girly_girl

In my opinion, your husband is suffering from some form of mental disorder or condition. It is so obvious that he is not at all happy with himself, and he is taking this out on you and your children. This is just my belief, but I would give up financial security rather than deal with constant verbal abuse- it must wear you down so much. Your children are being hurt by him, too. This is difficult, because children do need to at least see their father. I think you should kindly and lovingly ask him to speak with a doctor. He may or may not need some medication, but he definitely needs counseling. YOu should take the kids and stay with family or get a place for a while, see if he makes any effort. Whatever you do, you need to put yourself and your children first, no matter what.

Hi, Metallicachica- This is a very important issue, because if you do not end this soon, something really bad could happen to you -like rape. Seriously i do NOT think you should try to talk to him yourself-you need to tell an adult about this right away. You are only 13, and I know it is hard to speak up for your self, i remember when i was your age. But you have to tell someone- think about how much you would regret it if this guy did something really bad to you. Take care of yourself first, you should trust your heart-if it makes you uncomfortable then it's unacceptable. From what you said it definitely sounds like this guy is acting very inappropriately. Not everyone in authority positions are good people, some are just pretending to be. Tell someone you trust now! Take care of yourself.

Hi, I just wanted to tell you that I am in almost the same situation, because I am 21 and my fiancé is 44, so there is a 22 year gap. Not only have we been together for three years, but we are incredibly happy together. I have never been happier with any other man before, and whenever I think about him, I get a good feeling just knowing how much in love we are. Of course there have been judgmental people who have disrespected us, but I treat them as any other ignorant person, I ignore them because I know I can't change them. I am so happy to hear that you are happy in your relationship- it is proof that it does work. The issues in a relationship have nothing to do with age-maybe maturity or experience, but not age. And to those of you you have responded so judgmentally and rudely to her post-- of course you have a right to your opinions, but maybe those opinions would change if you were less judgmental and realized that your way of life is not the best way.