nicoleisconfused

I understand her need to be independent and such but if the reason you guys are breaking up is because she's going through a lot then you need to ask yourself why you aren't by her side while she's going through it. If you guys love each other, then maybe a break will be okay, but if it's family issues then you should go through it with her... either from a distance or by her side. If you guys break up, don't become distant otherwise you guys probably won't get back together. Be her friend if you're not her boyfriend and then you'll probably be both again.

Not I. I know what I want out of a relationship and what I can put into a relationship so in that case, I'm ready, but I still have resentment and that's not fair to bring into a relationship.

I know everyone says to trust them, but I am a girl and have always had guy best friends growing up and not once have I not "hooked" up with them. It's hard becuase you have a guy that you are talking to and opening up to him because he's your best friend right? Well, then you get into the fact well, I want a guy like my best friend that will listen... and it happens. A guy best friend is a guy waiting to be the next in line. I'm sorry. But on the other hand, you know the two and it may be different. I just know that in the last twenty some years of my life I have convinced many boyfriends that the guy is just a friend. AND IT IS WRONG!!! don't get me wrong there! my ways have changed but i'll always warn someone in a like situation to just be careful. Good luck with that.

I am looking for advice from an outside source. Here is my dilemma... I was supposed to be getting married on July 18th. We lived together down at college and things were good I thought. 2 months ago my fiance left with only the reason that we are not right for each other. He also quit college three weeks before getting his diploma. His mother called and said that I should not give him any sort of rules because he was her baby and she never told him he couldn't do something. THis was all because I told him he should maybe think about limiting his drinking because he was doing it every night and failing school. We "kind of" live together still. We have two dogs together and he comes home about once a week here. When he is home he takes me out and we talk about every other day on the phone. He acts like nothing has changed and the only difference is now I'm not getting married in two weeks. I know I should not talk to him and such but no one understands that I have zero closure and I want to talk to him because everything feels the same. I seem to be blocking out the idea that we will not be getting back together even though I know that that is true. I know i'm giving him the best of both worlds, but the only time I'm happy is when i'm with him or talking to him. Otherwise, I am depressed and crying. What should I do and how should I interpret his behavior? are we finished or what? He says he is still completely in love with me but he is going to ignore it. Please help.