BlueMan

I need some advice on what could be a life changing decision. I've suspected for some time now that my girlfriend has been having an affair. The usual signs. Phone rings, I answer, someone hangs up. She started going out 'with the girls' a lot recently although when I ask which girls it is always "Just some friends from work, you don't know them". I always look out for her taxi coming home but she always walks down the drive although I can hear a car setting off. As if she has got out of the car round the corner. Why? Is it not a taxi? I once picked up her mobile up just to see what time it was and she went beserk and screamed that I should never touch her phone again and why was I checking up on her. Anyway, I have never approached the subject with my g/f. I think deep down I just didn't want to know the truth but last night she went out again and I decided to check on her. I dediced I was going to hide behind my car which would give me a view of the whole street so I could see which car she gets out of. It was whilst crouched behind my car that I noticed rust around my rear wheel arch. so my dilema is,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, Should I take it into a body repair shop or should I buy some stuff from the local auto shop and repair it myself?

well put raykay, i have no response to that except its all getting more clear by the day lol. when youre blinded by love you dont see these sorts of things. when you do see them they fade quickly when you hear those three little words. thanks for the advice and keeping it real with me.

she is a great girl, otherwise i wouldnt try to work anything out with her. but you guys are right, i need to slow it down or break it off with her but i cant do that until the 'miscarriage' comes. im supposed to take a bus to where she lives on november 5th so ill know then what our status is. btw, her birthcontrol was nuvaring, i saw the ring in there and felt it too so i know it was in. however she wasnt on the ring for a week like she was supposed to be then she missed her next period. i told her thursday that i would give her some time to think about our relationship, that i want out if things are going to stay the same as they have been for the past month. she blew it off like i never said it and i told her to think on it and call me when she made her mind up about some stuff we talked about. well i got antsy (like a fool) and called her at work saturday to bid her a nice day and say i love her, she said she was gonna call when she got home anyway and said she would call me at 5pm. she never called and disappeared till monday morning. im just not sure what to do

well look at it like this, if youre always thinking guys are wanting sex and avoiding even small intimate moments for that reason, how are you supposed to get into a serious relationship?

well, im new here so here is my story.... my relationship was cyber between 2-05 and 9-05, telephone and email/im only. well i kind of avoided getting into a realtionship because i wasnt ready for one, but this girl pressured me into it and i cant lie, i had feelings for her so we set a date. she lives 300 miles away, and i have no license or car right now so she has to drive to see me, or i have to take the greyhound. after just one month of seeing each other, things seem to have fallen bad, she doesnt email me nearly as much, or call or IM me. and when she does call she acts really funny, and shes always online now and used to never be online unless she was talking to me. to top things off, she made a profile that says shes single and had sexual enuendo in there under that, for the first 8 months she never even had a profile. i cant help but think shes fooling around because she holds her feelings back now and seems distant, and always gets mad when i ask her certian questions, like about the profile. id like to trust her but it took her 6 months of us talking to even tell me that she has a 2year old son, thats right... she has a kid that she didnt tell me about for 6 months. i just dont know what to do, id like to believe her but she has lied in the past, then totally blew me off for a week, then everything is back to normal, then everything is crappy again. to top all this off, i broke up with her twice over email (because she wouldnt let me call her, her computer was always online) and we worked that out, and she says shes pregnant. she was on birthcontrol, and swears shes pregnant and that its mine. she came over last weekend and i asked before she left if we could get a test so that i could see that shes pregnant so that i knew for sure, and she got mad that i cant 'take her word for it'. yesterday she said she went to the doctor and the doc says shes prego for sure but has a chance of miscarriage and gave her a due date of late june. i dont know if i should just pull out(no puns on this one please) or try to stick out out with her and see how things go, because there is a chance shes telling me the truth about all this, but her track record isnt very good. thanks for taking the time to read my story, and tia for any advice.

the clingy needy thing sounds about like what happened to me. i was just in an aol chat one night and some random girl imed me wanting to chat, so i did. then she liked me more and more each day and i thought she was pretty cool too. well this happened in febuary and it took until sept 2nd for me to meet her in person, before i felt comfortable or said i love you or anything. my feelings grew very slowly but once they hit it was a bang. i asked why she was pushing me away and she said 'i must not realize im doing it but i think its because im not used to all the love you give'. when i was not too worried about her she would call me all the time and she would email me twice a day and instant message me all the time etc.. now she wont even write me an email and acts funny, but when i back off things go alot better. give that a try, keep it simple dont go too in depth with your love. p.s. always remember there is a guy out there who would die for the attention you give this guy. so if this doesnt work out its not the end of the world just take it easier next time. good luck