Punk-Minority

Yeah, well you like eachother? i mean, she's clealry shy, but isn't that kind of cute? and yeah, on aim, if she talks lots, then that shows that she is has opinions and isn't completley muted.. i think some people can be bizzarly shy AND outgoing, including me, it's a strange mix or the two and people either think your snobby and shy (because sometimes shyness gets overlooked to be snobbery) or they think your a loud idiot. Anyway, yeah, just ask her questions about herself, and her interests, smile and her and make her feel like converstation with you is easy. Sometimes girls find conversation hard with particular people- hey, maybe she likes you so much, she gets lost for words! that's a symtom many girls get, sometimes we just freeze up. So yeah, just make her feel like conversation with you is the easiest thing in the world, and she'll open up more around you - not just online!

i can't imagine what you've had to go through in the past, but i feel like this site is a tremendous support system for each other, where we can find people who have gone through similar things, and find comfort. i really want you to know, that i'm deeply sorry for the trauma and hurt you've had to go through. Some people say "it gets better" and sometimes it doesn't feel like it, but usually, it does. And sometimes, therapists and counsellors, physiatrists are the right route- they can heal our emotional wounds. i have emotional wounds, because of my dad, when i was 13 i wanted to die simply from the emotional abuse, and i would cry myself to sleep. i can't say, i know what you’re going through/have been through, but in the area of emotional abuse i can say i know how it feels. i believe, finding a spiritual source helps, professional help, of course helps, and finding really great friends who are the opposite to the ugliness in the world, helps. When we can find something/someone in life, that can do and be the opposite of the things that abused us, then we can begin to heal. Find these things, and heal. KNOW you can, don't doubt you can, KNOW you can overcome the evil and ugliness this person put you through. " Shall I knock it into your head again? Heh? Don't be stupid. " " Don't make me take off this belt. " " Ohh you think you are so great. Eh? Smart arsed byatch. " " Don't go thinking you are worth anything. Because you are not. You were born a sl and you will always be a sl. You deserved what you had coming. " " Cow. You think money grows on trees? Filthy little byatch. " " " Nobody likes you, nobody will ever like you. Nobody likes a piece of sh like you." " Pull down your pants. " Don't believe lies. Don't ever let yourself believe lies. You're not stupid, you're very smart and intelligent, so much it scares this person, because it is this person, that abuses/abused you, telling you the things, that are secretly his/hers demons. You are worth more than this person had imagine. You are so worthy because whether you believe it or not, your a child of God. thereforeeee your worthy and again this person is just lying to you. And he's wrong again, saying "No body likes you" , i bet you can list a few people that like you eh? we certainly like you! This just proves, it's this persons insecurities, it's his fears that people don't like him, that no one will ever like him, that’s why he takes it out on you. May i ask, who is this person to you? Father, stepfather, brother, boyfriend? Please, try and get yourself out of his persons claws, don't let this person control you anymore, leave! get away from them. You don't have to be a victom anymore. God bless you. I hope you escape this.

When i want to make friends, i usually smile at the person. This can be hard if your shy, but theres no hurt in smiling at someone, and for all they know, your just being polite. But now, they know your nice, and just being yourself helps. Relaxing, and being yourself. Asking people if you can sit by them, asking them if they want to sit by you, etc.. Getting involved in activities, meting people, and finding people with common interests.

My dad... is the reason for any emotional drainage in our family. He is rarely happy, he is always picking arguments, and blows up at the slightest stupidest thing. He is like a giant mass of negative energy. And sometimes it's like a domino affect. He puts me down, belittles me, says i'm hopeless and don't amount to much, and you try and not believe such things, but when i was 13 i wanted to die with the emotional wounds he was putting me through. The only reason i didn't kill myself was because i was too scared to, because i love my friends and at least they're my reason for living, and because i have great faith in God. He use to love me, he use to be nice to me, and treat me the way i'm meant to be treated, but i got older, and he started emotionally abusing me too/as well as my mum. Mum doesn't like it as much as me, but sometime's they'll fight, but the next day they'll be buddy buddy again. But they're fights have been bad, Dad's had to go sleep somewhere else for the night, but more recently the funny thing is he'll sleep in the garage or set up a tent outside, that's the pathetic thing, he can't even leave the property when it gets that bad. The abuse has never really developed to physical abuse. But in a way, at least physical abuse would show the world what he's like. He covers up his insecurties very well- everyone at his work thinks he's great, he's nice to them, he jokes and laughs around them, he does them favours. i believe verbal and emotional abuse leaves deeper wounds, thinks that affect your spirit, and your self-worth. i haven't really let him affect me, i've tried. Of course he's affected me before, i'd cry myself to sleep with the pain of it all. I was 13 then, and now i'm 16, and i've learnt since then, that i have to be strong, and that he's the one thats messed up- not me, that he's the one who whose a failure, not me. He had no right to make me cry myself to sleep, to make me want to kill myself, to make me feel like a failure. The ironic thing is, i'm a really happy person, i'm very positive, and ALWAYS laughing- at school, with my friends- and it would probably be that way at home too, if his negativity didn't domino-effect us. So, that takes a really messed up person, in my opinion, to have the power and ability to make a happy-go-lucky person like myself, want to die from the pain of words, putdowns, emotional abuse. If anyone, has any tips for coping with negative people like my dad, could you please share?