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hi blossom, i'm sorry abt what happened to you, i've never been in an abusive relationship before,but i do believe that if you are not happy in your current situation, then leave, it is not healthy for you or your g/f to remain there. i would suggest to move out, but do it and dont let her change your mind, she's just manipulating you into staying with her. and it sounds to me like you have your mind set, so all you need to do is just take that extra step forward, take that extra step! i hope everything works out for you, and i am truly sorry that this happened to you,i dont know why people would do such a thing in the first place, it just angers me sometimes, but i think you are one of the bravest people out there! just do what you have to do

well nataliejulie, take it one step at a time as i always say "your making a storm in a glass of water", dont overthink it..if it comes naturally, then it comes naturally, but dont sleep with him tho, if everything goes well and u guys kiss then great!! but dont sleep with him, u'll be making it too easy for him, one question tho, were u the dumper or the dumpee? if u were the dumpee, make him work for it!! good luck, and keep us posted

i agree wtih guest..if u after trying to get ur things back, and she doesnt want to return it..then just let it go.. i did it with my ex, she never returned my stuff either so i just let it go, i even sent her stuff in the mail and offer to pay the postage for her to send my stuff.but never got a response back from her.. anyways good luck, and hopefully ull have ur stuff back.

i agree with tigris, it sounds to me like she is just toying with you. she can't make up her mind of what she wants . You should have a serious talk with her, have her tell you if she wants to be with you or not. it's not fair to have you wait around for her until she decides when to make up her mind, let her know you are not going to wait around forever. but by the looks of it, it might not be in you favor. hopefully everything will work out for you, if not there are a million girls out there who will appreciate you for what and who you are. i know you love this girl alot, i was in love once, but its not worth it if its making you miserable, and i'm not saying go out there and find another right away, bec. i guess u really love her, so its going to take time to forget abt her. just take your time, figure out what you want, and go from there. good luck to ya!

had a talk with sarah, and i told her what was up..and how i believed she lied to me about her coming to visit me, and making me feel like a fool for going to the meeting place. now i'm a person with a lot of pride, and for another person to do that to me, making me look foolish is really maddening!!!. And of course she she denied everything, telling me how she sad she felt for not believing in her..but i didnt care to listen to her excuses..i just ended it, and told her not to contact me again,i can't stand liars. she called me when i was at work but i didnt pick up the phone, and hse didnt leave a message..then she called me at 4:30 in the morning, i was sleeping(with someone) plz give me some advice on how to handle this peacefully before i loose my temper and say things to her that really i dont want to say. i'd appreciate any advice. thanxs.

yeah i agree bally..i dont like to do things over the phone..but under the circumstances thats whats appropriate, i will let her know and hopefully she won't keep on calling me. lets hope. thanks for the advice and i will keep you guys posted on what happens.

well saphos, we have done the webcam thing, and swaping pictures..but you guys are right..i should just stop talking to her..she called me last night, but i didnt pick up the phone..i didnt want to talk to her..besides its not like i'm really into her..i just like her..we have things in common and i just wanted to see where it would go..i'm not a believer of the whole online thing, since people lie their teeth off of what they look like...so when i decided to try it out..i met her and the first thing i asked was a pic...and then doing the webcam, to make sure she was for real, so in that case i am sure of what she looks like. and as i said before we've been talkin for about a year, we both were in relationships and we still kept in touch. But now for her recent actions, i can't see myself with her. i have been thinkin about things, people that i've been involved with, and how that has impacted my view on relationships..and i guess i wanted to be with her bec i didnt want to be lonely, since almost all my friends are in relationships. right now, i enjoy being single, i like doing alot of things..i'm a very social person and i like to do what ever i want w/o givin any explanations to anyone, and i want to keep it that way, at least for now.

well i've been talking to her for about a year now, and i she says who she says she is..i got there a little later than the appointed time..but i called her and i let her know that i was gonna be there late, bec of traffic..i didnt get a chance to talk to her all i got was her voice mail, so i left her that message. and i got there 20 min late, but she never called me to ask if i was there or what had happened to me..i dont know, she has done that to me twice, the last time was last weekend when we were suppose to meet and i was there on time...she said she was gonna call me to let me know she was on her way..she never did.i waited there for an hour she never showed up...she called me two days later to tell me that her cousin was in the hospital and that's why she couldnt meet me bec she had to be there., but the weird part is that she calls me from her home phone which is a PA number..i am certain that she lied to me. i think i should just stop talkin to her...i dont knw what to think...

ok so, i've been talking to this girl for a while now, she's really kool and i like her alot. the problem is that she lives in another state now. well, she was suppose to come visit me for the summer,( i live in MA she currently lives in PA), we've been planning her coming here for months, well when the day came, she said she got to boston on the 27th of june and that she was staying with her uncle while she was here. i asked her where we could meet, because i havent seen her in a while, and we arranged a meeting place. well i get there and she is not there, after i call her like 3 times to know where she was she never got back to me, then i left a pretty upsetting message saying "thanks for standing me up". well she calls me the next day and said she was hurt for what i said on the phone, that she got there early..and waited and didnt see me so she left. now here is where it gets interesting: i apologised for what i said and set up another meeting date. she never called me back..called me the next day and said it was something with her cell phone and she couldnt get back to me. now i think that she's just making a fool of me, making me believe that she's here, because i tried to meet her a couple of times but something always comes up and she never gets back to me, and so we never get to meet. she has said that she loves me and that she wants to be with me, but i dont know what to think..her coming here to visit me was a way of finding out if i wanted to be with her, because i have strong feelings for her, but i dont love her, love is something that i dont joke with,and only say it if i mean it. please i need to know what u think..is she playing me or is it just really bad luck???? what should i do..i'm confused