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i agree shes confused but i dont understand how all this came on?? she not the type of person who would wana b friends with benifits and i know she needs to know someones really into her before she gives much feeling back. i know she likes me as more and she really cares bout me like i do her but she seems scared. i think while i was away she went out with her friends alot more and think shes scared of giving that up for some reason?? we both sed we dont wana change our lives 2 much n we are both friends orientated like we both like goin out n having a laugh with our mates but love pending time together! i feel like im pressuring her but she dosent wan me 2 leave her alone, i sed id giv her time to think but she dosent wan me to if that makes sense?? anyideas?

Hey so heres my storie, I have this close friend, we been friends for a while but we started to get closer and closer over the months, all of our mates av been askin us why we wernt a couple yet and what was goin on but neitha of us really knew. then we kissed for the first time and everything sort of pushed on further to the point where we were basically a couple, wed go out and hold hand and kiss n cudle. We talked bout how we wanted to stay the same but as a couple and how wed still see our friends n jus sorted out most of our fears about being together but we wouldent go out because i was goin on a weeks holiday. I'v come back from holiday and things wee a bit tense, we spoke ova my hol but we wernt as much wen i got back and now all of a sudden shes said shes worried bout ruining our friendship and dosent know wether she wants to go 2 the next level 100%. Or that shes not sure if she ready 4 a relationship n how she likes to do her own thing n stuff. i dont understand, she says she feels preasured by people always askin her n saying thing bout us being together. I dont get whats happened> any advice??? she also says she wans to b how we were b4 my hol but that was like a couple anyway! and that she wans us to alway b close n dosent wan 2 lose me?? whats goin on??? i know she hasnt met any1 else or anything like that. can sum1 help me before i go insane! Thanx to all who reply and i will write back to your comments asap! thank you!

I kind of keep thinking bout her aswel so if n e 1 has any ideas bout how to stop that would be cool also!lol. jus for now until i know wots goin on

Hey jus got me comp fixed, yeah i agree but like you said you cant control who you fall for, i dont know wot to think with her anymore, i think my friends sort of lost a bit of interest and shes said she has so you would think i would be happy cos we do flirt and stuff but recently she been a bit blunt with me, we had a break for like a week and she was upset with it, she was like ' i never want to do that again ' and stuff. not meaning to av 1 we jus sort of didnt speak 4 a week, and shes sort f touchy feely with me, any ideas about what to do? i wouldnt lose my friend woteva but i definitely dont want to lose her.lol. evan as a mate cos we get on grate an av alot in commen just dont know what to do from here?

Hey, i feel screwed at the moment, theres this girl i like n we were quite close, used to talk alot n always seemed to end up dancing at a club and that but i feel like i really do like her alot more now but she seems to have a thing for my mate n the kissed the other night and i dont really know how to feel, i mean we seem to be ok still but i know she likes my mate and i still want more with her, anybody got any advice for me? im feelin quite gutted now as i dont think or hope they will get anywhere because im not to sure whether hes interested, i know he used to be but now i dont know. Anyways if you got advice the i would apreciate it alot!loo Thanx

Hey all, right heres my story....... Theres this girl iv just begun to like im not madly in love but i do like her. Wellmy mates and i know this girl has liked 1 of us for a while but we didnt know who, then she begun to get closer to me and my best mate and she says she loves us and stuff but i think she likes im and well im a bit gutted bout it, i dont really know what to do?? I thought she liked me but i dont feel like i can make a move or ask her out without knowing, i mean we asked her who she likes but she never gives a straight answer and jus says she likes us both, i dont really get her anymore.lol. any advice would be a massive help cause i do like this girl.

I decided to stay away, her problems arnet mine and she got herself into the mess, i dont mean to be harsh but i dont want to get involved and my life goin good at the moment im having loads of fun and that why should she interrupt all that.

I think i know aswell, im more than happy at the moment and shes not really a big part of my life anymore but she dosent have alot of people in her life that she was really close to apart from me an her bf and i think now shes sort of lost both of us she may feel she needs one of us back. I mean she was asking me what shes done wrong and asking what she can do and stuff! Its not really a problem with my step dad just a father son row.lol. Anyway with her i feel like if she dosent have me she wont have anyone.

Hey i'v taken your advice and stayed away from her problems, I have however been seeing her boyfriend more as hes a good mate of mine. Not for any reason in particular and shes started txting me trying to become friendly and asking what shes done wrong and if im ever goin to speak to her! Today she even txt me sayin she hopes im ok and she wishes i could talk to her about my problems??? I dont really know what to think, i mean i had a blazing row with my step dad but nothing i cant handle and shes oviously heard about it. I dont really get where shes coming from now?

Heres my previous posts about this girl. Anyway Shes just been dumped by her bloke and hes a good mate of mine and i heard everything that happened, she cheated on him with her ex and thenher ex went to see my mate and ended up getting arrested, no charges tho and he dumped her, good on him!. The thing is like i seaid i started getting phone calls and txt messages and she even bawled her eyes out for like 10 minutes down the phone to me, i really dont want to care but obviously still have slight feelings for her or somthing? I dont know what to do! any and all advice is always much appreciated!!

Thanx guys, I have moved on to a point where i dont really think bout her much and havent been tempted to ring her or anything like that. I do still care about her a bit tho but i expect thats expected. Im going to go NC and see how that goes.

Ok heres my story for thoes of you who dont know. Any ways this girl is doing my head in now, im totally over with likeing her but i would still like to be friends! The thing is she always gives me grief about not ringing her or txting her like before, i mean i'v moved on, sort of, but she never rings me or emails me or anythig at all but she expects me to do all of this to keep us as good mates. She wont talk to me if shes with her boyfriend and then complain that im ignoring her, and then when i say you havent exactly rang me or got in touch she come out with 'iv been busy', then i get a look which would of killed me before but luckily i can brush it off now.lol. i dont know what to do?? i would love things to b the way they were even if i dont care bout her as much. Any advice on how to deal with her would be much appreciated!lol

to love and lost is better than to never have loved at all, remember all the good times you shared and she will always be with you! I truley hope you feel better and just remember all the fond memorys of her and try and stay in contact with her family or friends if you felt that strongly about her, it can only help with yours and their grief. i lost someone close to me and it only helps to talk.

grymoire how do you cope with being friends now tho? the same thing has happened to me, iv kept my distance for the last few days and we had a row why i wasent keeping intouch but i dont know if i can be that close with her again with all these feelings! plus she has a new boyfriend and it kill me when i know there together, hes been away and she seems to think im acting weird and really wants us to be close again. any advice?

I saw her tonite, she had a massive go at me for not contacting her, but iv been away and thought i just want her out of my head, i said i wanted her as my closest friend again but do i?? she really went at me for not gettin in touch. and she said she was jealous iv been chating to this friend of ours for the last few days, mainly i think it helps me get over her, but just the thought of her with that guy hurts me! i want her in my life sooo badly but is it better if i dont and just heal without her? i think if we saty really close friend then the feelings will never go away! im completely heartbroken still and whenever i feel like im going to mend she hurts me a bit more, whether she means to or not is another question.