kate2660 Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Okay, my husband and I have been married for 11 months, together for seven years and living together for three. The past three years have been not so good: temper tantrums (him), heavy marijuana use (him), violent outbursts (him) and financial irresponsibility......and I also have my own set of issues: loss of attraction to him, not into having sex with him, going out with my girlfriends a lot, staying out late, and not to mention the years of babying him and his tantrums. Basically we are on a path to divorce or years and years of misery. I can't live like this, he doesn't want to either. thereforee, it is time for counseling. I made my first appointment with a counselor....he wouldn't come. He knows and even said we need to go, but he says he isn't ready. BOOOHOOO! You'll never be ready....really who is ever ready for counseling. Yea, it might be awkward and scary, but it is the ONLY answer in order for us to survive. So, I went by myself. Now, it is his turn to meet with our new counselor this coming week but he won't tell me what day to make the appointment yet b/c he isn't sure what his schedule is like.... he's just prolonging it as long as he can. What should I do? If he doesn't go, I have no choice but to go myself and try to work on ME. but the thing is.....what does that say about how he feels about this marriage if he cannot even try AT ALL? I'm so lost. I don't want to be 27 and divorced..... Link to comment
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