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I'm just wondering if girls like guys with lots of hair on their chest/legs/arms or if they prefer a guy without any. I'm sure the preference varies from girl to girl but I just want to see what the vote is here.

I'm 15 now and an old girlfriend asked me to have sex when I was 13! It's usually the other way around with the guy asking the girl but nope she asked. Although I'm one of the smart ones and I said I'd take a rain check. I'm still good friends with this girl today and she still asks me but I just can't see doing it. I feel like I'm one of the few kids these days with morals. I've always felt that when I'm 16 or 17 I'd be ready for oral sex but not complete sex until I was 18 or 19. Even that is early, but I just can't believe the trend. One of my old best friends who I talk to about once every few months now because he moved is getting a blowjob or handjob at least once a month now and he's only two months older than me. Crazy world.

I find why men have such a problem with it no matter what girls say is that of course they see porn and there is so much pressure from that. As good (or bad) as acting may be, the guy is always huge and he makes the girl scream her brains out every time. Even though it is just a play, the guy in the movie does it so well every time that it will make the man feel insecure. If his girlfriend has large breasts but he has a small penis then he'll feel like he's not 'sizing' up to his end of the bargain in sex. Although I'm only 15 I am a guy so it's just how I think things come along. I'm always critical of my size, I'm overly insecure about it and no matter what a girl says I'll always be. There's always the thought in my mind is that when I do get sexually active with a girl who has had past partners, she'll always have the lingering thought that she's been with someone bigger and she's comparing. I'm only 5' right now (and that graph made me scared cause it said it was like 5.9 at my age and I'm scared to become active in more than just making out with a girlfriend because I know she's seen bigger and at my age there's the risk of breaking up harshly and she'd go and tell everyone at the school and it would be very brutal. I guess to sum it up the guy is just worried because no matter how good he may be the girl will say he's small which is always a negative connotation in that sense for a man and she'll always have a thought at the back of her mind of bigger guys. She may not, but that's how we think. This is especially the case if the the activity is just oral sex on the man because it's not like he can use his moves to make up for lost size. The girl is just sucking on something that may not be up to par and she may not care but the guy will know she's sucked bigger so he'll think that is probably more enjoyable for her. Although I assume the girl worth being with would find it the most enjoyable if she was doing it for the person she loves most. Guys realize that but we can never take it into account when we think about it.

Will it grow back thicker though like other parts on the body that have hair?

Forget all the love letter things you just have to do it. I'm very shy myself but several times I've gotten into situations where I just think to myself 'fugg it' then just say something before I can stop myself. Then you go from there. The more you think about it before you do it the harder it gets. So just go for it.

Sorry for my ignorance but I wasn't sure. After reading a bit more I don't think it's dried semen, just smegma.

I'm 15 and I don't masurbate. It's not because of religion or things my parents have told me or anything like that but I never felt the need, yet I haven't tried very hard. I still think of myself as a sexual person, I admittedly look at porn and I've had some girlfriends in the past. I talk with my friends about girls and sex cause that's what guys do and all my other friends masturbate and think of sex all the time. I feel guilty that I don't and they criticize me for not doing it. I also don't understand it because I started puberty a year earlier than all my friends so I figured I'd be the one to start doing it first. So it's almost like peer pressure that forces me into trying sometimes but I can't stay erect because I start feeling that I'm doing something morally wrong and all my friends are so far past me or I start getting critical of my size. I've read sites and they say that there's nothing wrong with not doing it but I feel very insecure that I don't and I want to get over that. I feel like if I don't start it will end up affecting me later on because I won't know what to do when I get sexually active with a girlfriend. Which for some reason I feel I'd have no problem getting action from a girlfriend but I do with something less than that like masturbation. But a problem with that is since I don't masturbate when I have wet dreams lots of the semen stays between the foreskin and my penis. So when I get hard I can see dried semen on the perimeter of my foreskin and when I push it back there's lots more. So if I ever got sexually active it would easily lead to something embarrassing. I've read up on that problem and it says to start to masturbate in the shower and push back the skin and wash it off when you're hard. I've done that but it's very hard to get the stuff off because it's so sensitive that after half a dozen seconds I become soft again. So all this combines into leading me to feel overly insecure and having low self esteem around girls because I feel all other guys have a one up on me. But I know there must be someone out there who can help so I came here. I'm sorry if the second paragraph was a bit gross but this really troubles me. If anyone can help me, please do.

Thank you guys very much, your replies mean a lot to me. If I can learn to overcome my nervousness and just learn to relax, then I am sure things will be fine. You guys even just from replying restored a lot of confidence that I thought I lost. I am open for any opinions or any more suggestions, and I will probably see her next week, so I will post to say how things are going. Thanks!!!!!!

She did know that it was my first kiss, and I think she understands this, but still feels I really need some work. I told her I was ticked off about her telling some of my friends and she apologized, but that still doesn't really fix a lot of the stuff I am going to have to go through from them at school on Monday. After thinking about it I think I came to the conclusion that I didn't do any of the stuff that you said I just think I didn't do enough. She told me that I had my mouth pretty close to closed and I figure that my tongue movement wasn't that great, I didn't do much with it. I think that may have been a result of just me worrying too much about doing the things you listed. She still says a need a lot of practice, which I guess I can believe but I still get worried over this a lot. Thank you so much for your advice, and if there are any other tips from you or anyone else they are greatly appreciated.

Hi, I have a girlfriend, and she is my first and I really like her. She is a lot more experienced than I am in pretty much everything that has to do with relationships. She has started complaining that I'm too shy and not as physical as she'd like me too be, which I agree with, but she is my first and I really have no clue what to do and get pretty nervous and worried over things. Anyways, last night we were at the movies, I had my arm around her and kissing her normally and just doing stuff I knew I was comfortable with. But then at the end of the movie I gained enough guts to french her. I knew she wanted too, but this was my first french kiss so I was a bit tense. After about 20 seconds, and we pulled apart briefly, all she said was "You can't kiss for beans," and started laughing a bit. Not wanting to start an argument I agreed figuring it was most likely true. We didn't do much after that, we just left and kisses normally a bit more. I was kind of embarrassed, seing as she told a couple of my friends, but what could I do, it was the first time I was ever doing it. Her and I are still on good terms at the moment, but I fear that if I don't pick up my act in this field, she might just get rid of me, and I like her a lot. I have looked through all these french kissing tips, but they all seem to say the same things, that don't really give a lot of help. Because I thought I was doing it right last night and doing almost everything the tips say. So I just wanted some real advice from a real person here, because I know if I am told the right things in enough detail, I can really make my girlfriend happy next time we meet. So please, please get back to me with an answer ASAP, and thanks for the help.