kathyk

You might remember me? kathyk? a year ago already? We are back together g and I. wow. nc does work. 4 months nc. he came back to me. This sight helped me very much. Think of yourself. You will make it. Life is too short. Life everyday as though it is your last. Where one door closes another opens. Put all your love right now inside yourself. love yourself. Without that no one can love you. Ask geecee & beec. boy they really told the truth. nc let them come back to you. g and i have been back together since oct 2004. ups and downs. always go back to nc when things seem bad. no bad words at them. just smile and think how good it can be. I always remember to think before I jump now. good luck to all and thanks also for all the help.

I haven't been on this sight for a while. 2004 was a really bad year. If I had really listened and worked on myself more that have pitty on myself, I wouldn't have extra wrinkles now. I am back with my ex. We have been back together since oct 2004. After I pepper sprayed him and almost took his head off. What a waste. They will contact you if they love you and miss you. But give them time to miss you. Go have fun. Do all that you didn't get to do when you were with the ex. Smile, laugh, exercise, go with friends to beach, clubbing, hiking,get out. We broke up jan 23 2004 got back togethr Mar 27 2004. broke up again july 4 2004. got back together oct 23 2004. We are together but I have learned to remember nc. when I feel an argument coming on I get QUIET. Think first.lots a patience. believe me. nc works.

4th of july really went bad. i had a really bad fight with him. he came back to me. i did make changes only to fall back into same rut. he wouldn't make changes. so i fell. i have lost him for sure this time. he has returned all of my belongings. never did this before. he called me yesterday and was very nice and said he had received my voice mails from monday on wednesday. he had not used his phone. he said i wasn't ignoring you. then turned around and said don't call me anymore. then asked me about if i was going to see someone i had only dated twice while we were apart from jan to mar. he has a drug and alcohol problem. it seemed that the drug problem left while he was with me. but not the alcohol. then i started on alcohol only to mess up the relationship badly. he told one of our friends that i was a b==== and he would have to find a new place to live and a new piece now. i feel horrible. i tried to apologize and he got mad. he was in the wrong also. so i left it at this. if he wasn't ignoring me and questioned about chris then what difference does it make what i do at this point to him? i will do the nc thing again. he said we have tried three times and he will not go into this relationship again. he said there is no you and me anymore. i am jumping around cause i don't know where to begin.

well he did bring my things to me. he was not angry like before. this time he gave my things to me and didn't say anythng about the fight. so i did not either.we didn't say much of anything. he ask if i still had his toothbrush. i told him no that i gave it to him the other morn (at 4am.) i didn't ask him in i let him stand outside while i dressed to go out to get some of his things out my car. i went to the back of home to put ladder up and when i came back he was gone. he didn't even bother to ask if he could carry the ladder around back for me. could he be ashamed for the argument or is it really over this time. it was a bad scene. i didn't press any conversation and he did try to say much. but he wasn't all angry and yelling at me like before. is this good or bad??? he didn't call before he came over either. just showed up.[/b]

he told me that that wasn't him last night. i told him that wasn't me last night either. it was alot of the alcohol. he said i will bring you your things tuesday as he was eating with his mouth full. like no big deal. i still feel as though he is searching for something. i don't know what. i really cut him down so bad. as he did me. he said i was a dumb a==. he then said because i feel asleep and he almost did at the wheel i was in considerate, i told him i didn't want to go there and that i felt uncomfortable going there one of his old stomping grounds. i went because he worked extra so we could go soemwhere for the 4th. but why there?

Hello everyone. I haven't been on for a while. but looks like i will be on for a while. we had a terrible fight 4th of July. very bad night. i made him move out at 4am. I am definitly having problems with jealousy now. i guess i may have blew this relationship all to h====. i did call him this morning before noon time to get my things back from him. he was hung over as i am. we fought over a girl that was in his car that shouldn't have been. long story. he took her to her car because both had locked keys in car on the beach. the day was going wonderful and then this. i really though we were making progress. now he says there is no you and me anymore. it was a really bad fight that involed too much drinking. i don't thnk he will forgive me for this argument. i will see him tuesday when he brings my things to me. i did the wrong thing in telling him we both had too much to drink and that we were both wrong in what happened. i told him that i know and he knows i can not drink but i did to try to be with him. it was so ugly. i told him that he promised when he came back that he said he would quit drinking because he knows i have a problem with it. he does to but will not admit it. it makes us both so hateful at a point. i do not know what to do now. were broke up jan 24 and got back together march 27. we of course had a few arguments about friends and not haivng time to do things together. so he has tried and i don't know why i have to be the way i am. so damned insecure. yes i fell back into that again. so do i try to start this again not calling and see if i can win him back??? please someone help me again. i am still in shock over this. it hasn't hit me yet. i should have stayed on here when things were good. always have questions on what to do. but i thought i could do it myself. i have really messed up and so has he.

geecee my surgeon is excellent. it has been 1 week and i want everyone to know when i get pictures i will share them. but i just don't know where to send them!! lol. hey they are mine and i will not share. we are doing well (glenn and I) lol. his fling from two months ago is harassing me. but i just ignore. boy why do guys always pick scum when they are away??? but he doesn't leave my side for anything. i have basically told him we are or we are not. i told him i love me first then if i have time i will love him. but i am first. this sight has done wonders for me. i do know i can live with or without a partner. its wonderful. i am a person. geecee have you heard anything from yours yet??? haven't had time to read posts yet. let me know whats going on. its killing me not to know.

well everything is still going well. we are learning to comunicate. i do love him so. had a wonderful weekend. surgery went well. very sore. look wonderful.... boy lots of posts since last time i was here. gee cee how are you????hope you are doing well. got alot to catch up on.

send her her things. if you do not get yourself where you can face her whether getting back together or not you will be lost forever. stop the emailing. stop the phone calls. and stop being available to her. if you want her back you have told her. now leave her alone and do not tell her any of this anymore. sounds like maybe she is wanting you to chase her. leave it for awhile. think about your health and things you used to do that you couldn't do when you guys were together. show her you can live without her. stop hurting yourself. answer every 4 or 5 emails and only take 1 phone call every 3 or 4 days. let her think. stop playing or things will never get where you want them.

you are doing wonderful. isn't it amazing what you can accomplish when they are not around? i have been thinking the same thing. he does take up alot of my time. but i liked my time to do what i wanted to do. its ok having him there but i didn't realize how much i was missing out on. so as gee cee is doing i will start doing my stuff again. he has been sick so he has been a baby. oh poop. surgery next week the 22nd. so i have a lot to do before then. finish my antique mirror, finshed my patio saturday while he was away. did my car and did laundry on easter. visited with son and father. there are so many things to do that i had forgotten about while i was in the relationship. mainly myself. when you get the ex back you will see. let me know how the diningroom comes out. i love decorating. you are fantastic.

sorry for not being here for a few days. have had some ups and downs. i am still hanging in there. he has been mr wonderful. so i still am working on letting him be the man. i so not question him or anything. it is starting to get on my nerves. but i am holding on. so is everyone holding their ground??? gee cee how is nc going? i hope you will feel better. i know i did.

those small irritating things can make a mountain. same complaints i had. you have time for everyone but me. does this sound familiar? sometimes you would be to tired to deal with her. but not others. all your good hours were spent doing for others and then you didn't take a rest to take time with her. you still have to spent time with her. not when its convenient for you. she isn't a toy on the shelf. and you can't make her happy. she has to make herself happy. take your time. show her you can go on without her. but make sure you look good when she does see you. do not beg her. do not bug her. if she calls be in a hurry to go. give her something to think about.

this sounds very familiar to my situation. she is trying to be your friend and lover all at the same time. she gets her feelings hurt when she is rejected by you. maybe talking with each other would have been the best solution. she doesn't understand why you need time away from her. nor did i. communication was a problem and i lost myself in the relationship trying to please him and wanting his attention. afraid of loosing him if i wasn't there by him 24-7. until he did as you have done. except i blew up during one of our arguments and told him i didn't want him around. well i knew i did but i felt he didn't want me cause he was trying to get away from me. so i didn't contact him and started to learn more about myself then 9 weeks later he called and wanted to talk. thank God. you see i was afraid to call him in fear of rejection. i tried to send a letter and then went and got it back before he could get it. he was angry and didn't want it anyway. then i sent him a card just saying i was a jerk. still no response. so i waited until his bd and called and left a voicemail saying was thinking of you on your bd. wondered how work was going. i sure it is going fine. hope you get to celebrate it. i will be celebrating also. happy bd. bye. then it took 8 days and after i saw him on the road for him to call me. he said he would have done so earlier but didn't know what to say. the arguing was basically because i gave my whole self to the relationship and he only gave what he wanted when he wanted. i needed more. or at least i thought i did. does your gf work? do you take her places? do you spend quality time with her? make her feel secure then let her know you have to have guys time. nothing against her but she needs to make friends and have girls time also. she needs to get used to this. believe me unless you have been alone and know how to do this it can be very difficult for her. just like myself. never had to take care of just me. not to have to worry about him not being there when i came home or to take off and be gone for days etc. she is insecure. just like myself. do not contact her. let her see you in a different light. try going out and being with those friends you wanted to be with when you weren't with her. try dating and that might trigger her. don't worry about the new guy. sounds like a rebound they usually don't last. the new will wear off.

what were the fights about???

what have you done??? don't keep us waiting. its killing me. need your advice also. see my new post.