. After that we just watch the TV together until about 10pm and then we go to bed.. and this monotonous routine seems inescapable because our daughter has to/wants to go to bed at 7pm. In the summer we find it especially hard because the sun is glorious outside and it seems to early to be stuck in.. we don't have anyone to babysit as family live far away (and the family that live close by have their own lives and tend to babysit only on very special occasions when asked MAJORLY in advance!) My partner just had a bit of a moan to me out of the blue about how 'horrific' this is and its just 'existing' and how he just wants to 'get through this poo' until the babies are older and we can do stuff with them.. I felt upset because I don't want him thinking of our life with our small children as something he has to 'get through' and wishing their little lives away.. but what can we do to enjoy them in the evenings when we have so llittle time. We do tend to make the most of our weekends, but even then everything has to revolve around naps and food, my daughter likes to nap for an hour and a half in the afternoons so if we want to go out for the day we need to get their early to make sure she is awake enough to enjoy it before she naps after lunch.. sometimes it feels like the morning is a mad panic to get out of the door to make the day 'worthwhile' ..and then the afternoons spent checking we have enough time to get home in time for dinner, bath and bed. There is no spontenaety and very little fun in our lives at the moment and its making me sad. Having a family was something we always wanted to do and talked about and now it feels like having a family is 'getting in the way' of life.. if that makes sense? Dont get me wrong we adore our daughter sooooo much and I wouldnt swap her for the world! Its just what do other families do? do you all just sit in night after night.... Link to comment
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