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hazlcha, Thanks for the reply. That definetly is food for thought. I asked him those questions. He couldn't give solid answers. So I am still not 100% sure. The thing is, even in the best possible scenario: the communication broke down and he chose a passive-aggressive way to give me a message. That drives me crazy. I would not want a repeat performance. The replies are giving me things to think about, tho. Thank you.

Oh, to answer your earlier q: I asked him point blank if he had been seeing anyone else while he was away. He hesistated. I asked again (impressing myself that I sounded calm) and told me "actually, I did meet someone." I asked if he had slept with her. If he was interested in pursuing a relationship with her. "Haven't slept with her, but really like her." pfffttah!! It's true. It is good to know now. It's a big blow to the ego though! Not that that is a huge deal. It hurts my heart because I obviously thought we had a future. I will get over it. I follow no religion, but I find Satanism to have many valuable aspects to it. It is much different than I originally suspected. Thanks for the help. Very much appreciated.

Hey, Ultimately only you can know and choose what you want to do. But here's a few things to think about: Possibly telling her exactly what you posted here: "I am tired. I want to be with you. However, I it is exhausting me trying to guess how you are feeling and if we are okay." You could ask her where she is at and if she plans to be moving. A more concrete answer. Then, you will have more info to make decisions with. You could choose a course of action with confidence. It seems you do care for her a lot. I really do think you two just need to communicate more. Some people are better at it than others. You'll have to decide if her faults(which may never change) are tolerable and workable in the long run. Good wishes.

What?! It's interesting to see these replies. How can a 'break' be considered a trial breakup? No. I was very clear that I wanted to remain exclusive and that the seperation was for sanity's sake. He agreed and knew the 'rules' for being with me. I also do not agree that a loving couple can not take breaks. It's time to oneself, and perfectly healthy in my opinion. So long as the relationship stays in the focus and firstmost. Thank you for the replies.

Hellfrost, Oh yes, I believe you are right. It upsets me though because, well, frankly, I would hope that a partner of mine would be able to deal with his feelings more maturely than this. He had an opportunity to tell me how it made him feel. He could have handled it differently. I'm not perfect for sure. It is the malicious, underhanded way he let me know he no longer loves me that sucks. It is my first time dealing with this. You are a satanist? Very interesting religion/philosophy.

Hi Demond. Well, what is it that you would like to see happen in the near future? What do YOU want? Is she leaving and not coming back? Is there any realistic possibility for the relationship to carry on and grow? I'm 26. In my opinion, the two of you need to talk talk talk. You need to be real direct and get it out there. What you want and need from her. What you can give. And she needs to tell you these things too. If she won't - then she may never. It's sad but true. She may not know how to at this point in her life. It's all up to you. Remember: it's your life and if she is disrespecting you, it is your responsibility to defend yourself. Good luck.

A long relationship ended with cheating. On his part. Not mine. It had been rocky for a while before, no doubt about it. He was leaving for work for a month, like he often does. I asked for a break during his time working. A time to clear our heads and so that I could focus on myself and my problems (which were affecting the relationship negatively and I knew it). I made it clear I loved him and wanted to make things work. I only needed that time to organize, and he wasn't going to be home anyways. He agreed. And he met someone else. Or possibly already knew her, I can't know for sure. And he displayed this for me to see via his messenger id. Her name and his feelings were right there for me to see whenever I would log on. He knew I would see it. Here I was worrying and working and thinking of ways to make our relationship better, and to make him happy. And he is doing god knows what with someone else. I consider it cheating. I am so angry when I think about it. So cowardly. So cruel. So thoughtless of me and so very disrespectful. I don't understand. Not at all. I understand we had difficulties and it was affecting him too. I do not understand turning to someone else before finishing and dealing with our relationship. He knew it was a deal breaker for me. He knew I could not be with him after something like that. He knew it would cut me to the heart. I have been depressed and ill for a long time. That was my problem. Somehow this break up is firing me up to do well in my life again and get better. Part of it is I want to be happy on my own terms for once. And part of it is I want to show the world and myself that he can not get me down. I may cry sometimes, and it hurts like my heart is being eaten alive, but I can't let him 'win'. Why are people so careless and heartless and stupid - to cheat?! I'm sorry. I have no sympathy. Just be a man/woman and end the relationship you do not want to be in anymore! Say it to their face! Show self respect! In a way I am happy to be rid of him now. his character. It just hurts bad right now. And I hate that.