wazza Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 I met a girl online a few days ago accidentally and I think she's pretty cool. Last night was a somewhat awkward IM session cause I was tired and distracted, but then again I often feel less confident about myself in those situations than I should. Today she texted me an hour before we were supposed to meet up saying she was feeling sick and that we'd reschedule, and apologized for the short notice. I'm hoping that the vow to reschedule is genuine. Do you think I should believe her or just move on? Link to comment
JenniferSNJ Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 I'd believe her unless it didn't go anywhere. Why cross someone off so early in the game? It doesn't hurt either way. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 I would believe her for now but if she doesn't reschedule in the near future, move on. Link to comment
Mutley Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 A broken date is a deal breaker in my book. UNLESS they offer an alternate date right away. Why were you IMing when you were supposed to meet today? Disapear before the first date, so you don't give them a reason to cancel on you. Link to comment
wazza Posted May 22, 2009 Author Share Posted May 22, 2009 That's what I thought but she IMed me so I went with it Link to comment
wazza Posted May 22, 2009 Author Share Posted May 22, 2009 If she doesn't contact me to reschedule within the next couple of days should I say anything like "so when should we blah blah blah" or should I just take that as a rejection? Link to comment
pinkrobot Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 A broken date is a deal breaker in my book. UNLESS they offer an alternate date right away. Agreed. If I really was feeling sick and cancelled a date, the first thing I'd do (if I was truly interested) is offer up my next available day/night so they'd know I was being genuine about not feeling well. Link to comment
JenniferSNJ Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 You can text her or call her again, but if she doesn't jump to set it up or seem receptive to it, then let it go. Link to comment
Mutley Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 Well, live and learn. Next chick who does this, tell her you'd JUST LOVE to talk, but you really gotta go!! Link to comment
pinkrobot Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 If she doesn't contact me to reschedule within the next couple of days should I say anything like "so when should we blah blah blah" or should I just take that as a rejection? Personally, I'd take it as a rejection. Since she's the one who cancelled, she should be the one to initiate the next available time to get together. Link to comment
Mutley Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 I wouldn't call her. That's called leading with the chin. Link to comment
KG Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 I'd give it a few more days....but I'm an optimist! Link to comment
JenniferSNJ Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 I wouldn't call her. That's called leading with the chin. what does that mean?! Link to comment
Mutley Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 what does that mean?! Take a risk, behave without caution. For example, Gordon always says exactly what he thinks; he never minds leading with his chin. This term alludes to a boxer leaving his chin, a vulnerable point, unprotected. [Mid-1900s] Link to comment
wazza Posted May 22, 2009 Author Share Posted May 22, 2009 no not yet but she keeps reassuring me that she's truly ill and immobile in bed. I'm on the fence with this one Link to comment
JenniferSNJ Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 Take a risk, behave without caution. For example, Gordon always says exactly what he thinks; he never minds leading with his chin. This term alludes to a boxer leaving his chin, a vulnerable point, unprotected. [Mid-1900s] That was pretty fascinating. I'm glad I asked!!! Thanks for explaining. Link to comment
JenniferSNJ Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 no not yet but she keeps reassuring me that she's truly ill and immobile in bed. I'm on the fence with this one I suppose this could be true. People do get sick. OR MAYBE- She got a bad hair cut! ahh hahhahaha Okay, sorry. See CD's post. Seriously speaking though, maybe she just isn't in the mood. I have wanted to cancel dates because I'm not "in the mood" for that type of thing (although I force myself to go through with it)... maybe that's what she is feeling. If she agrees to meet up again though then I say good. Maybe you can just ask her when she would like to reschedule. If she really wanted to see you, she would be happy to reschedule now. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 no not yet but she keeps reassuring me that she's truly ill and immobile in bed. I'm on the fence with this one i'd tell her 'call me when you feel better and we will set something up' and leave it at that. find other girls. Link to comment
Mlost Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 Agreed. If I really was feeling sick and cancelled a date, the first thing I'd do (if I was truly interested) is offer up my next available day/night so they'd know I was being genuine about not feeling well. Maybe if you're feeling sick, the most pressing thought in your head is ... being sick, not your social life. Just because they don't offer detailed plans for a raincheck doesn't mean they aren't interested in the future. Let them get back to equilibrium before any assumptions are made. And there's nothing wrong with one follow-up. "Hey, hope you're feeling better. When are you free this week?" After that, as it was brilliantly put, is "leading with the chin." Link to comment
Mutley Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 That was pretty fascinating. I'm glad I asked!!! Thanks for explaining. You're welcome!!! Link to comment
pinkrobot Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 I suppose this could be true. People do get sick. OR MAYBE- She got a bad hair cut! ahh hahhahaha Okay, sorry. See CD's post. Ha! That was my good laugh for the work day. Link to comment
JenniferSNJ Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 Maybe if you're feeling sick, the most pressing thought in your head is ... being sick, not your social life. Just because they don't offer detailed plans for a raincheck doesn't mean they aren't interested in the future. Let them get back to equilibrium before any assumptions are made. And there's nothing wrong with one follow-up. "Hey, hope you're feeling better. When are you free this week?" After that, as it was brilliantly put, is "leading with the chin." completely agree. follow up and if she isn't receptive to that then she isn't interested. But don't discard her for this. It's so early in the game you can't really tell. Link to comment
annie24 Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 no not yet but she keeps reassuring me that she's truly ill and immobile in bed. I'm on the fence with this one in that case, well, i might send her an email or a text in a few days to see if she is feeling better. i agree that she should offer an alternative time to meet if she is truly interested. i agree with not IMing at length with anyone. especially if you are meeting up that night! Link to comment
pinkelephant Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 ya, text her back and say hope you feel better. be concerned, or at least act like it. it'll get you brownie points. Link to comment
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