RobbiGee

Im sorry but I just gotta say I have never been with a girl like that so I dont think you can say whats "supposed" to happen. Girls ive been with have always pulled back once their orgasm starts as it does get extremely sensitive. I would say your g/f is now expecting something which is never genna happen.

You may have read my previous posts but in short i split with my g/f recently after she said she needed time apart to throw herself into her new police career. Basically, after 2 1/2months now I have finally got to grips with the fact that she does just need space, ive stopped texting and calling her and we contact each other about once a week to check each other are ok which is nice. Thing is I have a dilemma, from our relationship she has some of my stuff at her place, dvd player, dvds, movies etc , she also owes me £1500 quid from me paying off her credit card and taking her on holiday. The thing is I feel that by taking those things back I am reducing the bond between us and increasing the likelihood of us never trying again. What do you guys think, should I leave everything as it is until its 100% over, or should I ask for everything back and risk pissing her off.

Hey, I myself am currently in a situation where I have broken up with my g/f but hope that we may get back together. I think it depends on the circumstances of th break up. For example my g/f and I split because of two major things 1) distance and 2) her work (she has recently become a police officer). I think in this situation that maybe in the future, if we end up in the same location and/or she is working less hard then there is no reason why we couldnt try again. However, all too often people split for more personal reasons, i think it is these splits that are very difficult to resolve as that problem will always be there in one form or another. Again, just my view, feel free to message. RG

Ive only been around here for 2 days and already I can see the on going theme! Yes we have to move on, and no it isn't easy but it is the only way. When you talk to him how do you act ? Do you just make small talk and then still feel crap when you hang up the phone ? These things are never easy but you can't allow him to rule your life if he is not going to make any commitment, sometimes, like in my case they don't even admit you arent meant to be but your guy has said this to you and Im afriad thats probably all the closure you are going to get. Open to PMs etc if you want any advice .......

Funny thing is it isn't hard to believe at all, to be honest I know it but I have the will power of a dead goat and so I find writing this stuff down stops me from writing it to her. Its made harder by the fact that when I dont contact her she contacts me and gives it all the "love you lots" or using pet names etc.

I can't do anything but offer the same advice people are giving me, if she wants some time on her own then you have to let her do it. its a cheesy cliche but at the end of the day if its meant to be she will be back, and will appreciate you alot more if you have given her the time that she asked for. Im going through exactly the same thing at the moment except its my g/f's career that has taken precidence, it is hard, and yeah I've f**ked up a few times over the last 3 months forgetting my position but over all I can honestly say when u give them the space, and they do love you, then they won't disappear.

Hey all, My girlfriend recently said she needed time away from me to sort her life out. We met at university and had 14 wonderful months together before we graduated. In sept. last year she joined the police force, at the time we were both looking for a career unfortunately I found one at home and she joined her local police force (we live about 2 hours away). While she went through 3 months of training we got on fine, she had weekends off so we saw each other then and just chatted during the week. However when she started working shifts things started going wrong, we still saw each other but she was left so tired she felt she couldnt see me as much as before, but, instead of telling me she just went with it until it was all too much. She insists that it isn't over forever and that she still loves me but that she needs to give her career ago, her mum split with her dad when she was little, her mum had no career and so was left with nothing, I think my g/f fears that and thereforeeeeee needs to do really well in her police job. The question I have is how do I handle this "break", we "broke" 3 months ago now and I've been up and down since then, one week we speak 4/5 times the next just once. I've tried asking her but she just says I need to put her to the back of my mind for a bit! Anyone reading this will know how hard it is so what do I do, just not contact her at all and risk losing her forever, or handle the bad feelings I have and let her do her thing ? Feel free to MSN/ICQ/Priv message.