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    Totally agree with Solo!! Stick with NC!! IF you reply now it may show a sign of weakness. He might be testing the water to see if you'll be there when he contacts you! I made the mistake of replying right away. Then i got nothing. NOTHING....do you want that?? it may hurt even more that way. By NOT replying the balls are in YOUR court. For once you are in control of the situation and it's YOU who choose not to reply because you are thinking of yourself and what matters to you. You will reply when you are good and ready OR when HE makes more effort!
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    Sorry solo34~ I meant it for blender, about getting an email response. Guess my eyes are too watery that i couldn't read the names properly. I'm slowly rediscovering myself. The day i crawled out of depression as step one i took karate and swimming classes. I gave up on swimming cuz i just couldn't put my head under the water. Too chicken ......but karate i kept up. It made me strong, more confident about myself and have more discipline. My teacher literally told me to stop crying in the gym or he'll kick me out. I turned that into power and worked even harder. Months from now i want to be able to go back as a confident, independent gal he loved. But it's also for me. As time goes by i've become more confortable with spending time alone. Just me as suppose to E*** and I. My friends got to know me as myself not a couple anymore. FIrst time in a long time i realized that there was a life before the boy.....and they'll also be one after. Thanks bcuzitsfun for the support!! Thanks blender! NC all the way! Us dumpees needs more than a lousy email to get OUR attention!
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    For us dumpees we always have this revenge plan in the back of our head where we became great people and they'll realize what they were missing. I'm working on that. I owe my ex money .....a few grand and yet he never demands me to return it right away. He knows i can't right now. I'm hoping that one day i'm a successful career woman and walks up to his place and hands him a big fat check WITH interest. That's my revenge. lol...... Us dumpees needs alot of time to rebuild our confidence again. I just don't understand WHY!! WHY does the ex do that to us? First dump us with lame excuses only to resurface months later after realizing it IS tough out there and tries to make little contacts to make us go crazy (hence coming to this forum searching for answers). I mean we all know they were thinking of us when they made those vague emails. But is what kind of state of mind they were in when writing them drives us nuts!! Does he miss me? Is he trying to re-establish contact? What's the purpose of his email? Solo34, even after 7-8 months one little email still makes you relaspe like that, it just shows.....the ex is forever haunting us dumpees. After 5-6 months for me and getting those stupid emails from him i'm becoming better at handling things. But if i do oneday get an email from him saying wanting to 'get together' i too will be back on this forum searching for advice and answers. Boooo to ex!!!!
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    no..my ex doesn't have a new gf yet....i haven't heard from his friends so far. And it doesn't seem like he will get anyone at the moment. In terms of looks he's not that great looking although to me he's the best >_ I just don't understand boys at all! he's my first bf...and now my first ex. This territory is all so foreign to me. I'm glad i found this site.....but not sooner....cuz i did all the stupid stuff that we're NOT suppose to do already.....it's looking pretty gloomy right now but i won't give up yet!
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    It's been almost 6 months. I've been throught the his birthday, the holidays, and valentine's day. And now what it would have been our three year anniversary is coming up (at the end of march).........feeling very uneasy. Is there any success stories out there? Where the dumper realized it was a big mistake and they eventually comes back after several months has passed by?
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    I know i know......i was feeling so much better. NCed for 4 moths on my own terms. HE broke NC by sending me a greetings during the holidays and some random email (which i had hope for) 3 weeks ago. With NC the feeling of wanting to get back together is fading away. But when i get relaspes (this is what you get for breaking NC ) they are REALLY REALLY bad. You start thinking the what ifs......aaaah!! Will he email me again? It seems like everytime he does email it'll be when i almost forgot about him and he suddenly comes back like a ghost. Why do guys do that?! Any feedback from the guys as dumpers will be nice!!!
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    I was trying everything i could to fix it on my own. but i was in a dead end. I tried all possiblities that the internet and my knowledge will let me. HE was my last resort. I figured since his last email sounded like he wanted to resume some kind of contact i thought it would be safe to contact him for help. but judging from his reply which was really fast compared to the previous emails HE initiated and i responded and then HE went NC again only two possibilities here: 1. he's mad at me cuz maybe he feels like i'm using him and would only contact him for support. 2. he really can't help me. i mean at lease he replied back right? i did state in the email if he can't help me then just ignore my email. and he DID read it....maybe he really can't help. i just replied back with 'ok, no problem.' HA just like him..... eeeer............i was doing NC partly in hopes to get him back too i thought there's hope considerly he initiated two contacts.
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    no....laptop is a stupid Dell. Apples are too complicated for me ~_~. Just like men....
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    Ok...i just broke down. Haven't really cried in a long time. Actually...haven't cried since i started NC. My roomies all left for reading week ( my college doesn't have reading week) so i'm all by myself, my laptop is a mess, my ex is being a cold bastard (wth, i thought he turned nice or am i too sensitive??), the weather is crappy, there's no one else left in my city whom i knew for any human contact and my toe won't stop bleeding (cut it last night and bondaged it but after releasing the pressure it starts bleeding again so now it's purple and numb. OMG....you guys are all i have.!!!!!! Someone please reply!!!
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    Ok maybe i was hoping he would rescue me and all but but my laptop!!!! Anyways, i went to bed....spend house trying to 'fix' it on my own but to no avail. So i slept...woke up and check my email (thx god my internet still works). He replied back....after no reply from my previous email from January he replied back to THIS one with a simple 'sorry, don't think i can help.' Grrrrreat! I knew i should have kept up with NC. Now i'm bumed AND my laptop is a mess. Feel like crap..
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    Hey all. I guess i did something really stupid tonight. My computer caught a virus and i've tried EVERYTHING to fix it but to no avail. Lo and behold i emailed my ex in desperation for help. Trust me, if i weren't desperate i wouldn't email him.....and no it's not an excuse to initiate contact again after almost 6 months of breaking up and 4 months of NC. Well, HE broke NC two and a half weeks ago....sending me a random but friendly message about himself. And in return i send him something back (same friendlessness and short email). Then nothing until i broke NC tonight to ask him for help (he's a comupter science major and in the past he's always been the one to fix my computer problems). In the email however, i stated that if he could help that's great if not then i understand. The email was also strickly about getting help and i was being very precise as to what the problem was and what kind of answer i'm expecting back (ie. any methods of fixing the damn problem that i haven't try yet). He's not a cold hearted person although he was extremely harsh towards me when we broke up. But i understand that was due to the fact that i wouldn't leave him alone so finally it got to me and i started doing NC. And that's when he emailed me happy holidays...and a month later that random email. Do you guys think he'll email me back? For help? Or will he continue to ignore me? I dunno anymore....i feel like i did the wrong thing contacting him. But something tells me i should break NC tonight...i dunno. Maybe it's because i HAVE tried everything and NOTHING works and THEN that's when i finally bend over and contact him........ARHHHHH so stressed!! And it's midterm season and i need my computer and now this... maybe i AM high on coffee..
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    You guys are right........this is driving me nuts and it shouldn't! I'm going back to NC and when me emails me again which i'm sure he will (bastard arrr....) i'm gonna take my time to reply this time or not reply at all! I'm just generally a very prompt person...and hates playing games. It's just doesn't make sense. If they had actually taken the time to write you an email they must be thinking of you when they wrote it right? So why the lag?
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    No no!!! can't do that.........it'll show that i'm 'clingy' or 'needy' and such.....i want to act cool about it ( you can tell i'm NOT AT ALL cool about it.............) If i do anything too direct it'll push him away......like i did before..not good .................*hooowaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhh~~~* I'm going nuts here!!!
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    Hey guys.....i posted earlier about my ex emailing me during the holidays to wish me a happy holiday yadiyadiya...i emailed him back afterwards but didn't get anything. Fine....went back to NC. Then a week ago (after a another month of NC) he suddenly emailed me. Very very random topic. One sentence about himself......the subject line was a animation character's name (we're both into anime and i can always tell who the voice actors are) and so i was i awed....more like * * * is this. I opened it and he wrote: Koyasu (voice actor) is the voice actor...recognized him right away...getting better at it... * * *??? So again i emailed him back....a friendly reply think ok maybe he's trying to start something here...be it getting back together or friendship but my question is WHY do guys DO THAT?? or why do EX DO THAT???? Just so random.......it's been a week...and he hasn't email me back yet. Going back on NC i guess............*sigh*....what do you guys think? Really lost here..........any help is greatly appreciated.
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    WOW, you were in the same situation as i am in right now. I always imagine what it's like when you re-contact your ex again. It just shows that the future is uncertain and anything could happen. Who knows what the outcome of the meeting would be. I'm sure she's curious as to what you have become since the break up. People are generally curious beings and i'm sure that's one of the reason why you want to meet her in the first place. However, i must agree with the others that don't expect too much out of this. NO GETTING BACK TOGETHER THOUGHTS! Go there with a friendly intention and make us all dumpees proud!
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    I know......but i'm stuck here..i do want to get back together now. This is bad.........i'm having one of those relaspes again. I need more opinions about this email thing. I could be in denial too........hoping to hear 'yes this does sound like he wants to get back together with you' that's why no matter what other people say it won't enter my ear unless i hear what i want to hear. Errr.......love stinks...
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    Hey guys...i've posted earlier regarding receiving an email from my ex after 3months of NC. I'm so frustrated and confused. I kept wondering what if he is thinking of getting back together?!! I just don't understand why he bothers to email me NOW. Out of all this time. Last time we talked..it was terrible. Ended up with him saying if i dont' stop contacting him he'll call the cops or something. So i started NC...moved on....actually sorta seeing this new guy. And then out of no where....he sends me this Mei Mei, I knew your life would get a lot better without me in it. I'm glad that everything is going well for you! I wish you the best of luck in the new year! Take care. So now i'm left in a nutshell. Wondering does he wanna reuinite? I've asked all my friends......about what this email means. Given the time of the year, the contents...they all said there's gotta have some hidden meaning to this. WHY NOW? i kept asking myself........and this is driving me nuts! All those feelings towards him i've tried to surpress are all coming back. Here's why i think there's hidden meanings in this email point 1: he calls me by Mei Mei.....this is his nickname to me given by him. when we broke up he calls me by my english name....not the cutsy chinese name he used to call me all the time. point 2: it's the holidays.....feeling lonely maybe? point 3: i heard he's after a new girl already.........but if he is successful ....why would you wanna contact ur ex? So ......i need some serious advice. Especially from guys cuz i just dunno what guys think anymore.. I'm starting to WANT to get back together with him. As with the new guy.....i'm starting to feel for him too. Ahhh.........NOT a good way to start the new year. The scary thing is i felt happy at the thought that he wants to reunite.....and i know i should continue NC. But what if i want to be with him still? How should i approach this and not screw up again? I've already replied him a friendly email.......about being friends in the new year.....start a new friendship and such. I've managed NOT to call him (took alot of self control to do that.....) or plaque him with emails afterwards. Because last time when he shown any interest of being friendly.......i completely blew it........i bombarded him with phone calls and msgs....so this time i doing the waiting game and NC....HELP! What does his email mean? Am i doing the right thing to get him back? A side question.....is tarot cards reliable? i've done alot of readings.......and the scary thing is i kept getting the same results......that i'm gonna end up with him again........what are the odds? eeeer......so frustrated!!! Thanks for hearing me out......
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    Hmm.......i guess you guys are right. But i'm not the type to hold grudges for a long time though. OH well......i sent him a reply already.......but if he thinks i am still into him and not reply then so be it. But since he did send me an email im guessing the matured already.........we'll see if he emails back.
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    Hmm.........is not that i want to get back together with him or anything. I know that's not possible on my part. I'm over that. It's just i'm wondering why now contact me. We broke up on really bad terms. Last time we talked to each other, he totally disresepcted me and said if i dunt stop contacting him he'll call the cops on me. So i don't get it. I'm wondering if he's just getting lonely for the holidays..........or is starting to miss me. I just want to find out what his motives are. He still uses Mei mei to address me..........he only used it last when we were still together. Afterwards during the break and the beak up he would call me by my real name Mei Ling. *sigh* or is he opening a door to a friendship? i wouldn't mind being his friend. Aaaaah...........so frustrated!
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    OMG!!!..........i feel all funny now. My ex just emailed me....it was short but still......i feel weird!! I need some series advice!!! Here's the email: Mei Mei, I knew your life would get a lot better without me in it. I'm glad that everything is going well for you! I wish you the best of luck in the new year! Take care. so what does this mean? i dunno how to reply!! does he miss me becuz of the holidays? eeeer..............................he even still calls me mei mei!! that's his nickname for me!!! aaaar....................... please reply soon!! need help!!!!!!!!!!!
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    It's amazing how people's emotion can change so quickly. At last i overcame it. Passed that birthday mark. I also found out that he's interested in someone else already. How could they move on so quickly like that? When little over 3 months ago we were still deeply in love? Sometimes i really don't understand what love is. The emotion of love.......it's too frustrating for me. I don't want him back. The feelings are different now. All i have for him are the memories. But thinking he's already moved on ....still hurts.
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    It's so hard. I went crazy....went online and see our old pictures. It's so painful. Just back then we were so happy....at that moment and NOW it's gone. It's like being dumped all over again. I cried today. Haven't cry for almost a month now.....and i finally let it out. i guess i needed that. Sometimes i think about what he thinks on his birthday.....like will he miss me? We spent the last two birthdays together............i just feel plain miserable.
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    My ex dumped me 3 months ago. But it seems just yesterday when all the crap happens. For the ending was not a happy one. We ended on such a bad terms that whenever i tried to contact him he would get more mad at me. I've been doing NC for 4weeks now.....really proud of myself. But whenever i have some form of relations with me (ie. mutual friend's b-day....i didn't go to the dinner because knowing he's going to be there). Today is his birthday...i have the sudden urge to email him and say hi. But i know i shouldn't....or god knows what crazy idea he might come up next. Last time i emailed him about Thanksgiving he freaked out and thought i was still really hung up on him and wanted to put a restraining order on me. But then memories of the past two birthdays that i spent with him keeps flowing back. Doesn't he have any feelings? Would he feel sad and lonely during this time too? No one celebrated his birthday!!! I just really don't like the fact that we're not talking anymore. That's the sad part.
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    I was thinking about the same thing. But when i sent my ex a thanksgiving wish......he feaked out and thought i was still on to him and wanted to take legal actions or something if i keep doing it. It's sad but i can do it.............NC all the way.
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    For me......i was bullied AFTER we broke up............just don't bother. Later on you'll feel miserable. Trust me. I did the same thing. Wrong guy at the wrong time. *sigh*
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