KristyK

OK, so I met this guy about a month and a half ago at my work...he's a customer. We started talking whenever he would come in, he invited me to a party at his place that I couldn't make it to. Well he came in today and we were chatting about the usual stuff and I mentioned I lost a phone number he gave me for a store, and that I was going to call him to get the number, but I didn't have his. So we talked for a bit more, he didn't even end up buying anything...and then he gave me his number and told me to call him if I "needed the number to the store...or anything"...and before he left he said "you should stop by for a beer sometime". I'm very interested in this guy, but don't like the pressure of me having to call him. I should have given him my number too...why didnt he ask? Well I guess I get the impression he's a little shy. Anyways, so should I call him and ask him for drink sometime this week...or is there a better approach? Or does anyone have a better suggestion? I don't want him to think I got the wrong impression if he was just looking for friendship and isn't really interested. I've never done this in my life and it's scary

Ok, so this may be a really dumb question...but yesterday a guy came into my work...I've talked to him twice before for all of 5 minutes total...and yesterday he came in to get something and when he done he said "I'm kind of having a housewarming party on Friday if you want to come (or "you should come")" or something along those lines.... The way he said it was so cute He then introduced himself, I introduced myself...we chatted for a little, he reminded me about the party, then he left. I kind of get the feeling he's interested in me, but I am so dumb when it comes to this stuff.... Opinions?

If you shave it all off....doesn't it get uncomfortable when it starts to grow back? And how often do you do it?

Hmmm...what am I afraid of...? I honestly don't know...I guess it's just out of my comfort zone...like I said I am really pretty shy! I am a cute girl, and I don't think he's out of my "league"...I know I have nothing to lose by saying hi...guess the worst thing that could happen would be he says hi but is not interested in conversation...I don't know. I need to start taking risks! Nice risk eh...saying hi to a guy... Oh well, we'll see.

Hey everyone....well, he wasn't there today...so I couldn't do it I am a very shy person and this is very hard for me to do, especially with him being so cute Everytime I think about doing it in the day I feel like I can, but when it comes down to it, I don't know if I will be able to. I don't even know if he has a gf...but there's nothing wrong with saying hi. If I turn the situation around, I know that I would love it if a cute guy came up and said hi to me... I guess I'm just looking to be told guys would like it too and not find it weird. Thanks for the advice..now to work up the guts to do this.

OK guys...question: how would you feel if a girl came and talked to you out of the blue? There is a really cute guy that waits at my bus stop after work...I've only seen him there for about a week and a half, and not everyday (I THINK he might be new...). I catch him looking at me, and he catches me looking at him. I would love to talk to him, but not sure if it would freak him out or something. Whatare your thoughts? Thanks so much

That's fine...I had lost interest in him until his latest comment of "I like older girls"...and all I meant by hang out sometime was just that. He was new to town and didn't seem to have many friends. Well I'm not disappointed by your reactions to this... we will see what happens today....

I've posted before about my sitaution with a guy who works in my town. I thought he was interested in me from little things that he'd done (see other posts), so I said "we should hang out sometime" to him and he said "ya...we'll see". That was totally unexpected but I didn't let it get the best of me and I would still see him at his work. About a week or two after that incident, he came to my work and we were just chatting about the weekend and stuff and he said to me "I really need some new girls to hang out with"...now I should have said something but in my head I was thinking "you had your chance, I suggested that last week...". So I didn't say anything...maybe that was a mistake. Do you think he was trying to redeem himself from before? Many times he has come in and asked when am I off work and what was I doing after, but he's never asked me to do anything after when I tell him I'm not doing anything. Anyway, the latest confusing piece of this game that I have is last week I went to see him and he told me his birthday was next week and I told him mine was the following week. He asked how old I was going to be, and I said "older than you" and he said he knew I was older but how old was I going to be....so I told him...reluctantly...and he said "that's ok, I like older girls"...now tell me...is THAT interest???? He appologized for not coming to see me at work when he said he would but he had to do stuff for his family, but when was I working this weekend and he would come in and visit. Now I'm tired of these games and just want SOMETHING to happen...does he sound interested?

I did 9 and a half....

I'm in a similar situation myself except I asked the guy "out"...well, to "hang out" anyway, which I thought was a way to be casual about it. He sent the same msgs this girl was sending to you (flirting, asking questions about me, showing up at my work, etc...which may have been HIS way of being friendly, but I took for interest)...and as soon as I go for it , he says "ya...we'll see..." I know how you're feeling with the rejection thing, but I am not going to let this get the best of me. I will keep talking to him and treating him like a friend as if nothing happened...his loss anyway! That's the way you have to think...her loss! There IS someone better out there!

I appreciate everyone's input...but to be quiet honest, I did not see what I did as asking him out. He has given me lots of hints that he's interested and whenever I saw him on a Friday or Sunday and asked what he was up to/how was your weekend....he would ALWAYS say he had no plans/it was boring and he did nothing (I felt it was hinting)...thats why I decided to say "well we should hang out sometime" beause it flowed with the conversation. I didn't say anything specific or make specific plans, just a suggestion. Now it's out there. He has only 1 friend he hangs out with...so I thought it would be fun to have someone else to hang out with, and see where it goes! Yes, I could have mistaken his friendlyness for "interest", but he could have mistaken my friendlyness as "asking out". I'm not going to let this get the best of me....I will keep going to his work and acting friendly like nothing happened. Yes, I could have waited for him to ask me to "go out" if he WAS interested, but I don't want to sit around waiting for that. I just hope he doesn't start avoiding me now!

Well I did it....I got a "ya...we'll see..." Gimme a break! Oh well....I tried....no regrets eh

So....how did it go?

Just ask her if she wants to hang out sometime...for real! It sounds casual if she's not interest!

Would you ever just flat out say "no" if asked that? That's what I'm afraid of. I don't really mind if it goes anywhere or not, I would be happy with friends. He is attractive, but I don't really KNOW him...just in passing.