Trina

hey mermayd thanks for the advice i really cant stop worrying- though i know how the situation is and that i probably can trust him more than myself. guess id have to talk myself out of the "state" everytime i feel that way

I have been with my boyfriend for three years three months. Though we met online, we met up and saw each other for a year and a half. life was blissful! he however left for university and is now 20000miles away from me. he comes home for summer every year and the times we spend together are still the same. even while hes not here, we talk online everyday for atleast 2 hrs and he calls me 3/4 times a week. its as good as a LDR can be- and maybe more- but for some reason i keep getting pangs. every few days i get these bouts of insecurity. i feel as though he left me, that he left me coz i'm too fat or sumthing. i know that he loves me- but i cant stop feeling insecure. i get paranoid at thoughts of what hes doing right now- and get afraid that he might cheat on me. though i have absolutely no reason to think that way. worse is i take all this out on him. everytime i feel like this- i blame him for leaving me for causing so much pain for both of us and have fights. the more i miss him, the worse i get- i dont know what to do. i want to stop being so paranoid but i end up making both of us feel miserable. i dont want to end the relationship we share- we're perfect for each other and we love each other. but i'm scared that my tantrums might drive him up the walls. he says he doesnt mind me throwin fits at hiom coz he knows me and knows its all for him- but i'm scared that one day he might think that its too much to take. please advise me in what i can do.

Hi i would only tell you, cliche as it sounds, to not lose faith in love. i can imagine how hard it must have been for you, i have been with my boyfriend for three years and we hope to get married someday, and the thought of him doing that to me is enough to get me brawling, but i honestly think shes not worth losing faith in love. ure right about the number of divorces and breakups and betrayals- and they seem to be increasing with time, but we both know how wonderful it can feel to be in love. and if it lasts its ULTIMATE bliss. Believing in love is definitely worth the try.