mr. lonely

Thanks for the post -NubianLove. This is my first time logging in for a few weeks. About the age thing, we were both born in the same year, just different months (5 months difference) The arguing.. That was most likely the major issue we had. And yea, now that a few months has past since we broke up, I look back at the arguments and the reasons we stressed ourselves over seem so miniscule in the relationship we both had. During this time I have alone really gave me the chance to think about alot of things. It surely made me alot more mature and also taught me a lesson for future relationships that I will have. She might return back home for the fall semester or might just stay in school over there..dont know for sure, but i sure do miss not seeing someone (especially her) since new years.. I know she didnt forget about me but doubt she thinks much about me since she's distracted with this new relationship. I do know for sure that she'll never find someone like me who she can be herself around, not be ashamed of things to do around (Once she was sick and vomitted outside of my car and was crying so I kissed her on the lips which she didnt wipe yet and told her that I loved her, I am a very clean person but that may seem gross to other people but im the kind of guy who alot of people dont have to be up-tight around) Anyways, im going outside now to enjoy some fresh new york city air To all those who recently broke up with your loved ones, believe me, everything will be ok over time..you just cannot sit at home. Go out, drive somewhere, spoil yourself with some tasty food, go shopping (im a guy and love to shop) etc etc. __JUST DONT STAY AT HOME AND CRY--

Ok today the ex messages me via internet. Didnt talk about anything, i asked how shes feeling...replies "fine, u?" i say "im ok i guess". I mentioned that i sent her an email. She probably checked it but told her she should read it when she has time and is alone. Then we ended the conversation and said bye to each other.... ** this was after 2 weeks of no contact...im definitely not expecting anything else from her. another thing i forgat to add. I told her that i was shocked that she actualy came online and messaged me, she replies "lol yea me too! just kidding"

also, i dont have any other way of contacting her but to show up at her job during the day. Would it be a good idea that I leave a message with the receptionist and wait for her to call back and set up a date to meet?

well the main reason to meet her mom was to leave at the end of the day not looking like a jerk because im thinking that im portrayed as one for not keeping in contact with her. Im also pretty sure she would bring up the situation with her daughter because when i called my ex after we broke up, she sounded like she was crying and told me she was on the other line with her mother, but didnt admit to crying when i asked her.

As some of you might know my story, I was with this girl for almost 3 years..we both fell deeply in love (lots of tears of love these past 3 years) Well the whole story can be found here: As the title of this post says, im thinking of having lunch with her mother in a few days and talk things with her, tell her my wrong doings towards her and my feelings (my love) towards her daughter. Not in anyway is this some sort of plan to win her back because were both 20 years old and can make our own decisions. But i just feel really bad that when i last seen her mother, she asked me to keep in contact with her but i never got to ask her or give her my phone# (when i first met her, she told me "so hows my future son-in-law doing?"). This was after her knowing that I was dating her for 2+ years.. I also believe this new guy probably already met her mother when he was here also. -Would this be a good idea? Any ideas on how to approach this situation or should i just leave it alone? Thanks!

My gf of almost 3 years broke up with me because she claims i wasnt the best person in the world..anyways the relationship DID get very deep between us. So a few days before i last spoke to her she told me that every morning when she takes the bus to school theres supposedly a guy that looks "exactly" like me who takes the same bus as her. Just wondering if anybody went through this experience in seeing somebody that looks like your ex and how you dealt with it. Also another thing is that i noticed this girl always pulls off these "transitions" between guys...always breaking up with one once she finds another or see's a guy WHILE she is still with the old bf then breaks up with him. This is what exactly happened to me. Shes told me that im her 2nd bf and believe it, but who knows? Im assuming she might be fearful of being the dumpee so she moves first and takes the chair as being the dumper. Maybe one day her fear will catch up to her..

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Heres the link to what happened with my ex of almost 3 years: As the title of this thread says: "pictures, gifts and nicknames" Some people have said this is a dead issue, some said to do nc and move on. Im asking for replies from females on this site because i guess they would know more or have done this before, but im open to responses from anybody. So i need to know what are the reasons for these actions that i will write below and the psychology behind it. The same post is on the original thread but i figured if i made a new topic in another forum, i would get some more answers. Here i go, The last time i talked to my ex (4 nights ago) I told her to either mail me back these pictures i gave her of me or throw them out because i see no reason to keep them since this guy she claims is making her feel "better". I have nothing against that because i admit said some pretty bad things to her in the past. Ok enough with the preaching. This was after days of calling her and also letting her know before she came to the state where her family and i live. She first tells me that she will bring them (this was when she was on the other side of the U.S.) Then tells me shes not sure if she brought them (this is when she was already here). So i dont bother asking anymore and give up. Then the last night i spoke to her (which was over the phone) I brought up the pictures again and told her how much they mean to me and they were the only copies i had left and want to put them back into this family photo album i have. Again, I asked her to mail them to me, she replies back and says that shes going to hang on to them for reasons she didn't explain to me. Then i ask her about this small ceramic dog i gave to her, she tells me that she gave it to her boyfriend but quickly says that shes kidding and tells me that shes also going to hold on to that too! (i knew by her voice that she was truly kidding about giving it to someone else) Now I discover that shes calling this new guy the same nick names she started calling me through-out our relationship. Has anybody found out their ex has been calling their new gf/bf's the same names the called you?? Any explanation behind all this madness?? Also this dude is a international student from the same group of people she met. Im guessing that he will someday have to leave the country..

i indeed have went NC..and am talking to other girls right now...talking to as many people as i can really DOES help. I stood inside the first few days after we last met and felt miserable about myself and all the things i told her that hurt her feelings sometimes i wished i would of went back in time and never said those things to her but hey...you learn from your mistakes right? Now if im not around any people i sometimes just take a walk for a few minutes outside with a pack of cigarettes and probably call up some people and talk. Oh yea, i found out through some sources that my ex started to drink, smoke pot and cigarettes and take sleeping pills since she got back..pffft looks like i really wasnt the one to suffer the most because of her decision after all! Two thumbs up for me! Forgat to add this in earlier: The last time i talked to her (which was 3 nights ago) I asked her to either throw out my pictures along with this small ceramic dog i gave to her as a gift or mail them back to me. She said that shes going to keep the pictures of me when i was a child and the ceramic dog because i was nagging her to mail them to me when she gets back to her school in a few weeks...I dont know what that means...can any females comment on that? Thanks for all the support and opinions i've gotten so far...This site has showed me the light (probably sounds silly..but yea)

Yea...im already talking to another girl and trying to forget about the 3 years i've waisted with this other girl. What do you people recommend i do if she calls later on down the line? I've been dont to tell her to "go f&ck youself". But i've also thought about "taking" her back and then hurt her feelings back because she was telling me that she been on "both sides of the boat" in relationships, meanwhile from what she's told me...she was the one who was always leaving relationships because she was finding someone "better"...dam i feel like a loser for the time i've waisted by creating this image in my head of her and the opporunities that i let pass bye.... life goes on right?

A couple of things i forgat to add...she told me i was her "1st love" and that shes not one of those rebound things with this guy. I also asked if hes ever been in a relationship as long as ours and she claims he never has. She is 20 and so am i, this "new" guy is 26 so im assuming hes been through alot of relationships and knows how to make things seem so sweet. I also read that the first few months of a new relationship seem to be like a "honeymoon", I remembered that was the case with me and this girl, afterwards it was like .ehhh, just spending time with each other...i guess things just got boring but we still had alot of feeling for each other. But from what she told me that he wants to get married, have a child with her etc etc...i dont know if this is true or to just make me feel bad...but why would a guy say those things if he only knew her for a few months? Oh and btw..hes an international student..pffft...

Hey everyone! This girl i was with for almost 3 years just broke up. I'll start the whole story off like this: She moved to the other side the U.S. to go to school and I stood on another side (east coast, west coast). She just left for school this past summer. We were the type of couple to argue till our last nerves and then make up afterwards. So after lots of arguments she went to school over there, I dont think it was because of the arguments but because they had the types of schools she needed to persue her career. Anyways during her first couple of weeks there I went to see her for a week then afterwards we kept in contact with each other over the phone, not too much email communication. She came this thanksgiving and told me that she was talking to another during her last night on the east coast. I didnt seem offended because she said it was nothing serious and she didnt have many friends to talk to during school, at least she was honest right? So i kept on calling her after thanksgiving to keep in touch and left her a couple of voicemails and text messages..she finally calls be back after a week and leaves me a voicemail telling me that shes been busy with projects, finals etc. and doesnt really have time to talk. I give her the distance shes needs to conentrate on her school work. Then she tells me that shes coming back to new york for christmas and new years. Right before she comes to visit her family she calls me and tells me that shes now in a relationship with this guy. My heart, like many other people hearts gets shattered when they hear something like this, especially after being with a girl for over 2 years. Then after the usually "living hell" experience, new years is 2 days away so i decide to call her up and ask her to have dinner with me for new years because i had nobody to spend it with. So after almost an hour of talking to her over the phone i finally manage to get her to go with me. We go to a japanese restaurant, eat drink etc. Then go to a bar and watch the new years ball drop on tv. We both hug each other and say happy new years. Then while walking her home she tells me that she cannot have certain feelings towards be because shes with someone else right now but I do still have a place in her heart as "friends" only. I say the same in return. She also says that she wished that every night could of been like this (no arguments or fighting) it was probably the calmest i've ever been with her for a long time. So i walked her to the front door of her building, we hug, she kisses me on the cheek and i kiss her back on the cheek. Then she give me one of those puppy eye looks and holds my hand. After that day i called her the next morning to find out hows it going because i knew her 4 years before i went out with her (making it almost 7 years total) She tells me not to call her anymore because i hurt her in the past and she wants the wound to heal, so the more i get in contact with her the more the "wound" will open back up. She also says that she doesnt want this new guy to find out she was with me for new years. After that i still call her and talk, she sometimes would answer the phone really happy and nice and sometimes would have an attitude. Last time i talked with her i asked if later on we might meet up and try again, she replied "maybe. we'll see" And to call her in a few months. After reading a few of the posts on this site i decided to do the NC thing and havent called her for 2 days already. Any opinions on what this relationship would come out to be in the future? Theres alot of things i could still write about but rather keep it sort of short...if anybody has questions i can answer i will gladly reply back with the answers.