James30

She needs a challenge, So be one. Don't be available.

AllI can say from past experiences is The NC rule works like a charm. But! DO yourself a favor, make sure that what problem or problems that were there before get resolved before you try again. Let them come to you. It sucks I know. If he doesn't come back you know it was meant to be that way and you're better off. DON"T CALL OR WRITE! What ever you do. YOU NEED TO HOLD THE CARDS!

My girlfrind and I broke up a few weeks ago, and I didn't hear from her for about 10 days then she called me and we met up for a drink and she told me that she was in premature menopause a the age of 30 but she loved me and wated to find a way to make things work. Well lets say I felt like I had the wind knocked out of my sials to say the least, but that wasn't the issue. About a year ago I discovered that she had been suffering from Bulimia Nervosa. A horrible yet treatable eating disorder. I didn't know what to do, but she was so angry that I new that she said that she'd leave me if I told anyone. So Eevry day for the past year I new she had the problem and I had to deal with her destroying her body. I have been in so much pain over the past year that I didn't know what to do. But in the past couple of weeks she was really getting bad and her body was getting all screwed up again and I just had to tell her that I couldn't be in the relationship any more. until the other night when she told me that she had this major medical issue. She lied to her OBGYN and he put her on meds to get her hormone levels back to normal. She didn't tell him the truth. I went home that night and cried my eyes out. I felt so sorry for her. So on Tuesday morning I called her father who lives 1000 miles away and he lost it. He burst into tears and called me back and said that he and her brother were coming up. He lives in SC. Well it's now Friday and She absolutly hates me. I have been asked to step back. She's agreed to treatment. But I can't deal with not know whats up. I love her more than anything in the whole world and now I'm the enemy. I didn't do this for me I did it because she deserves a good life. But I never thought that I would be kept out of the loop after I was the one that had to live with the pain for so long. I don't know how to feel and I don't know If I made the right choice. I can't stop crying.

I don't know the circumstances of your situation, but It sounds to me like he might not respect you. I would try and make him earn your respect before giving too much else. I have had my share of bad times, I'm going through one right now. But, everyone on here is or has been in the same boat. It horrible to go through something that hurts so much just to have to let someone back in that will more than likely do it again. But we all take chances at the crazy game of love, sometimes it really does work out. That's why we all do it. Just remember, Love is one of the most powerful and dangerous emotions on the face of the earth. Civilizations have been created by someone for the love of someone else. Just be careful and don't forget to have fun. If you love him and he left you before. Make him earn your love and trust. You're worth it. "HAPPINESS COMES OF THE CAPACITY TO FEEL DEEPLY, TO ENJOY SIMPLY,TO THINK FREELY,TO RISK LIFE,TO BE NEEDED" STORM JAMESON

Thank you

If you love her then you need to think about what was wrong before you broke up. If you don't see a future then tread lightly and see what happens. I feel your pain. Just been through it. Got back together with her and now I ended it again. I just don't know. It's so hard I know and the anguish is just indescribable. Hang in and use your best judgement. You'll be OK

I really don't know where to begin. It has been a few days since I broke up with my girlfriend. This is the second time. The first time she broke up with me. We have been together for a year and felt some horrible tension between us. As soon as I was aware that things were not right she dumped me. Six weeks went by and we eventually started talking and we decided to give it another shot. Well it's now 5 months later and I just dumped her 4 days ago and I haven't heard from her. I took her to Mexico for 10 days about a month ago and we had the most wondeful time together. About a week after we got back, she flicked the switch and completely withdrew from me. Not calling me for days at a time, behaving very poorly towards me. Basicaly sex came to a screaching halt. And last wekend was the end all, the last nail in the coffin. She canceled plans with me sat night and she said had to work, and she was going to go into work at 6 at night on a SAT. Well I hurried over to her house to get my key to my house since it was in my bag and she was driving out, she stopped and I saw a weekend bag on her passenger seat, I said something and she took off. She called about ten minutes later and we talked for about a half hour, she said she wanted no commitment and I pressure her. This is not true, I gave her space I didn't call, I let her hang out with friends. No big deal, she even said she loved me. Well I didn't hear from her for the rest of the weekend. So on monday I decided to just end my insanity, but now I feel like I've made the wrong choice. She hasn't called, and I left her a message last night to return my call so we could chat. Nothing. I'm just miserable. What do I do?