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I had a similar situation: a breakup and then a rush to find my high school crush. I asked a friend about him, and she gave me his number. I contacted him because we were good friends back then. He said he spent time looking for me after he finished high school because he was two years older than me and went overseas afterward. We reconnected and spent time talking over the phone for maybe a month because he was still out of town. He promised to come for my birthday regardless. However, after spending days talking to him, I discovered that his personality had changed a lot. We didn't have the same things in common anymore. It was as if he had been brainwashed when he left our country. He was even rude sometimes, and I didn't like his behavior. So, I decided to stop talking to him. I can't deny that I was disappointed and felt regret because I had looked for him. I wish I hadn't done it and had kept the nice view I had of him when I was young.

Yesterday, I had a conversation with my best friend about his first date meeting a girl he had been talking to online for two months. I asked why it took so long, and he explained that they lived in different cities. Anyways, he was turned off the first time he saw her. He mentioned that he had made the effort to dress nicely and shave for the occasion, as it was their first date. However, she didn't seem to put in the same effort. She showed up dressed as if she were going to a convenience store, with no makeup on. He said he was shocked and felt uneasy about it. Appearance can play a significant role in making a positive first impression for both individuals involved. It demonstrates care and respect for the occasion and the person you're meeting.

i would never date a broke guy; talking by experience cuz he will endup taking your money Save yourself , time , money.

Thanks for your input. I acknowledge that my behavior was immature and not conducive to a healthy relationship. I was confused and afraid to confront the answer I already knew deep down. Perhaps it's my lack of experience in handling these kinds of emotions. I'm in my late twenties and have only been in one serious relationship before, and it was much simpler because both of us were clear about our intentions. I've come to realize that I don't need to feel confused or pressured to label a relationship if I'm with the right person.

It feels a bit strange to me to act and hide at the same time. I realize now that I was so afraid to approach him and potentially hear an answer I didn't want to hear.

Thanks to your advices guys, something interesting happened the same day I posted here. I talked to a friend about this issue, and she suggested that I take the risk to test his loyalty and to define the relationship by putting a label on it. Otherwise, I was constantly facing the problem of him taking too long to respond to my messages or calls. When I addressed this, he claimed he was busy most of the time. However, I argued that my work is busier than his, yet I still find time to keep in touch with him. Nevertheless, my friend added him on chat, and he accepted her. Then, they started conversing. To my surprise, he responded quickly to her messages while leaving mine unread for hours. Eventually, they both made plans to meet for a coffee date, but my friend ended up blocking him because it became clear to us that he wasn't serious about me. I know it may seem childish, but at least now I have a clearer understanding of where I stand.

Every time I feel puzzled, I come back here. I've been seeing this guy for 4 months now. We've been on a lot of dates, we text every day, and we get along well. He used to hold my hand, kiss my cheeks, and call me his love or sweet names. Does that mean we're exclusive? Once, while talking, I told him that I really like him, but his response was somewhat short, like 'I do too.' I feel like he wants to keep me, but at the same time, he doesn't. I don't want to ask him directly because I've already sent many signals, but I haven't received a clear answer. It might feel awkward if I ask him first and get rejected.

any updates i worry about her ??

woah.. there is so many red flags to look for before Tinder please think twice you deserve better

I appreciate your input. Thank you, please feel free to read my story Since then, I haven't heard from him. I won't accept any kind of offer, and I won't be thankful for it.

I deleted the message and assumed it never existed. I don't want to contact or initiate contact with someone who caused me a lot of pain.

My ex reached out to me via text early today to discuss a new job opportunity and how I am a good fit for it. He told me to check on it My heart sank because he suddenly showed up on my contact list after leaving me 4 months ago. I did not reply to his message and I am not planning to do so. Did I do it in the right way?

try to ask for it politly and see how he reacts; it still a gift after all and it goes to him but if u asked politly maybe he would give it back

We are best friends but we both are busy with our lives that why i perefered to tell her in person.. but i was surprised he starts following here after we break up..that have no sense

She already dating someone else and she accepted to follow him only cuz she thinks we still together.. i dont know is it normal to tell her to block him or i just let things go?

I broke up with my ex three months ago. Yesterday, a close friend informed me that my ex is active on her social media, reacting to her posts. She assumed we were still together, but I clarified that we've been broken up for a while. I find it confusing because he wasn't friend with her or in contact while we were dating. Why would he starts following my best friend now?

Sorry, because you feel this way, but I assure you, I do the same after my breakup. Just delete everything may lead you to him, and even if you are about to do the "check," just drop your phone and do something else, because that will change nothing after all. Focus on doing more activities and meeting other people. It definitely helps. I am sure by time we will heal completely. Also, sharing your feelings here will make you feel better.

Have a great time and waiting for the update

omg omg that looks cute pls keep us posted and a have a great date

Too much talk but this is the exact point

An sorry but she is not interested just move on.. and dont ask her again.. Focus on your work and u will find someone who will be willing to meet u as much as u do

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Just tell him what u feel about it and watch his reaction Definitely if he truly loves u he wont make it a case to worry about But if u told him and he keeps doing what makes u feel hurt You have to step back and leave immediately.

Wow! Am curious why u even love this man ?

Thanks that cheer me up alot day by day i think of him less also i activate my Instagram page to keep up with my friends and i have no clue to check on his page which i used to do ALOT