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  1. samdog31
    Its obvious he likes me but right now I am not on his priority list. How do I get and keep his attention. Any ideas? Trying to be more creative then I have here. The only thing I am trying now is not calling or writing to see if he notices and reacts.
  2. samdog31
    I got even with my husband with out intention today and I can't stop laughing. So I thought it would give you all a laugh too. He went over to where I am staying when I was n't home to drop off somethings I asked for and so i can look after his cats, while he goes away to think about "his life" Well on my computer desk was this thing that looks likes a tennis racket. (its an electric fly swattter) so if you put your hand near the racket part you get quite the shocked (stupid me I tried it, hurt like a mother for 5 minutes after). Welll this afternoon i get this email from husband that goes something like this..... "I don't know what the tennis racket thingy is, but you better put it away. Cause when i moved it, it shocked the (blankety blank) out of my right hand. " (oops) I did say sorry though. But i laughed so hard (still laughing). I almost wet myself.
  3. samdog31
    Well I booked a trip for myself and told him i need him to drop off my passport. I didn't tell him where I was going. is that mysterious enough?
  4. samdog31
    Thanks I am feeling alittle now
  5. samdog31
    well he emailed me about the flowers and said thank you they are very nice!
  6. samdog31
    well i haven't told him everything. But I have made it a point to make it obvious when he comes over that I am doing all the things he has asked of me. I have left my violin out to tell him I am taking lessons. I have spent money on my wardrobe to reveal that i have lost a great deal of weight etc. I don't share with him where I am going and whom I am going with. or what i have been up to. I don't know where else I can create the mystery.
  7. samdog31
    I guess I am not good at playing games. I am a very honest and straightforward person and i tend to get confused when someone plays games with me. So I try and not play games with them. I don't understand how playing games gets me anywhere. I have shown him i am independent. I have moved on and become socially active without him. i only tell him i love him when he leaves me for the evening or we end a conversation. I guess i just believe we don't have long on this earth and i want him and everyone else I love to know it. I just don't think game playing is an effective way of healing things. Maybe I am just mis interpretting what you are saying I don't know really.
  8. samdog31
    but I don't possibly know what else I can be doing. I still tell him I love him when ever I see him. I sent him flowers for our anniversary (which he will get today). I have no idea what else I can do to make him want me. OTher the what he has already asked me to do.
  9. samdog31
    well i guess at this point there is nothing else I can do but sit back and wait. I am trying to analize things trying to predict the future and its not gonna happen. I love him very much and I want this to work so bad. But I can't make him love me back
  10. samdog31
    All I can do I think I am doing. He asked me to do three things and I am doing all of the three things he asked of me. He has asked me to improve my fitness, which even I admit I need to do. and I have been going to the gym 5 days a week and dropped about 30lbs in the last 3 months. He asked me to become more active socially. I have taken up violin and am going out with my friends more. that is hard for cause I have a hard job and would rather be a hermit most times away from work. But it is good for me to go out once in a while. and he has asked me to give him some space to think. i tried push the envelope to begin with and he started to run so I stopped. He has seemed to take notice of the things I am doing. He has told me on more then one occasion i look nice. He was sitting on the couch flipping through my violin book the other night. and when i had my all girl birthday party he showed up to kinda snoop, even though i asked him a couple days prior to bring a couple things i needed. I think he showed up on friday unpurpose to prove I was having a party, rather then coming the night before. So if he is taking an interest in what i am doing even though he is playing his cards close to his chest I think those are all good signs. Or maybe I am just trying to sugar coat things.........
  11. samdog31
    Well I am not feeling much better. He should get the flowers I sent sometime today. My girlfriend is saying she things all this points to the end and the nice things he has done for me is purely out of guilt. I guess I was using these signs of nice things such as planing my birthday, as pointers that him going away to think was a good thing and hew would come back refreshed and willing to take the tiger by the tail sort of thing. She seems to think that he is going to come back and tell me to take a flying leap. I guess I just don't understand why he would do all these nice things for me and spend all that wasted engery doing it just to come back and tell me its over. I know if I wasn't interested I wouldn't be making much effort at all. So i don't know who is wrong and who is right
  12. samdog31
    you won't ever stop loving her, she is your mother. But you can not like her as a person. I came from a very abusive childhood and althought I do not hate my parents I do not like them as the persons they are. And I choose not to accept their values or lack their of. Find a role model someone you truly admire and mirror them.
  13. samdog31
    This week of waiting is gonna kill me. I guess I know after next week either its the end, or just the beginning.
  14. samdog31
    I never told him i would wait forever. In fact i gave him a 6 month time line to get his act together even before I walked out the door.
  15. samdog31
    Well i guess I just get confused cause he is still doing things for me.
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