Pain

[TAB1234]

I never realised the pain one felt when one found out an ex is dating someone else. I actually feel like a physical pain in my heart. Can someone please explain it?

[browneyedgirl36]

I wish I could explain it, but I can't. It feels much worse than a lot of the strictly physical pain we feel, because it's almost as if it's a melding of emotional AND physical pain, and the two together are often overwhelming.

 

I know what you mean about the pain in your heart. I have felt it too -- it's like it's sitting on my chest, like a huge weight pressing down. My stomach and head sometimes hurt, too. Eventually, it lessens, though. And, someday, it will go away almost entirely. It is often a long process. Nearly everything has to get worse before it gets better, but nearly everything DOES get better.

 

Hang in there.

[annie24]

yup, that pain is real!

 

i would write down a list of things you did not like about your ex, and remind yourself why it is good you two split up. make an effort to look nice, go out again, you will meet someone new in time also.

[nelz]

I know the feeling, although my ex has not got a new partner.

 

It feels like your heart is aching, and yearning so much. It feels sore, as if it has been beaten and bruised

[LBP]

Hey, MY ex is dating a guy who used to be one of my best friends. Boy does that suck.

 

Amazingly, it isn't pain I feel... More annoyed at losing a friend than anything else.

[Coach P]

I know the feeling, although my ex has not got a new partner.

 

It feels like your heart is aching, and yearning so much. It feels sore, as if it has been beaten and bruised

 

 

Ive had that feeling wake me up almost everyday for awhile now. It's made me physically sick to my stomach a few times.

[TAB1234]

so does this pain mean that we genuinely still love our ex's or can it be construed as something else?

[nic2463]

Its just agony,mine jumped into bed with a fella a few days after we had last slept together.Theres nowt you can do as they are emotionaly attached.Speaking to a number of people this happens a lot.

[Andy_2007]

it's definitely a unique kind of pain.

 

a mixture of shock and grief that is so strong it does feel physical. I think if you removed the shock and pain the feeling would equate to the one you have just as a roller coaster tips downwards at the first slope...