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Ok, so I'm starting to get the jist of things with this NC stuff. I think it's great. However , it seems like (and correct me if I'm wrong on this) that you wait and wait until you feel like you can talk to your ex in a friendly, but light manner, without a lot of romantic feelings attached. So my question is, what if you are committing to NC so that you can get your ex back eventually? I mean, if you're waiting until you don't feel any pain anymore, isn't that when you're out of love with the person? Or are you jut hiding how you really feel for the person? I know that right now the best thing for me is to not contact my ex, and I will do this no matter what, but should I wait until I have no more romantic feelings for him or until I think I can hide them? Thanks, sorry for the long question...

love is love, it doesn't really matter whether it's not a "typical" relationship. it hurts all the same and you should be able to express your feelings about it.

Anyhow, I pleaded and begged for a second chance from him, but he says that he loces me but is not in love with me anymore and that even if we were to get back together, he cannot give 100% to the relationship at this point. He says he doesn't know what the future holds, but right now this is where he wants and needs to be I have been doing NC for 2 weeks....no phone calls. He did talk to me on Messenger last week just to ask how everything was going and that's it. I am so sad....I just want another chance to be the girlfriend I should have been. Any thoughts? Wow, this situation sounds EXACTLY like my current one. Except, it's only been two days since me and my boyfriend broke up. Yeah, at this point I still can't even call him my ex. Kinda sad, huh? Anyway, you need to stay strong honey. I think my own relationship is going to take a lot more work in order for it to get back to the way it used to be, with both of us being 100% committed to each other. However, in your case it sounds like he is starting to realize how much he misses you, and that he still loves you. The fact that he's iming you to see how you're doing is a good start, but you probably shouldn't jump to conclusions just yet. I say keep your cool and when he does finally come see you or call you, and you're feeling ready (not emotional and vulnerable) you can tell him you miss him and would like to be there as his friend. From there, you can reestablish the connection you had before and it will probably develop into something more. Maybe it's just wishful thinking that this will happen to me, but I truly believe that love fixes everything in the end. Have faith!!!!

Hi, my name is Keely. My boyfriend of 3 years just broke up with me. At the beginning of summer, I was not 100% in our relationship. I went out with some friends one night and hooked up with another person. The next day, when I saw my boyfriend, I realized I had made a mistake and that I loved him. I told him what I had done and he was devastated. It took some time but we decided to continue on and to attempt to build the trust back. However, I went out this past weekend with a friend and he was so worried I would do something with another guy, he told me he could barely sleep. The next day, I assured him nothing had happened or would ever happen again, and he said he knows but he was going up to Baton Rouge to hang out with friends. On Sunday, when he returned, he called and said he had made out with another girl. I told him it was over, it had to be. Then I drove out to his house and threw a bag of stuff he had given me over the years at him, and told him I never wanted to see him again. He ran after me and tried to calm me down so we could talk. He told me he had never fully recovered from what I did to him earlier in the summer (I had done everything but slept with this guy). He also said he knew he had made a mistake, but that he felt like we needed to break-up for now. Well, the next day I called him and begged him to change his mind (just like the board said I shouldn't) and told him I loved him so much and that this was all a mistake. He told me he needed time and space to think, and that he still loved me, but he wasn't in love with me like he used to be. I felt like I was going insane, and I kept calling him yesterday (monday). This morning, when I woke up, I drove out to his house to talk to him (uninvited, ) and I could tell he wasn't psyched to see me. I told him I loved him and that I wished he wouldn't do this, but he said this is how it needs to be for awhile. So, I left. Now, I'm sitting here at work, and I know what I need to do. I just need to do the NC thing for awhile and give him some time. I feel like we can get the love back, it's just going to be awhile. In the meantime, I feel like I need to get back to figuring out who I am and spending time with friends and learning to love myself without him. I do love him, and we have had good times and bad, and I think he will even come to his senses. But I know that I truly need to give him the time and space to sort out his feelings. I'm going to contact him when I feel like I can do it without crying or bringing up our relationship. Also, I want to give him time to miss me. I think this will work. Anyway, that's my story.