I read your story and I am sorry you are hurting over all this.
All I can say is as a woman, move on.
Now it is time to take care of you and your life. Whatever her problem is, she has to work on it and you have to work on your problems.
Take some time for you and makes some inner repairs.
Love does not hurt! PERIOD! A relationship takes 100/100% on both sides.
You can't change her, but you can change you and find out why you are in such pain with yourself.
You see, when you love yourself and you respect yourself, you don't hurt because someone broke up with you. It is a myth that people allow themselves to go through every day, millions of them.
Noone can break your heart, no one can make you feel bad, no one can make you miss someone and so on, why? because you are in charge of your own feelings, you are th eone who is making you feel bad or good.
That is your responsibility as a person. If you are so hurt right now it is because you chose to hurt. She has nothing to do with that.
I know that may sound strange to you but those are the facts! All the love "you think" you feel for her is the love that is within yourself, that is the kind of love you must give to yourself 1st!!!!! before you can ever be in a healthy relationship.
Some food for thought before I close.....why do you give her such "power over" you?
Think about that.