dangerouslyinlove

wow! you really poured out your heart. but that's good, we need to sometimes. i just wanted to let you know that I was in a situation similar to yours and I found that the best way to get over it /him, (he was a friend, but not a close friend of mine, however I was so in LOVE with my friend) was to isolate myself from him completely. To have absolutely nothing to do with him. ELIMINATE him from my life FOREVER. no matter that he was a nice friend to have, but I had to do it for me because I was becoming insane. I was torturing myself and missing out on all the great things life offers, YOU WILL FIND HAPPINESS ELSEWHERE AND WITH OTHER PEOPLE. I used to think that there was no one else I wanted to be with or could be with except for him, BUT I found I was dead wrong, those are thoughts of nonsense and excuse me for being blunt, but get that bullsh!t out of your head. This will and is holding you back from enjoying life, life is beautiful and don't waste it. He obviously isn't wasting his life for you, so don't do that for him. I also realized in my situation that I could never be with him, he had a girlfriend and they became serious (I felt that way for him before she came along) and that made me realize also that he didnt feel any of the same feelings I felt for him even though at times I would see some signs that he did, like certain looks he'd give to me or the things he said to me, but you know what that was all false. When we are "in love" our minds interpret the smallest things as acts of love or interest from the person we're crazy for towards us. Take a look at your situation and you will see that small things he does or things you think he has done for you were done for other reasons NOT because of you. I know it hurts but it sounds like this guy doesn't even know you care about him that way and he doesn't care for you in that way either. Telling him will not do anything for you or him, you may feel that if you let it out you can move on, but just get real and forget about it. take my advice...THINGS OF THE HEART MUST NEVER ESCAPE ONE'S LIPS.

hello everyone, i have a friend, she is going through a lot right now. emotionally she is unstable. she has been feeling depressed a lot in the recent weeks and has been cutting herself. i don't know what to do to help her and to stop her from inflicting herself. the cuts aren't deep, but i'm worried that eventually they shall become so. i ask my friend why she does it and she says she can't pinpoint one exact reason, because it is a lot of reasons, little things like seeing someone or hearing something that gets on her nerves...like someone walking around dragin their feet irritates her and she goes into an irritated state and all those depression feelings rush to her. she goes to counseling but it doesnt help, they have put her on medication, but to me it seems that she has only gotten worst since she started her medication. i don't know what i can do to help her stay happy, things we used to do for fun are no longer fun for her and she's my best friend, i dont want to lose her, she is my only friend. if anyone could please respond with advice on what i should do to help my friend out of this hole... she recognizes that she has a problem but doesn't know the exact source because every little thing triggers it and she doesnt know how to stop feeling the way she does, for me as her friend, i'm dying watchin her do things to herself and be that way...what else can i do for her?????

alright...i need some advice. I like this one guy, I am actually in love with him, but he has no idea. I've been wanting to tell him but I've decided to just hold off on that for now and to try and build on our friendship a little more first. we are friends. but he's straight and has a gf. i knew it would be difficult to find time to spend with him... but i have found a way and its through studying. he really needs help in this one class and i offered to give it to him and he accepted so just waiting for him to let me know when. im just wondering if anybody has tips for any moves i should make when me and this guy actually meet up.

it is obvious that this guy (your friend) is gay. The things that you have stated on how you two interact and your whole trip to NY, that doesn't happen between a straight guy and another guy no matter if they are best friends. There's something else there and i think it is in your favor. Especially after you accidently texted him that message, i mean come on...if he wasn't gay or at least interested in you, why else would he want to get together with you the next, and why would he even respond to a text like that? you have said that he acts differently depending on the situation and surroundings, maybe he is like that because he doesn't want to be known as gay or bi just yet, i think he's curious and he knows that he has found somebody (you) that he likes and is willing to have something with. but he may feel that he is not sure if this is what he wants entirely.. but i can tell you that he does like you that's given. give it a try and talk to him...tell him what you feel...don't keep matters of the heart a secret... i hope ive helped u...take care dangerouslyinlove

HEY UT thanx for the reply man! you kinda got my situation except that part about not seeing myself in a relationship with a guy. I can visualize myself in a relationship with another guy. What i was tryin to say is that...I can picture myself in a relationship ONLY with the guy that I am in love with. That is what I want badly. I want this guy to be my boyfriend. But I can also see myself sexually involved with other guys, but that's it, only messin around sexually but nothing past that, nothing like the relationship I'm dreaming of with the guy that i love. And I do like girls. however i look at guys first and i dont want to be too graphic here, but i can only get off on guys (orgasm-wise), girls dont turn me on as much as guys. i've never been with anyone, no girlfriend before and like i said before i'm not "out" so i have never had a boyfriend. I've asked girls out but each and every time, i got rejected, so no luck there. And what you said about if i'm ready to lose everything for a chance to be with him. that's the thing, I want to tell him but i want it to be safe not where i tell him and i get rejected, become exposed as being gay then i lose everything along with our friendship. if i do tell him and he's cool and accepts me then i'd come out. i would lose some things but i would have him, u know. but then i have to ask myself... is he really worth losing everything. because you know this would be my first ever relationship and say it doesn't work out and ends then i would lose the relationship that i sacraficed almost everything in my life for. what do you think about that? would you take the chance? I think you're right on trying to build a relationship with him. We have a friendship but its not a close one. i need to spend more time with him but its difficult because of his work schedule and mine as well, and we dont share any classes either, and i know that whenever he has leisure time he spends it with his girlfriend. can you give me some ideas please? Am i ready to take the risks in the search for happiness? hmmm.. i am willing to sacrafice everything for the kind of love relationship i want with this guy, but i have the fear of becoming exposed in a negative way over me. i think i could take the rejection from him but i dont want that to mess me up by exposing me in bad light, you know how the word that i am gay would spread around and in a negative way. that's what i dont want. HEY i appreciate your response...how do i pm you? hoping to hear back from you. thanx again. dangerouslyinlove

hello everyone....just postin to see if somebody can give me any advice on my situation...kay here it goes... I am a guy and i'm in love with another guy. this is love, i don't feel that it is a crush, i only want to be with him and i can only picture myself with him. I want to be with him (Relationship) but he's straight well i'm not to sure about this he could be bi but he does have a girlfriend. And they seem to have a strong relationship (even though itz only been a month and a half long relationship for them). We are both goin to the same university and we are friends. But not really close friends, its more like a "what's up & see ya" kind of friendship, occasionally we exchange more conversation than that, but very rarely. I have this strong desire to just go up to him and tell him how i feel about him, however i am not "out" if you want to put it like that. I guess everyone thinks i'm just straight, seriously they all think i've had so many girlfriends but i haven't even had one, and niether have i had a boyfriend, so i'm a true virgin...lol...well i think i'm bisexual because i'm still attracted to girls (attracted meaning i find them beautiful and sexy) but sexually i'm only attracted to guys and only want guys. and girls make moves on me all the time but i have a really hard time picturing myself in a relationship, i can only see myself in a gay relationship with the guy that i love. but see the thing thats buggin me is that i can see myself with other guys, but only with those guys sexually...i dont think i need to explain sexually.....just SEXually. and i find that i mainly check out guys and prefer to look at guy over girls...look everyone...i am just confused, i want to know if anyone thinks i should just go up to this guy and tell him that i am in love with him. by doing this...my life will be turned upside down, i mean in every way like...college...family..friends.. everything would be gone, i would have to create a completely new life for myself because everything i know now would be gone forever. what is the best thing to do...let my love for this guy go untold and continue on fantasizing about a relationship with him and admiring him from afar (which is killin me) or tell him and take the risk of losing everything,...will i gain anything by telling him, and i am just scared because of his reaction, what should i do??? i appreciate anything anyone has to say, i can't really explain details because it would be too long of a post but knowin what you know from what i wrote what is ur adivce??? Thank dangerouslyinlove

wow, we are in the same boat..message me or something