unsureself

*Ahem* I'm a guy actually, but i guess all that you said still applies, I'll give it a shot... Good point though, sharing not attaining, I'll have to make some changes.

I'm not sure if there's something wrong with me, but every relationship I get into, I pour my heart and soul into it. Which is great if the relationship is great, but when we end up breaking up, it hurts, A LOT. So much in fact, my last break up turned me off dating for 5 years, starting to get back into the saddle, but i'm starting to become skeptical. A friend of mine says i shouldn't put so much hope into every relationship i'm in, but i can't seem to control myself. Is this wrong? Should I seek professional help? or just keep on truckin until I eventually find somebody.

I find that whenever I run out of things to talk about, I ask about what we can do together. IE: Have you ever been to ______? Or seen _____? Focusing on what to do next rather than what to talk about always works for me. But your communicating through Messenger, Video chat and the phone, does this mean you have a long distance relationship? If so, i can't help you there, I've never had one.

When she starts at the back of my neck and moves up to my ears it sends shivers down my spine every time.

I like a girl who's strong minded (not necessarily physical), one who can 'hang out with the guys' if she wanted to. But deep down is gentle and sensitive. Sort of like a diamond in the rough, if you will.

I can't believe how stupid I am, looking at my situation in a different light (thanks to all of you) I deserve to get slapped in the face for putting myself in this position. The next chance we get, we're gonna have a serious talk, and then I'll find out if all those things she said to me are true or not. (it's past midnight as i type this because i can't sleep). Me or him, she's gotta choose, but if this keeps up i don't think i can live with myself. I'm starting to get butterflies from this, hope i dont get an ulcer. Thanks again everyone.

Solid advice, and I do kinda feel stupid not seeing this earlier. There's a little more context to my story. I've known her for 3 months before we started dating. She's friends with all my friends (or I'm friends with her friends, i'm not sure) They all kinda put me up for dating her, which is why I believe her about her having a deadbeat bf. But cheating is cheating, which still makes me feel a tad sick. Perhaps putting this on pause until she gets things sorted would be best. With this many supporters, it'll be tough not put all this on hold, in the end, I hope things work out. Thanks again, i'll keep you all posted on how things work out.

Greetings everyone, this is my first post and i'm hoping to gain some insight on my current situation. I am a 23 year old college student dating another college student, we like each other a lot, and treasure the time we spend together however... Here's the situation (this is a long story so sit down for this one): She has been living for her boyfriend for over a year and absolutely hates his guts. She dislikes his living habits, he pays no attention to her nor does he show any gratitude or affection (on top of that he's not much help around the house either). In the span of two months, I know more about her and helped her with her problems more than he has in over a year. Whenever she needs someone to talk to for support, she always comes to me because "[she] trusts me more than anyone else in [her] life" (her quote) When he first started getting close, she didn't want me involved, since she is in a relationship that she doesn't want to continue. In my opinion, she's worth the risk, she's a wonderful girl who treats me like a king, and in return, i treat her like the queen she is. So why doesn't she just leave him? It's sad really, it's because she can't afford it. She just recently purchased a house which he is going to move into with her and share in the mortgage payments. I'm a college student and can barely get by with classes and my minimum wage part-time job, living at home. So here I am, with a beautiful, talented woman who adores me as much as I adore her, who's stuck living with an inept musician that she can barely tolerate. She says she can afford to dump him by May, and if he grows suspicious of us (since she is actually cheating on him) she'll just tell him straight up that she's found another man. Whenever we're apart and I think about the situation, I begin to have doubts if this is right, or if it's even worth the headache and heartache. But when we're together, those doubts seem to melt away. I haven't dated anyone for over 5 years before finding her, she is interested in a long-term relationship as am I. I'm starting to wonder if all this is worth it, or if I should find someone else? This is going to be one helluva spring ](*,)