well that was embarrassing.

[babii doll]

my fiancee was trying to get me to deepthroat him earlier. which is like mission impossible, but he has his goal and his need to want me to DT him for some reason so i play along with it. no pun intended.

 

he was pushing my head to go in deeper which i dont mind but i started to feel like i was gonna puke so i stopped for a second. he pushed for me to go deeper again and this time i barfed all over him and myself and busted out laughing, so did he, in shock.

 

he was a little horrified but i just got a towel and cleaned up, i dont know what it is. but i cant for the life of me take it all in. how can i stop myself from getting that feeling? i have a terrible gag reflex.

[sophie274]

Embarrassing? If I were him I would feel mortified and terrible that I'd pushed for something so much that my fiancee threw up in the process! If I were you I'd feel a little traumatized and not keen to try again soon.

 

I don't have any tips, but I think it might just be unrealistic, and I think that act is something that occurs mostly in porn movies and rarely in real life. Most women can't do it, and I think your fiance should accept that and stop pushing to such a degree. Why don't you just do as much as you can, and maybe if you get used to the sensation over time try to go a bit further and further each time, but otherwise just accept it might just never happen. Not a big deal!

[babii doll]

you mustve missed the part where i said i dont mind being pushed. i like when he pushes me to do it. im all for gagging. puking is a different story. ive felt like i had to puke before but ive always been able to control it and pull away if i felt it coming. this time there was no stopping it obviously.

 

ive never had a problem dating in my past experiences so i guess its bothering me a bit that i cant with him.

[Mauxly]

Oh the image! Brain bleach anyone?

 

I disagree with Sophie. Sounds like you were having some good clean mutual fun…until it wasn’t…

[sophie274]

you mustve missed the part where i said i dont mind being pushed. i like when he pushes me to do it. im all for gagging. puking is a different story. ive felt like i had to puke before but ive always been able to control it and pull away if i felt it coming. this time there was no stopping it obviously.

 

ive never had a problem dating in my past experiences so i guess its bothering me a bit that i cant with him.

 

Oh I didn't mean that he was taking advantage of you or that you weren't up for it. I realize it came off that way ... I just meant you have nothing to be embarrassed about by throwing up AND that you are pushing too hard by trying too much at once, you know? I think you need to do more baby steps than push yourself so far out of your comfort zone that you end up throwing up, as it sounds (to me) a bit traumatizing (I hate throwing up).

 

If you've done it before, you can take that knowledge and try to relax your frustration and figure you'll get there eventually with him. I think baby steps.

[annie24]

lol. i'm laughing a little bit!!!! i mean, that's horrible. but i don't think that deep throating is really a great idea, i mean, it's in porn but i don't think that every woman can do it, with every guy. clearly he hit your vagus nerve which caused you to throw up.

 

there is a good book i found a few years ago. it has lots of sex tips including some interesting tips for oral sex and hand jobs, really creative stuff! like using your hair (I have very long hair) or pearl necklaces around his member. interesting stuff.

 

"How to be a great lover: Girlfriend to girlfriend totally explicit techniques that will blow his mind."

 

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[kenshinkitten]

This has always been a fear of mine...

 

Sorry to hear this happened to you.

[OptomisticGirl]

I'm going to have to check that book out Annie!

 

lol, I have to say babii doll that I did laugh. I laughed with you, not at you though girl. Yeah the gag reflex is a horrible reflex, isn't it? Is he much larger then the past ones you have DT? That would be the only reason I could think of that you were able to do it before and not now.

 

I heard lying on the bed with you head off it and doing it that way helps.. I don't see how but I have heard it does. One of my girlfriends told us once that if you work at it slowly your gag reflex will get use to it. Like go down lower then you normally would each time and stay there for a few minutes, get use to the feeling. Go back to normal depth and keep repeating.

[Cardinal]

I think you will succeed simply because of your positive attitude and the fact that you both can laugh about it.

 

Many women that fail, fail because they are afraid to try what you just tried boldly.

 

Some girls practice on their own time to get used to the feeling. i.e. with dildo or whatever helps get past the gag reflex. I am sure your partner won't mind you learning with him really frequently too though.

 

After surgery, people are often given ice to chew on. Makes regurgitation a bit less likely.

[babii doll]

there is a good book i found a few years ago. it has lots of sex tips including some interesting tips for oral sex and hand jobs, really creative stuff! like using your hair (I have very long hair) or pearl necklaces around his member. interesting stuff.

 

"How to be a great lover: Girlfriend to girlfriend totally explicit techniques that will blow his mind."

 

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thanks annie ill check it out.

[IphigeniaSaysHi]

This has happened to me

I feel ya. It was ridiculous lol!

[babii doll]

lol no worries. it is the worst! i think hes a bit larger which makes it more complicated. it was alot easier to DT in most of my past experiences, the gag reflex was not an issue then.

 

i was sitting on the couch while he was standing when this happened, but ill try lying in bed next time with holding for a few mins. it couldnt hurt to try something else. one of these days i will reach the finish line!

[Jd1983]

LOL. This happened to me once as well. My bf felt so bad about it, I was a little grossed out at first, but I soon got over it.

 

Sex is messy sometimes, so don't worry about it.

 

A trick that I use now - when you find yourself about to gag and you can't handle it, use your hands and push his thighs when he's forcing your head down more. This way you won't actually have to tell him to stop, and yet you can still continue to go down on him at your pace.. well until he gets carried away again.

[Mercurial Girl]

Try the shower. I can deep throat like its nobody's business under a hot stream of water...start off with some hot foreplay as well, the hot water and the excitement make for total relaxation. Result: great deep throat capabilities.

[teabee]

That's hilarious/embarrassing! This is something I worry about when I'm deepthroating. Always a good sign when you have the kind of relationship where you both can laugh and move on

 

Try opening your throat up like you're about to yawn or like you're holding an orange back there. If you try this on his member, you might have to loosen your grip with your lips to maintain that openness in your throat, but it should still be enjoyable for him.

[Chris Knows]

If I am not mistaken, they sell something at sex shops called 'No Gag'. Specifically designed to help in this kind of instance.

 

Had similar issues, bought some, problem solved.

[InvisibleWound]

my fiancee was trying to get me to deepthroat him earlier. which is like mission impossible, but he has his goal and his need to want me to DT him for some reason so i play along with it. no pun intended.

 

he was pushing my head to go in deeper which i dont mind but i started to feel like i was gonna puke so i stopped for a second. he pushed for me to go deeper again and this time i barfed all over him and myself and busted out laughing, so did he, in shock.

 

he was a little horrified but i just got a towel and cleaned up, i dont know what it is. but i cant for the life of me take it all in. how can i stop myself from getting that feeling? i have a terrible gag reflex.

 

wow that sounds like a messy situation for the both of you, sorry to hear.

 

If my boyfriend pushes my head to fast I half gag I guess. Through giving him many blowjobs and practising, I am now able to fully DT. However if he messes me up in any way, (forcing or pushing my head to hard) then I gag/choke.

 

It took me a long time to get my mouth used/relaxed to taking it all in. And even after I do that I can't keep it all in for anymore then maybe 10 seconds.

 

My advice would be to practise just taking a little bit more in each time... That is what I did. Unfortunitly some people really do just have sucky gag reflexes. its hard to try and control.

[Day_Walker]

The experience itself was interesting to say the least but you two laughed about it and now you know your limit.

 

I have known girls who have said that they "worked" on their gag reflex and were able to overcome it. I have known girls who just didnt have a gag reflex at all. I think that you should just do some research and find a method that will make your gag reflex less strong.

[maggie_rae]

I mean seriously you can only go down on it so far before the gag reflex kicks in and then having your head pushed down on it farther thats a for sure vomit action!

[G-Snap]

my fiancee was trying to get me to deepthroat him earlier. which is like mission impossible, but he has his goal and his need to want me to DT him for some reason so i play along with it. no pun intended.

 

he was pushing my head to go in deeper which i dont mind but i started to feel like i was gonna puke so i stopped for a second. he pushed for me to go deeper again and this time i barfed all over him and myself and busted out laughing, so did he, in shock.

 

he was a little horrified but i just got a towel and cleaned up, i dont know what it is. but i cant for the life of me take it all in. how can i stop myself from getting that feeling? i have a terrible gag reflex.

 

Well hopefully that will teach him to be a bit more respectful? Tell him you are not a pornstar.

[babii doll]

Well hopefully that will teach him to be a bit more respectful? Tell him you are not a pornstar.

 

as stated before. i dont mind him pushing me or gagging. its not his fault, i gave him the go ahead. nothin to do with 'respect'

[babii doll]

If I am not mistaken, they sell something at sex shops called 'No Gag'. Specifically designed to help in this kind of instance.

 

Had similar issues, bought some, problem solved.

 

non gag? never heard of it. ill check it out. thnx everyone for the feedback

[G-Snap]

as stated before. i dont mind him pushing me or gagging. its not his fault, i gave him the go ahead. nothin to do with 'respect'

 

No, i get what you are saying. But I mean, come on, maybe he will realize you are not a machine by this episode? I know you don't mind the rough play, but ..... you aren't a porn star. You might have an 'episode'. As evidenced by your thread.