deeanna

Hi Kidd good luck with your journey. Yes you need to spend some time with yourself, get to know yourself better. Pray and seek God too. the counselling will also help because sometimes another person can help you clarify some issues that are foggy right now. As you take time out you could volunteer as well. sometimes this helps you discover what you are or are not passsionate about but your helping other people in the process i went through that stage youre in (though it was caused by other factors) and i know that these help and, all in good time, youll figure it out. Let us know how you are getting on, ok?

im really curious to know how old you are (and how late i am in sending this - oh well forgive me i just joined this site). Anyway...hmm where to begin...ok for starters, even the best of us ****s up some times. Granted, some more than others, but the point is we all do. so this notion that you are " montrous, unlovable and wasteful human being" is one i think you should do away with. The important thing is that you are taking stock of your life. Also you need to see what you can do to get your life on track. Ive had to make some difficult decisions with my life lately and for the past 2 years all i did was decide that i was completely unlovable and all that. i had to wake up and realise that life isnt forever, and i cant waste it thinking abt my coulda's, would'as and shouldas...so ill share the same thing with you. 1. what have you learnt from this mess about yourself as a person (and i dont mean negative things) 2. what positive things can you put in place so that your life can change direction 3. what changes do you need to make as a person in all aspects of your life start from that point. you may need to change jobs like Avs said, just to change the atmosphere. join some clubs, get out of your way to actually meet people outside the circle of pals you have now...who knows where it will go? the most important thing is you need to change your attitude about yourself. as long as you still feel crappy it will project to other people and thwart your efforts. it takes work, mind, but its well worth the effort If you still need some support, drop a line

Hi JJ. I agree with everything everyone has said (one extra post wont hurt, right??). I have always had self esteem issues myself, and honestly, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. some may think you are cute (love the eyes and lips btw - and you do look well put together and about the nose, dude im African and we have some wiiiiiide noses) some may not. You cant do much about that. You have to learn not so be so critical about yourself (its hard coz im still learning them myself) and focus on your good points. think of your nose as part of a rich heritage and a hint at your character, for example.it works. and if that dooesnt work, look at all the responses youve got in these posts, we all think you rock

hi all (and dont worry spugly, even the brightest people make spelling errors). yeah i think all things happen for a reason...to test us (our integrity and character), to help us get a better sense of who we really are and to make us stronger (depending on how we respond to them)...whatever the lesson is depends on our response to the situation. I may think of something else later but thats what comes to mind.