The_Enforcer

LOL.. I like the suggestion! But it is a family computer, so I think ther would be objections! I guess I simply have to disclipline myself? I am so disorganized in general. I would like to become a more organized and efficient individual. I often right ''to do'' lists with good intentions, but these never get done. Where can I find the discipline, not only for this topic, but for life in general? I have been disciplined in the past... I gave up smoking which was extremely hard and took aver a year, but it's been 2 years now- so I can do it.

I thought the rolling stones broke up years ago?!

LOL... I agree. The initial poster has no game. Young women don't want some walk over... if your a wuss you wont get laid.

I agree with the above.. looks are the intial attraction for me. How is a personality going to attract me in the first place- it's not visual. You look at someone and are attracted, you can't look at someone and think, wow they have a great personality- lets go over and speak to them. You think wow, look at her. I'll go and speak to her. Then you get to know their personality. Looks are the basis of initial attraction.

The thing is.. the computer is in the hallway. I'll study for 5 mintues, get distracted or go to get something and then i'll think oh... i'll just check this and checking it turns into an hour, which turns into a week and so forth. I would like to ban myself from using the internet before 9pm, in an ideal world. It's just a matter of discipline, as you say. How can I help enforce this?

I really need help and advice for a very weird addiction. I am addicted to the internet and posting on various sites... this is jepoardizing my future as it has meant that I have been neglecting my studying, which should most definitely be a priority. It may be hard for some of you to understand, but I hop you can help... I just can't seem to pull myself away from the computer, and knuckle down and study. Any advice, I really need to get this sorted. I guess I have an addictive personality disorder or something.

But my way of dealing with this is punishment. I feel she should be punished. She has got away with it. Today, I egged her car whilst at college

Thanks once again for your valued contribution to my post bila. Your responses have helped me a great deal, expecially as you have been in the same situation. I was hoping other people (possibly some women) would be able to add something too, but if not, then ok. I was meaning other peoples views or thoughts on the situation rather than the number of times this post has been viewed ! What would make a peron behave in such a way? (Lucy?) I presume she will always be untrustworthy?

So not many views or responses it on this post then?

Your situation is remarkably similar, but there is one slight difference. This girl didn't break up with anyone, she was playing us both. I knew as soon as I found out that was it. You lie to me, your out the door. No matter how much I like you. I told this to the guy, said I no longer had anything to do with her and that he had a decision to make. He made the ill-calculated decision to stay with her. This is what I feel has annoyed me for the main part. How can he let her get away with this???????! She doesn't deserve ANYONE. I am 90% sure given the choice she would have chosen me over him. But I respect myself too much to trust her any longer. The girl I once liked was merely one big lie. thereforeeee she has had only the option of getting back with him. And to my disbelief, they are back together!!!!!! He even said, in ther 3 yr relationship, this is not the first time this has happened!!! I want nothing to do with such lying, deceiving, untrustworthy individuals and I can't see why hesee's any different. She is obviosuly going to do it again and again and again. Once a cheater, always a cheater. I went straight round to her house. They were both there. I said exactly what was on my mind. I said '' You are the biggest loser I have ever met in my life and your boyfriend is the biggest wussy I have ever met in my life... you make a great couple''. Then I walked away..

Here's an outline to my little story; I met a girl, we clicked straight away. Things seemed to good to be true- they were. Basically, I got on reallllllllllllllllly well with this girl, Lucy. We had been seeing each other for over 2 months. Things were pretty serious, she was constantly calling me, texting me, sending me erotic photos, following me home (bit strange i know ).. Anyway... her personality was great. We just clicked and could talk about anything and everything. I know she was really into me. There were a few strange things that I saw and asked about, but she had good explanations... And I accepted them at face value. I BELIEVED HER, I TRUSTED HER. She was always telling me how she had been treated badly in the past, being cheated on etc.... and how she would NEVER do that. So it came out of the blue, a txt message from hr phone, that I could tell was not her (I just knew). Then I started receiving witheld phonecalls. It turned out to be her BOYFRIEND. At 3.00am last night i gt a message saying ''hi this is lucies boyfriend, i'm not sure if she told you she had a boyfriend, but she does. She's lost him now, please take car of her''. He phoned the next morning and we talked about the situation. I told him that I wanted nothing to do with her after the lies she had told me. Her personality that i liked so much was fake... and i guess that upset me, that hurt. I asked hime where this left him... he said she had done it before so that was it. I was ok with that. But then I found out they were back together. They had been together for 3 yrs prior to this event. This really annoyed me, that they were back together, but i was unsure why at first. It got me thinking... and I realized I was annoyed because SHE didn't deserve to be with anyone. I not only felt sorry for this guy, but at her for treating him like that........ I mean, what sort of a punishemnt is that???? I tried explaining to the guy she wasn't worth it, I told him he had a choice to make. I was no longer a part of this. I'm disappointed he made the wrong decision. I don't know why i've written this, I just had to. I still feel angry and have mixed feelings, but atleast I am beggining to understand why. I feel I have rushed this story, so I hope it makes sense and I look forward to reading your responses to this situation I have found myself in. I must say, this incident has had an impat on my ability to trust people.

I have recently been diagnosed of suffering from extreme stress, but I have no idea of it's causes. It has had such an adverse effect on me that It has caused my to experience hair loss (alapeche spg?). Is this just an effect of the ever increasing pressure of society today.. the pressure on me to do well is extreme at best. I have no idea what causes me to be so stressed but I have my ideas. I have recently started college and there is pressure orientated towards that. Another thing is, I am £3000 in debt, which is ever increasing as they charge me interest and I have no way to pay it off. I know I can't really afford to be at college, but I have dropped out twice before and need to see it through. How can I relieve this stress?

Thanks mate... have decided to grow it a bit and see what happens. I have realised i shouldn't be so vain in caring what anyone else thinks. If I want to see what my hai looks like long i shouldn't have to worry about what others think of me, even if it does look crap! Besides, as said, it's easier to cut hair off than grow it. And i need to do this formyself if that makes sense. I want to have and see my hair long at least once in my life! Thanks for the support and advice in my soul searching!

lol... thanks Dark blue... do you think dreads would suit me? as i would be prepared to put up with a 'mop' (lol) if the end result was pleasing.. ...still got the mop at the mo, contemplating cutting it this Mon (depending on results from this thread). Thanks for the advice and keep it coming.

Thinking of cutting it off now, it's getting too hard to manage.. my ultimate aim was to grow it long enough to get dreads, but i always bottle it at this stage as it ends up looking so bad.