whats the matter with him

[lilsmc]

So My on and off boyfriend of about two years now won't have sex with me!!! I dont understand why and it really is frustrating!

I asked him if he was gay? he got very upset about that

Now, i know he was into the whole "COKE" thing, or perhaps he still might be. I heard that Guys become impotent when they do such drugs.

He wont have sex with me though, and if i didnt love him or cared about him, i would have left him a long time ago, but i cant but at the same time i get so mad and frustrated at him.

Hooking up with him has become so weird to me to the point where sometimes i really don't even want to.

I dont even know what to think anymore. I have never done anything to him, no oral sex, no nothing. lol I really dont knoe what it is.

[ghost69]

well, your needs aren't being met. maybe consider dropping him? i mean, you don't even know if he is still on drugs or not. who knows what else you don't know about this guy.

 

why is it on and off anyways?

[barbielovesmac]

well the fact that he does drugs should be your red flag!

[teknoise]

Have you ever actually seen his man-parts? Maybe he's really self conscious about himself. Maybe there is a problem. Maybe he is impotent. Maybe he's a virgin. Could be a number of things. Coke use will definitely kill a sex drive as well.

 

Before we all right him off because of his drugs (albeit a stupid drug that does way more harm than good and could potentially destroy his sex drive) it could be a deeper psychological barrier that is preventing him from opening up to you.

[qtbutterfly]

Hmm well if he cant meet your needs then i suggest moving on to someone that will. And if he done something serious as coke and STILL might be on it then he prob wont make the best partner esp. if yall were to get real serious or so

[KG]

I think there is something seriously wrong when 2 years goes by and there is no intimacy between willing partners...maybe he has STD's, and afraid to tell you. The "coke" thing might be it, but he'd have to be doing an abnormal amount if he never gets horny.

I'd take this as a red flag...

[JeckyllNHyde]

Actually from what people told me who used it, when your high on coke, then you can't have erections under normal conditions (by that I mean without using certain things which are even more potent then Viagra, etc). But when not on cocaine, they can very well have normal erections.

I would move on from someone who was hiding stuff from me and unwilling to explain something so important. Sex is an important issue/matter in any relationship. I wouldn't trust someone like this no offense. (Could he be hiding Std's? SOmething else? And am I not trustworthy enough for him to open up to me? Are we never going to have sex everrr/sexless relationship? All those thoughts would be running thru my head).

[teknoise]

Actually from what people told me who used it, when your high on coke, then you can't have erections under normal conditions (by that I mean without using certain things which are even more potent then Viagra, etc). But when not on cocaine, they can very well have normal erections.

 

Not necessarily. It can affect you negatively while its still in your system a few days after. Also, during the high you aren't completely impotent, its just more difficult.

[lilsmc]

thanks for the advice. I really appreciate them. NO, i have never seen his man parts. He always pushes me away everytime ihave tried to. He always talks to me about having sex with me and how bad he wants me, but when it comes down to hooking up, he wil come up with a lot of excuses not to and i could see in his face that he starts to feel uncomfortable about it. Only one time i felt down there and it was rather small, but not erect at all. He claims to have been with many girls in the past, but knowing him for almost 2 years and not ever getting intimate, i'm obviously wondering if he has ever HAd sex with anyone bfore.

I know its definitly time to let him go. I get very frustrated and mad at this whole situation. THank you

[psu11]

your needs are not being met. tag and bag him. you gone two years without zip....imagine staying with him for an entire lifetime!? yikes....

[ghost69]

yeah he's gay.

[hanny88]

seeing as though you guys are on and off, and have been for two years or what ever....and just recently things have gone a bit odd...

...have you thought that maybe the guy is just seeing someone els?

men think they are gods gift when they have two girls on the go

[ghost69]

seeing as though you guys are on and off, and have been for two years or what ever....and just recently things have gone a bit odd...

...have you thought that maybe the guy is just seeing someone els?

men think they are gods gift when they have two girls on the go

 

some guys.

[someguy88]

seeing as though you guys are on and off, and have been for two years or what ever....and just recently things have gone a bit odd...

...have you thought that maybe the guy is just seeing someone els?

men think they are gods gift when they have two girls on the go

 

I think this is highly unlikely. If he hasn't screwed his gf of two years he's certainly not out screwing someone else.

 

I'm guessing that he's either a) a virgin B) has a super tiny penis or c) can't get it up d) all of the above

[hanny88]

I think this is highly unlikely. If he hasn't screwed his gf of two years he's certainly not out screwing someone else.

 

I'm guessing that he's either a) a virgin B) has a super tiny penis or c) can't get it up d) all of the above

 

honey, i think you may have to lock d) all of the above in!!!!!

he sounds pretty nervous bout it!