Platypus

It really depends on the girl. For me, personally, I am only attracted to white men, although I myself am not white. But many of my friends - in fact most - dont have a preference. Do you have an Indian accent? Or did you grow up in the U.S.? I think that makes a bit of a difference as I would be much more inclined to date someone like Sanjay Gupta than someone from India. Does that make sense? Also, sometimes it has to do with geography. There are some places where people are very open to other races (ie. New York, L.A., Hawaii), and other places where you are totally discriminated against because of it. Personality is most important, but then again, you can't help what you are attracted to....

Have you ever thought of moving cities? Somewhere where your kind of music is appreciated? That way, you will have a larger network of people who share the same interests and a greater audience. You will open yourself to new experiences and meet new people. Since it sounds like you are kind of in a rut right now (which is exactly where I am) you have nothing to lose, right?

It is true that friends keep you around to fill some sort of need, isn't that human nature? You enjoy hanging around with certain people because they add to your happiness as well. They are fun, intelligent, inspiring, funny, adventurous, what have you. They can help add to your life and make you a better person. In my opinion, that's fine. Cutting friends off for valid reason, I think, is perfectly legitimate. I am fortunate to have a lot of close friends. However, there have been a number of close friends who I am still on good terms with, but no longer talk to. Once I lose respect for someone, that's it. I feel as though I do not want to surround myself with people I don't respect, mean people, people who I do not aspire in some way to be like. Meeting new people is easy - you need to keep an open mind and be open to new experiences and convey that willingness to others. I'm still learning - but the key is to be positive and fun, and it will happen.

Basically everything just blew up tonight. Last night, I went out with a good friend of mine and her friends. One of her friends was really distraught and had just "broken up" with her boyfriend. My friend had told me that they had a fight and they broke up and she is going through a hard time - and said not to bring it up with the girl who was sad. She was obviously sad - and people were comforting her all night, but she never said anything specifically to me but knew that I knew that something was wrong. Today at work, I had lunch with a coworker. Told her what I did last night, and told her that this girl had broken up with her boyfriend and was so sad, and I felt really bad for her. I'm going through a similar thing, so I really sympathized. Well tonight I get an irate phone call from my friend, saying she can't trust me with anything and why did I tell my coworker? Apparently my coworker told the girl's sister what happened, the sister called her to see what happened. The girl did not want her sister to know. So the girl is PISSED OFF with me for saying something, especially since I dont know her well, she said why would I even care? It really sounded like I was gossiping and was itching to tell everyone, which can be no farther from the truth. I genuinely felt bad for her, and it just "came up" - no ill intent. So everyone is mad at me - my friend said she can't trust me with anything (although she never said not to say anything to anyone), the girl is pissed that I said something, and I have been apologizing for 4 hours straight. But did I really do something wrong? I was merely relaying facts - that the girl was really sad, had gotten into a fight, and I felt bad. I didn't mean for it to get back to her or her sister and didnt mean to gossip. And the worst part is, my friend is not backing me up because she is afraid the girl will get mad at her for telling me what happened. HELP! Should I be feeling horrible about myself? I do, but on the other hand, I was merely relaying facts. Is she overreacting? Should I call or email her and apologize further? (She is not a really good friend of mine). Thanks so much...