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the websites r handy thanx beyond the sea.

thanx for rememberin me. Im not goin to tell any one. Ive got enuff money. I just want to find out if i could get help from there. My husband hasnt been abusive since but he isnt acting like a husband and is out all the time. Im in no rush, i just need some websites.

Hi yal. Im sorry if this aint the right place to write, but i written a few months ago about my pysco husband... Im 4months pregnant now and my marriage is not gettin any better. Id like to leave and go back to manchester maybe. Im in Cyprus now. I need a place to stay in manchester (uk), does anyone know what my benefits are and what i can claim??? Does anyone know any websites???

I would be, Im jus gona start lukin 4a place 2live over the net. And put myself first for once

My aunt knows everything. She will do anyfin 4me. Its jus that i end up feelin guilty. So am gona giv him ONE last chance.Im strong inside so i aint scared of him.Im gona leave him 1day if he does one more mistake coz if we break up,my whole family gets stresed out2. I actually love cyprus coz all my family is here exept 4my mum,dad,broz. But i got lot of family here. Im gona leave him and just get help from ma family if he duz it again. thx

Thankyou all of you so much. Me and my husband made up this morning. Im still angry with him because he come home drunk last night and forced me to have sex with him. I didnt say no, because i dont want what happened happening again. There isnt any shelters here, i dont know my way round. But i have my aunt behind my back, and im gonna have to go to my dads. I do have a british passport. Im stayin strong, im just gonna make a plan and save money. xx

thx music guy. Im gona make a plan and think things thru.

You are all very right. Thanks alot. I dont think il have a baby yet because if i did i wouldnt be able to go back to england with a baby.Theres a law in cyprus where the babys father has to giv permission to his child to leave the country. My dad knows most of the things and has actually threatend my husband. My husband jus cum home and left, he didnt go bed early coz he dint work 2day. Hes trying to creep to me now. I want to scream but i have to jus put a fake smile on. Im jus goin to try and see how things work out. At least i can say ive tried. If it dusnt then il have to go back to my dads or jus put my self first for once and save and rent a app or sumfin.... Il let yas know. It means alot to u all, coz theres no1 to talk to. Also my aunt knows everything. Before i went england her husband well shouted and threatend his brother (my husband) that hes gonna break his bones if he tuches me again. At Least i hav my husbands family and my family on my side. ((( sooorrrryyyy 4 goin on and on...)

Thankyou all of you. But i cant afford an appartment, that is what i would love to do. Im saving now so that is my plan one day.(if he doesnt change). Like i said i cant go back to england. Me and my dad never get on. Im Turkish, but have been brought up with all english people, so im kinda english. But my dad and husband are like really strict turks. They dont believe in people living alone unless they are married.they are back headed

You really are in a frustratin situation. I think like confessoress said, that you need to give your relationship time. I understand that you are very frustrated. You have every reason to be. You just need to be careful. (Women are hard, i know from me!) Try buying her things or go somewhere different to make a change. Show her that you really care and its not all about french kissin! She might start to feel different. Good luck...

Hi, I really need help, I am crackin up and really need some advice. Im nearly 20yrz old and have been married for 1and 1/2yrz. During this time weve had lots of rows, ive left him for a month and went to see my family in england. I live in Cyprus now.We got back together 3months ago. The thing is that my husband is a phsyco. He miss understands everything that i say and any problems we have he goes and tells his mother.He told his mum that i dont clean the house and make pizza everyday and that i dont like his mum.(ITS ALL A LIE)I have also been on stress tablets since being married. When i left him a few months ago, it was because he hit me over and over again badly on my face, just because i didnt want sex coz i was having heart problems. He even tried to rape me.He also kicked me out of the house because the dinner i made was too spicy!!! (he actually likes spicy food). My aunty lives opposite me and my husband is her brother in law. They used to get on great before we got married. he now hates her and isnt talkin to any of my family or his own brother (my aunts husband). he says that they are jealous, when there is nothing to be jealous about.He thought that the spicy food i made, that me and my aunty planned to make him 'extra' spicy food so he can burn his mouth. None of this is true.he never believes what i say so thats why he through me out the house. I have never giv him a reason to shout at me. I cook and clean every mornin. I dont go out, just once every 2weeks to do food shoppin.I have sacrificed my whole life for him. I left my mum,dad and brothers in Enlgand to marry him. I used to go out shoppin everyday in england. I was free. Now that i live in cyprus in a village, my husband doesnt let me go out. His jealousy is very bad. Neway.....i got back from england on October 19, forgive him. He was great for 3months. But his temper started again the other day. He is a builder so he is coming and going all the time.One day he said to me hes gonna come in the afternoon for me to fix him something to eat. He usually comes at 1/2pm and sometimes doesnt or says hes already ate. Neway that day i seen him near my house so i thought id go to the shop 2mins away with the car (i ran to the car)and get him some bread so he can have with his soup. My auntys kids were coming out of school just that time,the school is opposite the shop, so i got the kids and come home, all in 10minutes. When i got home he was soooo angry. He said that i ran to the car so he cant stop me, he misunderstood again. I ran to the car so i can comeback quick so he can eat. He started geting things and throwing it round the house, he was threatening that he gonna hit me again. I tried to tell him the truth but he didnt believe me. We were arguing over something really little and stupid. I couldnt believe the way he was reacting. That night we made up. Straight after sex he starts being sarcastic again. He is sex mad, so i figurd that he used me for sex.Yesterday we were talkin but cold to each other. He started to talk really bad to me, when i just asked a normal question. We ended up arguing again. Blaming me for all sorts of stuff that ist true at all. If i ever do anything wrong i admit it. He will NEVER. He jus kept telin me all these lies. Talking dead bad and very DIRTY about all my family.He was actually bullyin me, pushing his fist against my face. And then he said that he doesnt want me and was gonna ring my dad and say that i dont listen to him. He wanted a divorce. I didnt giv him my dads number so he went to go in his van. I went after him and broke down in tears. Im telling him let me know what ive done, I havent done anything.ANYTHING WRONG.I asked him why hes makin up all these lies and why he hates my family so much. He imagines things and believes them. He can be the best guy ever sometimes, then turn out to be the worst. He really does love me and would never cheat on me. It is as if his jealousy is takin over his love. He wants me to not mix with my aunty or anyone, and sit at home allday long,while hes at work. Im 20.How can i. I want a life.I cant even watch tv because its turkish and i dont understand it. Ive given up sooo much for him. He doesnt understand.I show him closeness. he never takes me out. He comes home from work at 5 and goes bed at 7. I have to go bed at that time too. All he thinks about is work and sex. We are also trying for a baby. Maybe it will change him. I dont think it will tho. This isnt a life for a 20yr old. HELP ME PLEASE,WHAT DID I DO TO DESERVE THIS.!!! what would you do??? he is like jackll and hyde. I dont want to leave him because il hav2 go back to my dads house and we dont get on well.