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  1. Demond34
    this is the same girl........3 times, 3 years in a row all around the same time.........we havent officially broken up but it has the same pattern as the other 2.......i'm treating it like a breakup however, as i'm tired of this
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    ive been in this situation 3 years in a row about the same time every year(worst times in my life), if you want some reading then check out the threads i started, click on my name and find all threads started( i didnt start many)........i just got done reading them and for some reason it made me feel better, maybe b/c i know that i have to move on this time and disregard hope.......man i wanted to pull my hair out reading those... maybe you should read some of your beginning posts over as well, its good to revisit what you were feeling and see if you made any progress
  3. Demond34
    bear, i feel your pain.......this is also my 3rd time around.....Day 2...one contact in the last 7 days.......it still hurts just as much, but i'm better prepared....i think the longest i have gone is 2 weeks, she always finds a way to get in touch with me in ways I can't avoid.....we got back twice today my mind was all over the place......"I want her back" and then "I dont want her back"........i was thinking of all the good times we shared then I was thinking of all the bad things that Ive endured..... My feelings today have been.....numb, sad, depressed, excited, lonely, cloudy, carefree, confident, insecure...you name it, all over the map ive been
  4. Demond34
    If you feel you're strong enough to open up the communication lines without bringing the topic of "us" up then do it. Maybe shoot her an email, but make it brief and don't mention how you've changed. But be warned you might not get a response or a response you might not like. Just make sure you can handle that.
  5. Demond34
    no need beating yourself up over it, it is only a natural process. It'll get better.
  6. Demond34
    What kind of questions does he ask her? It could be that he still cares about you and wants to make sure you're doing ok, and he may know that by contacting you, himself, that it would lead you on....... I don't know if I would over analyze anything. Stay strong with your commitment. If he really wants to talk to you, I'm sure he knows how to get ahold of you. Keep your head up and that contact you had with him over a week ago, did affect you even though you said it didnt. It made you feel good b/c it put hope back into you. Theres no doubt about it that NC is tough. We're all here behind you, either going thru it or been thru it, so stay positive.
  7. Demond34
    Bring your A-game Annie! lol
  8. Demond34
    Be funny, do not control her, listen to her, pick her up when she needs to be picked up, don't be lazy, give her the last bite, stay cool when arguing, let her have her own life while you do the same, don't wait for her to say I love you, call her just because, make her feel loved, take your time in bed, appreciate her and all the little things but most of all make her feel SECURE about herself and the relationship.
  9. Demond34
    Day 11 of NC..........just had a setback, found out from my friend that the ex came home last weekend and was here until yesterday to get more stuff. No calls from her.......One, probably b/c I said dont call me anymore or message me, if this is what u want to do and if you want me to move on. Two, probably b/c she doesn't want to deal with the emotions of seeing me, it would only set her back. Or, 3 she just doesn't care and is over me.......i'd find it hard to believe number 3, after 5.5 years....... Why has it set me back, because I think I still have a little denial or maybe hope or maybe both. I'm afraid to shut her out of my life for good. I don't know why. I teeter back forth every day, some times I feel good and some times I'm consumed of thoughts of her non stop. Why does a breakup make us feel so pathetic. I'm 24 going on 25 and I feel like a 12 year old stuck in a bottomless pit. I never felt so weak in my life....... I'm not giving up and I won't.....I will fight until I'm free of this mental torture and can just wake up with a smile, just because.
  10. Demond34
    I could see if she was truthful and said something like I love you and I'm doing this for us, so we can have a life together. But when you hear, "I don't love you anymore" and find out she left with another guy, I'd be extremely guarded too. After spending so long together and having that happen to you, I'm not so sure the majority of people wouldn't shut off emotionally to them
  11. Demond34
    I just don't understand this, why does him not fighting for her scream volumes? He got his heart torn out of him, thinking she just ran off in the sunset with another guy. I'm sure theres alot more to it, but the bottom line is he was left and told that she didn't love him anymore. If it screams anything, its his character and self respect he had for himself. Again, she was leaving him for an indefinite amount of time and was told his SO wasn't in love with him. What would you do if that was told to you? Try and persuade her to be in love with you. He loved and let go and was heartbroken in the process. I don't blame in the least and at the same time it doesn't discredit his love for her, just because he didnt fight for her.
  12. Demond34
    Keep saying to yourself that you can't control what she does or what happens in her life. Because you can't.....So try not to worry about things you can't control.... I know easier said than done, if it were that easy, I would be fine too.....Just do the best to UNDERSTAND we have no control over anyone else but ourselves. Good luck man
  13. Demond34
    great post man.......I have alot of the same feelings and emotions running thru me as you do. You hit alot of points dead on and I am also taking the same path you are. I'm not going to run away from it and hide it in someone else's presense. I need to be ok and happy with just being me and able to be happy alone. "I want to love me some me"- Terrell Owens... only then will I want to proceed into another relationship.
  14. Demond34
    icemotoboy- I just heard that james blunt song yesterday, yah, ouch, it hurts
  15. Demond34
    Its like a never ending battle with your partner if they can't let go of the past or are holding a grudge. Sure you can get back together and things will be fine for awhile, but if they don't let go and forgive it was always resurfaces and cause problems. The blinders come on and the changes you're making aren't recognized or appreciated. The only one that can get her to forgive or let go is HER. She needs to do this for herself. Stay strong man and believe if its meant to be it will be, that she will let go and come back. Don't force it on her, she'll have to do this by herself. If she is holding onto things, this will drain her emotionally and ultimately lead her to giving up and not dealing with it. Give her and yourself time, Good luck bro
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