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wow man! after reading your post it sort of made me realize that things can always be worse for people even though they think it couldn't be. i agree with dako...i don't how long ago it was she died but my guess is that you haven't given yourself enough time to heal.my ex didn't die but whenever we split i met all kinds of girls and treated them pretty crappy as far as using them goes.and then 3 years later i got over things and i haven't felt better and am able to move on.if i was in your shoes i would just give it as much time as possible...get busy doing things and don't even worry about dating for awhile.i know your never gonna forget her but one of these days you will be able to let go enough to move on and give someone a real chance with you.hope this helps.

ok i will give advice from a reversed situation.i tried the calling thing and trying to see her and you know what...it made it worse.here i am a year later with her wanting to try but can't get over the calling,crying,yelling.if you are meant to be with him then it will happen.i knwo that sucks cause i hate hearing it to but it is the truth.and you have to know for yourself that if it is not him someone better will come along.you knwo you made a mistake and you admit to it(the cheating thing).it is up to him to forgive and trust me it is easy to forgive but not to forget.tell him how you feel and then drop it.just let it sink in with him.don't call and stay busy(it works trust me).if he can do it then he will call.if he can't then he won't.and if you love him you will respect that cause being cheated on is hard to look past.been there and done that and he sounds like me so i can relate.you don't want him to come back and him punish you for what you did.b/c it makes it terrible for both people.you know it was a mistake so learn from it and in the future whether it be with him or someone else you can look back and never want to do that again.

OK.3 YEARS AGO ME AND MY GIRLFRIEND MET AND WE WERE TOGETHER 2 YEARS.THEN WE BROKE UP AND I WOULD NOT LEAVE HER ALONE ABOUT IT.I PUSHED HER TO SOMEONE ELSE AND WHEN I STOPPED CALLING SHE CALLED ME 2 MONTHS LATER BEGGING TO SEE ME AND BE WITH ME.SO WE GOT BACK TOGETHER BUT I COULD NOT LET GO OF WHAT HAPPENED(HER BEING WITH SOMEONE ELSE).SO 6 MONTHS LATER WE BROKE UP AGAIN.I DID THE SAME THING AND MONTHS LATER SHE GOT WITH SOMEONE ELSE.SHE CALLED ME A YEAR LATER AND WANTED TO SEE ME SO I AGREED.WE TALKED ABOUT WHY WE BROKE UP AND WHAT WENT WRONG.NOW SHE HAS BROKEN UP WITH THE GUY SHE WAS WITH A FOR A MONTH WE HAVE SEEN EACH OTHER EVERY WEEKEND.SHE TOLD ME SHE WANTED TO START OUT SLOW AS JUST FRIENDS AND WORK OUR WAY INTO IT.BUT WE DID EVERYTHING A COUPLE WOULD DO.THEN LAST WEEK I GOT CURIOUS AND DROVE BY HER APARTMENT.WHEN I GOT THERE SHE WAS GETTING OUT OF HER CAR AND HER EX WAS STANDING THERE.KEEP IN MIND THAT HE WAS SUPPOSED TO BE GETTING HIS STUFF.BUT THEM TWO STANDING THERE TOGETHER MADE ME LOSE IT.I TOLD HER SHE LIED TO ME AND EVERYTHING.SHE TOLD ME EVERYTHING WAS FINE NOTHING IS GOING ON HE WAS THERE TO GET HIS STUFF AND LEAVE BUT SEEING HIM BROUGHT EVERYTHING BACK THAT I WAS STARTING TO ACCEPT AND GET OVER.NOW SHE IS SAYING SHE WANTS TO KEEP IT AS FRIENDS CAUSE SHE IS NOT READY TO BE WITH ME JUST YET AND THAT I ACTED LIKE I DID WHEN WE BROKE UP.I AM GOING CRAZY B/C FOR A YEAR I HAD HOPED I WOUDL GET THIS OPPURTUNITY AGAIN AND I FEEL LIKE I AM LOSING IT.SHE TELLS ME EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OK AND IT WILL ALL WORK OUT FOR THE BEST BUT I HATE JUST BEING FRIENDS.I USED TO BE SOMETHING WAY MORE THAN THAT AND I HATE THE POSITION I AM IN NOW.WHAT DO I DO?

2 YEARS AGO MY GIRLFRIEND BROKE UP WITH ME SAYING SHE NEEDED A BREAK AND HAD SOME ISSUES IN HER LIFE THAT SHE NEEDED TO DEAL WITH.UNLIKE YOU I CALLED EVERYDAY ASKING TO SEE HER AND WOULD NOT STOP CRYING..SHE THEN TOLD ME TO GIVE HER 2 WEEKS...I COULDN'T DO IT.ALL I CAN SAY IS DON'T DO WHAT I DID AND FORCE YOURSELF ONTO HER...GIVE HER WHAT SHE WANTS.BY DOING WHAT I DID IT MADE THINGS WORSE AND SHE GOT WITH SOMEONE ELSE.BUT WHEN I STOPPED CALLING HER SHE CALLED ME 2 MONTHS LATER BEGGING ME TO COME BACK.BE THERE FOR HER WHEN SHE NEEDS YOU AND WHEN SHE DON'T THEN DON'T BE.WITH GIRLS IT IS THERE WAY ALOT OF TIMES.AND IF SHE DIDN'T MENTION BREAKING UP FOR GOOD,DON'T TELL YOUSELF IT IS OVER BUT BUILD YOURSELF UP FOR THE WORSE IT CASE IT DOES HAPPEN.THAT WAY IF IT DOES IT'S MUCH EASIER TO TAKE AND IF IT DON'T THEN YOU WILL APPRECIATE HER BEING THERE EVEN MORE.