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If you read my previous posts you would know that its been tough, ive done a lot of things to forget her and they seemed to work. I began to move on with my life and realise that it was over. My life was getting better emotionally. Lately, however, I have been thinking about her when im laying in my bed trying to sleep. Guilty pleasure I guess. I stay strong throughout the day but before I go to sleep I just give in and end up falling asleep thinking about her. I know I should not be doing this and I need to stop. I am up late and I got the idea that maybe if I stayed awake until I couldn't keep my eyes open it might work but, as you can see, im thinking about her right now. We have been going to the same college where we both have made a lot of friends through daily aquantances. I have decided to change college's because I cant see her and her boyfriend anymore. Whats next? me leaving town? 2 years of college left; new job might lead me to do just that. Hopefully I will get it, my grades are beginning to slip, CA is competitive. On the bright side I have found a new girl. Not quite her but then again I should not be comparing anyone with her. Shes not comparable.

She does for sure, friends that are close with her have told me among other things. I dont know if contacting her is a good idea tho shell think im still into her ( even though i am but i dont want her to know that )

Hi, I guess it all started a few weeks ago when, after a long time, started thinking about her again. Its been a long time since we began to try starting a relationship and when that, along with our friendship, went down the drain. It was hard for me and I made a lot of mistakes along the way. After realising everything I did NC and it seemed to work. Went on with my life and even found a few other relationships along the way... mainly to heal I guess, I was never over her and I guess im still not. I recently found out she has a new relationship and it the thought of another guy in her life just hurts. I wish I could just phone her and tell her to leave him. Not so simple.. I have no idea what she has been up to and the wondering just keeps my mind occupied. I need to talk to her. What should I do? thnx for reading.

I will follow your guys' advice. It may be slow but progress has been made on me dealing with her not being with me and I will continue it until shes out of my mind completely. I guess I was just trying to skip being completely over her because I was hoping that I would get her if I tried contacting her again. NC will continue and I will continue doing the many activities that I do to keep my mind occupied. Thanks again for the help this really is a great site. p.s... I will be coming back for more advise if do need help and would appreciate the same great help as this time when the time comes.

So move on then and if its mean to happen wait for her to come to me? Its all going to be the same, ill start going out with a girl and just not feel it not because im comparing the one im going out with to her but because she just doesnt do it for me. Which make me think... why am I going out with her. Everyone just ends up disapointing you in the long run. So how is it worth it? To gain experience which I dont even need... or to pass time until I find the one I want, or she finds what she wants in me. If I could leave town and start a new future I would, but its not always that simple... responsiblities regarding others always comes in the way.

Sorry if this may sound redundent, but what now? Also, I totally forgot to say... she is currently going out with another guy so maybe its not such a good idea afterall. Pretty stupid of me to say this now but I thought maybe it wasn't such a big thing mainly because when I was with others I still knew I cared for her.

Thanks again for the responses. As for blender's response and question about whether she was the type to call if she wanted to get in touch, not really. She tended to keep her distance even though she wanted to talk which was maybe because of her insecurities. Well thats what I think. I know im not over her and frankly I dont think I ever will be now. Its been over 2 years and, like I said before, I have done everything to get over her. I dont want to create an emotional plan for myself because I dont want to go through what I have before so I will not be contacting her. From what ive done before when ive felt like this, I think im smart enough to know that I dont want to do them again. If you guys dont mind me asking, has anyone else gone though something like this? where whatever you do you just cant not let her go and how are you dealing with it and what are you doing to maybe forget about her or even try to get her back?

thnx for the responses I really appreciate it. Ive decided to back off on the contacting part . I dont want to go through what I did in the past which was nothing short of an emotional tragedy spiraling to destruction. Maybe in a few more months when I know her response, positive or negative, wont affect my decisions and the way I feel around her ill bring the idea up once again. Just got to stay strong and hope something might happen in the time to come; and to be honest I was hoping that we become more than friends and because of that alone I dont think im ready to try to contact her. Through my experience I guess ive learned to use logic over the feelings of the heart. Thats only after I looked at my feelings over logic so much. I cant deny that it hurts. A lot. I cant help but think that maybe she'll move on if I wait any longer... but how do I know that shes even waiting. I guess im just venting now but at the same time im asking for advise on how to deal with this. I do everything to try to forget her... Play club soccer, go to college fulltime, have a job and I even put myself in many social atmospheres where I socialise with everyone. What else can I do? I do everything by the book on trying to get over her and its not working. Its been 2 years...1 year since i realised that I shouldn't be down on it and try to work through it. Its not like im like this everyday. I dont think about her like I am right now. This is the first time ive actually put how I feel in perspective and I guess im realising now that im not over her like I thought I was. I guess everyone breaks down atleast once. This is the first time in over a year ive felt like this and I hope it doesnt lead me to the same feeling I used to feel when i was trying to get over her in the beginning of our end.

Anything other than an email? Overnalyze

well its been over 2 years since our relationship ended and as you can see, im still thinking about her to some extent. I think in some ways we have spent time a part long enough to feel comfortrable around eachother if we ever do decide to spend time together again. So, I was wondering if anyone could maybe suggest something that I can do to re-establish a relationship with her beginning as friends ofcoarse. History wise, we drifted apart after trying to start a relationship and our friendship never was the same. She moved on with a new someone and I moved on with a few of my own. We are both in college but havent talked to eachother in a very long time. The whole NC thing. Thanks in advance for the replies.

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