sandrawg Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Ok-I joke about being a cougar, but I'm 41 and I am seeing two guys--one is 25, one is 27. Being an older woman dating much younger men comes with its own set of issues...is there anyone else on the forum in this situation who can relate to me? Link to comment
indierockgrl Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 i am 34 and i like someone much younger..... um.... much. i wont say how much exactly... but its like 15 years... so yeah, although i dont classify as a cougar yet. maybe a "puma" Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Why do cougars like younger guys... i mean i know to a degree. when i was 19 and 21 i dated a 30 and 34 yr old... but wanna know more.. just curios... Link to comment
Sweet Venus Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 I'm in my thirties too. I think we like younger guys for the same reasons older men like younger women. They make us feel younger, they are good arm candy and the uhhhhh sex is good...LOL Link to comment
lavenderdove Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 I dated someone 7 years younger and married someone 5 years younger, so not sure if that exactly qualifies for a cougar or not. I didn't specifically seek out younger men, we were just attracted to each other and dated. I did have someone 15 years younger interested in me, but to be honest, i'm not interested in boy-men, more men-men. So i turned them down... i felt that we were just at different maturity levels so didn't have that much in common emotionally. But a lot depends why you're dating them... if you just want to have fun then enjoy, but i think if you're looking for a serious life partner you want to stay within about 10 years of your own age for best results. Link to comment
indierockgrl Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Why do cougars like younger guys... i mean i know to a degree. when i was 19 and 21 i dated a 30 and 34 yr old... but wanna know more.. just curios... For me, this just fell in ..... i dont usually like much younger men myself... this guy is just very mature to me... and we clicked. Link to comment
NextTime Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 When I was 31 I dated guy who was 24. The 7 year age difference was really hard for me. In the end I couldn't do it. I was too uncomfortable with it. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 i thought a cougar was someone over 30... Link to comment
rocio Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 i thought a cougar was someone over 30... haha, this is a joke right? Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 see i always saw it as... for the guys it was mainly about looks and sexs.... and for the women it was more about the younger guy wasnt set in his way as much easier to mold so to say.. much more active and fun.. made them feel younger.. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 haha, this is a joke right? no. ........................... Link to comment
indierockgrl Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 i thought a cougar was someone over 30... i think that a cougar is over 40 actually... supposively the term for a woman over 30 dating younger men is "puma".... at least that is what i heard... Link to comment
TechResQ Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 I am 46 and dated a guy 8 years younger (may not be classified as a cougar, but he was still younger). I was OK with the age gap there, but then I had a 24 year old guy REALLY pursuing a relationship and that was WAY too young for me! Maybe if it was just a one time thing (or maybe 2 or 3!!! HA! with no attachment, I would be ok with it...but I think the age gap is too large to have anything in common with a person that young. But that's just me.. Link to comment
indierockgrl Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 see i always saw it as... for the guys it was mainly about looks and sexs.... and for the women it was more about the younger guy wasnt set in his way as much easier to mold so to say.. much more active and fun.. made them feel younger.. for me, i want an adventure.... i dont want a husband and i dont want serious.... i just want to have fun with someone who has that mentality as well. Link to comment
TechResQ Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 for me, i want an adventure.... i dont want a husband and i dont want serious.... i just want to have fun with someone who has that mentality as well. And that is GREAT! As long as both of you feel that way...I say go for it!! Jump his bones! lol Link to comment
COtuner Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 I haven't been very satisfied dating the younger guys myself (approaching 40). As friends, great, no problem and I enjoy their company. But it's really hard to relate long term to someone in their mid to early 20s because our priorities and interests are in different places. I also am quite conscious of the fact that no matter how good I look for my age, I'm not gonna compete with a sexy little 22 year old at a bar in a skintight, boob baring dress when I've just come home from a 14 hour day at work, dressed in a business suit, and not really in the mood to get trashed as the evening's entertainment. Sorry. Give me a guy closer to my own age. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 I thought at 25 you were a puma. I have been walking around calling myself a puma. I call my friend a cougar cause she's 32 and dates like 21 year olds. Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 for me, i want an adventure.... i dont want a husband and i dont want serious.... i just want to have fun with someone who has that mentality as well. Thats a good way to live it... Link to comment
rocio Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Why are you people hating on this woman? She didn't ask for your opinions. She simply put a call out for others who have something in common with her. Enough with the thread hijacking! Link to comment
indierockgrl Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 And that is GREAT! As long as both of you feel that way...I say go for it!! Jump his bones! lol i like the way you think......... Link to comment
blackgnat Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 I think I'm beginning to hate the term "cougar". I dated a 27 year old when I was 47-we got along great and the age difference was never an issue. Link to comment
indierockgrl Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 I thought at 25 you were a puma. I have been walking around calling myself a puma. I call my friend a cougar cause she's 32 and dates like 21 year olds. well i read someplace that its 30s... only because they called Drew Barrymore a puma and she and i are the same age... Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Ok-I joke about being a cougar, but I'm 41 and I am seeing two guys--one is 25, one is 27. Being an older woman dating much younger men comes with its own set of issues...is there anyone else on the forum in this situation who can relate to me? you don't look 41.... Link to comment
coldplay. Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 you don't look 41.... ill second that, ontop of the fact that it looks like you have some more 'character' than other 40 year olds. Link to comment
indierockgrl Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 link removed A definition from Urban dictionary - written by Generation Jones - (people born in the 80s and 90s). i guess im not a cougar then..... 35+ according to that.... eww.... i dont know if i like being referred like that anyway.... Link to comment
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