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I have to say that I just discovered books on self esteem also (in regards to the post above). If you need any assistant in looking for a book, PM me, IM me or something and let me know. I also have a friend that's been abused in a relationship and she sees her friends in those types of places too. She might be able to help you out also (she's an online friend of mine). Just contact me if you need any help ok?

I say you didn't until he's caught red handed doing the actual deed. BUT- then again, it IS ok to be picky. I personally wouldn't want to go around thinking about how he could say those things to someone while he's dating another. I say you do what you feel. If you forgot all about it and are over it and cool, then you're fine. If it bothers you.. then just calmly talk to him about it when you guys get a chance to sit down and tell him how you feel (again).

I say just ask her already. Tell her everything you feel. Get it off your chest. Just write her a letter if you can't talk to her face to face about it.

To get help you can always turn to your female doctor. You should be able to trust them the most since they look after your body for you. A lot of people don't believe your gynocologist can give you advice and give you the help you need about your depression. I went to my gynocologist twice and received the treatment I needed the first round, but refused the psychologist part. Now, I'm back 2 years later with a lighter dose of depression but still seeking my gynocologist for help. They'll talk to you first, give you the meds you need and if there's nothing they can do for you more (because of their own studies) - they will refer you to someone who will listen to you. Who will help you become strong and who will help you confront your fears. They will tell you that you are a person with choices and you should never feel that you don't have those choices. .... I should listen to myself more often, heh.

So you got a pic? JK. Yeah, you just got to overcome you fear of being shy. Smile or wink at them. If you have questions for someone you like, talk to them about it. Talk to them about your day or the basic all topic conversation is "so how did your day go? What did you do today? Got any plans for later?" etc. etc.

That is true. I don't really want to think of my man lying though. I'm afraid of hurt and I don't want to be crushed or something of that sort. I'm easily tendered but yet I go for the "not so nice" men that give me excitement - along with my freedom. If a nice guy comes along.. it's not that fun. Somehow spice it up or whatever. But then again - there are guys out there that ARE nice, and they are just male. It's just them.

Yeah I agree with babygirl brit. She's just joking around. It's more likely her way of letting you know that she wants you to flirt back with her and tell her how much you dig her. Don't have to do it all the time, just once in a while.

Yes, I've saught treatment the day after it happened (only time I could call a doctor..) and I got pills that day for it too. So yeah, I'm on the track of taking the meds. I hope your right. That Scott isn't thinking anything and he's just doing his own thing and it's not me.

Yeah I already told him about my condition and stuff. He said it's understandable and that it's ok and he's had to see two shrinks himself. That he's not always happy and he thought about suicide and stuff (but never harmed himself) also. I'm feeling right now that I screwed up somehow to push him away a bit. My depression is ragging it over my head at this moment saying its my fault and crap, bah. Which.. idunno, it kinda is.

Yes, he did have plans. He was going to go hunting with his family. Leave sometime after work on Friday or whatever. Absolutly right though, it has only been two weeks and yes it is a little controlling and stuff. Just a little hard that my depression had to hit right in the beginning of this whole relationship scenario. So I'll see what he says about it on Tuesday when I see him. Actually, I don't think I'm going to bother talking to him about it. I'll just ease up on the relationship and let him do his own thing (like he always does anyways). Does that sound like the right approach? And to respond to the quote and stuff, that is a great quote. I really don't know right now if my life would be better with him in it, or out of it. It just feels like it's made for it a little bit more then all the rest of the guys I date. Kissing him seems right. Idunno, I'm pretty sure I did scare him off with some actions. So now the advice would be.. how do I let him know that I'm safe for him not to run off? What do I need to do about it?

I've been dating this guy for about two weeks. I have fallen for him made core. Not in love, not loving him, but I love things about him yes and I like him a lot. He's the most suitable guy I've ever dated in the past year in a half. The problem is that I called him twice yesterday. One was a quick update on my current health situation I have going on (i had an anxiety attack the other day ... probably freaked him out a good one). The 2nd phone call was right when he got off work. I left a message saying to give me a ring. He never called. I called back 45 mins. later and found his cell phone turned off. He usually does call me back when I say "give me a call". He also always leaves his phone in his truck so that's why I tried to call right when he got off work (we work together but I had that day off). Anyway, he had to received the message and I think that was a complete dick of him to not call mr back let alone turn off his cell phone. So far people told me to ignore him until he confronts me about what's wrong and stuff. I planned on ending it with him because I'm not a girl who wastes my time on a jerk like that in the first place. There's no point in not calling your girl back at all that night and turning your cell phone off on her. So, I thought about ending it and planned on doing just so. But then, I started reading all these articles on the net and a book my roommate had about relationships and stuff. Now I'm just getting confused if I should end it or not because he was an ass for turning his cell phone off on me and not returning his call. I'm afraid that I'm being too picky looking for someone to satisfy me and if I should just stick it out with this ... person. I'm kinda afraid that if I do it will just repeat. I heard he doesn't want to get into anything too quick because he got burnt with his last girlfriend. He moved in with her within a month and he broke up with her about 4 months later. Which, she still lives with him. He is working on his way of moving out of there though. He made it quiet clear to me that he never has and never will cheat on anyone or go back to her or anything. It sounds terrible, I know. I'm just curious if I'm being too picky. Is it alright to be picky? I don't want to marry a jerk (I date to find a potential spouse).. so someone tell me if I'm on the right track here of ending it?