sunnysky2k Posted June 13, 2008 Share Posted June 13, 2008 A young man, married 3-4 years, has the one kid, and MD, affair with someone, I know. I am wondering why? Because I know he has a beautiful wife and seems sex is not the issue??? What's going on this young guy's mind? Link to comment
just M.E. Posted June 13, 2008 Share Posted June 13, 2008 People often cheat to satisfy their own ego, or feelings of insecurity that are fed by the attention of a new sexual partner. Those are only a couple of examples, many, many more but I would guess most of the reasons are from within the cheater, not external. Link to comment
annie24 Posted June 13, 2008 Share Posted June 13, 2008 hard to tell - we are not him! maybe he is feeling all the pressures of his work and job, the marriage isn't new and fresh and exciting anymore, and the affair gives him the rush he misses. maybe this woman is different from his wife somehow, so he has that 'variety thing' going on. maybe him and his wife are having problems at home that you don't know about? just thoughts.... Link to comment
littlestar Posted June 13, 2008 Share Posted June 13, 2008 don't always think what you see on the outside is really what is happening on the inside of any relationship, having said that, there is no excuse for cheating! Link to comment
Lastlaugh637 Posted June 13, 2008 Share Posted June 13, 2008 Well... It could be a number of things but men are not genetically and evolutionarily designed to be committed to one person. Its part of our make up to want sexual variety. Its not excuse for a man to do whatever he wants be it helps explain it a bit better. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted June 13, 2008 Share Posted June 13, 2008 Slice, That is such nonsense! I know numerous men, including my father, who have been married many years and remained faithful to their wives. This genetic crap is yet another excuse to go outside the marriage for sex. We all need to be responsible for the choices we make in life!!!! Link to comment
d24 Posted June 13, 2008 Share Posted June 13, 2008 We all need to be responsible for the choices we make in life!!!! I agree with slice 100%, it's unnatural to expect anyone to be monogamous - it goes againt our instinct. But I agree with you holly, that if you make the commintment you need to be responsible. who knows what's going on in this guy's head or private life... there could be reasons, but in order to satisy his desire for variety he needs to end things with his ex. I also get a strong feeling here that the OP is the other woman, call me crazy, but I just sense it Link to comment
sunnysky2k Posted June 13, 2008 Author Share Posted June 13, 2008 married only 3-4 years, have 1-2 years old child and cheating? Obviously there is an oppoturninty that an attractive woman interested in him.... Link to comment
annie24 Posted June 13, 2008 Share Posted June 13, 2008 married only 3-4 years, have 1-2 years old child and cheating? Obviously there is an oppoturninty that an attractive woman interested in him.... when do you think is the right time for cheating then? i only sort of agree with slice. i can't say that women are fully wired for monogamy either, i won't say that it's only men. marriage is a challenge, there will always be temptations elsewhere. whether 6 months in or 50 years in. it depends on how committed the person is to their marriage on whether or not they will resist the temptation. Link to comment
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