hurtbylove

Um, girl on top is great, just lie there and let her do all the "work".

Sit back and enjoy the show

It also takes longer for me to get off that way..

I'm sorry, but just from the information that you gave, he sounds sick.

How is your relationship otherwise besides this issue?

It is wrong wrong wrong for him to do that to you, I don't think anyone would disagree with me there.

What are you apologizing for? You opened up to him and told him what happened to you in the past. How much it hurt you. And he asks you to repeat those actions? It's sick.

I would seriously recommend staying away from him. Do you have any other close friends you can talk to?

Mmm, as long as they are well trimmed and clean I guess it's ok..

I loved to give my ex-gf foot massages, but I don't know about sucking on her toes.

I think you would need to ease your girl into it, don't dive right for her feet or she might be shocked.

I'm not sure how a girl would react to your previous relationship, but they should understand that what is your past makes you who you are today.

I think it was likely a very good learning experience for you with relationships.. Trust me, I don't think girls are any easier to deal with

I try to avoid judging people on their past, or rather not know about it at all. I mean I really don't want to hear about what you did with your ex.

If you are a genuinely good person, the girl should be able to accept and love you just the same

Be the better man in this, there is no reason to act like a jerk.

I was the same way, I thought about holding onto my exs' things and not giving it back to her..

If one person wants out of a relationship then it's over. I know it's hard that you want to stay together and "work things out" but she doesn't.

I was in the same boat.. I would do anything for her, I was willing to work out any problems but she didn't want to anymore.

Sometimes people do just change, or want to figure out what they want. If you still do have feelings for that person, just let them go. Don't try to "hurt them back" in any way just because they hurt you.

I think the karmic balance of things will just be better if you take the higher ground. Give it closure, box it up and send it her way.

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To skynet

I think that yes "No Contact" was broken, but you didn't break it she did. Without knowing any more details, did she miss you, call for a trivial reason, just checking up etc? It's hard to tell what people are up to.

Could just be testing the waters to see how you're doing, or mabye she felt like she made a mistake, the possibilities are endless.

Ok dude, call me judgemental but um if you would like to meet "more" girls, get out of the LAN party circuit. I think the few girls who are there have a pretty heavy shield up to guys coming on to them.

Let's face it, computer geeks aren't the most savory of people, the few girls that go to LAN parties are probably getting hit on a lot.

Try going into girl's territory next time, and away from the computer. If you feel your physical appearance is sub-par, then you have to make up for it with personality. A picture isn't going to do you good, try to befriend girls first. You don't have to turn her into your girlfriend, just be friends. Hang out with her more and just network. Meet her friends and see who you might like.

I think you should just throw it all away, that's what I did with anything I found that was my ex's. If it was hers and it had some monetary value, I felt even better throwing it away. Screw her and her stuff if they're not in your life anymore why bother caring about their stuff.

 

Throw the box in the trash and be liberated!!!!!!

Well.. depending on the nature of the breakup you should usually return the stuff. Throwing away all her stuff when you could have given it back will likely burn a lot of bridges.

Why not just be an adult about it and drop it off? It's already a bad situation you don't need to put more fuel into the fire.

Ok im in pain to but i am a guy and think i can help you

 

1st of all you needa do this cuz its worked on me. Get that guy that looks like him or any other guy . and go out with him for a while kepp calling your ex to check in every once and a while. and then ask to meet him and say youll bring a friend then bring you temp bf. the guy that looks like him. and show him how happy you are with him.

 

if things go right this should drive him nuts and he'll emediatly want you back. might not be the best way but i can work

As long as you aren't using someone elses' feelings I hope. If you can maybe get one of your guy friends to do it and tell him the situation that might be ok..

But don't string someone along to use him to get a reaction out of your ex.

Well, I know you like sex, a lot of guys do.

Just don't come accross as being the only thing you want. That person will also have their own feelings and needs as well.

Concentrate on yourself first I agree. Then work on a relationship based on trust friendship first.

I guarantee you that if the woman finds out you are only there for sex, it's a huge turnoff and you will look like a jerk.

Spend at least $100 for both of us?! I'm 14! I don't have a job, and money like that doesn't come too easy that often, unless of course I pulled it out of my savings account of somethign like $350. I doubt that a girl my age would really even care about a dinner THAT expensive, sheesh. I can't even think of ANY restaurants down here that would cost $50 per person. $25 per person is fine with me, but $50 per person--outrageous, and impossible to find a restaurant that expensive near the beach. There is a Ruby's Diner at the end of the pier, with a wonderful view of the ocean through the windows. There's also quite a few fish places and such around too. I'd take her to a nice restaurant like Macaroni Grill, which is probably the most expensive regular restaurant around here anyways..

Especially if you are that young and not working yet, don't blow that much money on a first date.

You don't want to give off the impression that you are big spender or else you may be in trouble later on..

"You bought expensive dinners for me when we first went out, and now we don't do that anymore".

It isn't necessary to spend money to have a good time. I think the zoo is a nice idea. It'll give you something to talk about when you want to break the ice, "Oooh look at that", and it gives you an opportunity to just talk when you feel like it as well.

Even a regular dinner together isn't a bad idea, pick someplace semi-quiet, but not formal. Really, even 15 dollars a person should be fine.

Nothing wrong with skinny 6 pack

That's what I've got.

Yeah, if my daughter asked for a plane ticket to see some guy for a month away from home, I would pretty much go ballistic.

It does sound kind of suspicious about the whole ticket/passport thing.

I agree that while talking is very important to a relationship, you have to be able to interact with that person in person as well.

What made you "lazy"?

Why did you keep slipping into that pattern of losing jobs?

She gave you a couple chances already, I know you put some effort into it, but it kept faltering.

She really seems like she needs some stability in life and you don't seem to be able to provide it. Try to fix whatever is making you mess up.

Tell all your friends and family how he's been treating you. They should encourage you to leave. The only reason I am not going back with mine is because I have so much support. It's hard.

I don't know how good of an idea it is to tell that to your friends and family.

It will burn all your bridges with him. It's really unfair to him if it turns out to not be the case that he is "cheating". Don't bring unnecessary people into this if possible.

Even if he is, then just end it. Don't make an enemy out of him.

Sometimes we all feel like we hate our respective exs for what they have done to us.

As weird as it sounds, hate and love are closely related feelings. They are both strong and all-consuming, difficult to stop and control.

Surely you must have had some good times with her? It wasn't always like this was it?

Sadly you will be unable to heal until you learn to let go. You can't live your life with such hatred, you are only hurting yourself.

Show that you are better than her. Don't go down to her level. Be the better man in this. Learn to forgive. Trust me when I say it's harder to forgive than it is to just hate.

As the world slowly turns, you will feel less pain.

Definetly call him if you have his number.

Waiting around for emails sucks.

I think in this day and age it's fine for the woman to do some chasing too. It's sexy.

When is it ever hard to see when a guy is hard? The thing just suddenly appears out of nowhere distending his jeans. If his breathing is heavy you got 'em anyway....

Um, so girls actually look around that area? What about in public.

Spontaneous Boners happen.

Didn't know people were on the lookout for 'em.

It can be hard to hide depending on what I'm wearing.

Sidestory:

This is kind of sick but I used to be worried about sportin' boners while I was on the school swim team. We of course wore speedos and it doesn't leave all that much to the imagination. Luckily once I got in the pool it was all good. The cold water pretty much solved that issue.

I used to get boners all the time with my ex-gf. Looking at her was often enough. He's got a mind of his own.

I think it would help to get back to your roots. Remember back when you were in love with your partner in the beginning? Surely you have some basis for your relationship on communication.

You could try finding new hobbies to explore together, or go out somewhere like a museum and point out interesting things to each other. Use the evironment to bring up things to talk about. Once the ball starts rolling it should be easier

Good luck.

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I don't think your bent penis is caused by masturbation.

It's just natural variation in shapes. There are all different kinds. I think you are probably normal. I've never heard of anything to reshape your penis anyway.

I guess a surprise kiss would more difficult. Just get him alone is a nice quiet spot and ask him. First kisses are always sweet. He'll be pretty nervous though have fun

What you did was wrong.

Love is not a game, and playing with emotions hurts.

I wish people could just be honest with each others and their feelings, but I know they can't. You give too much and you will be perceived as being easy. Not enough and you're hard to get.

Playing these games is childish, take it as a lesson and move on. I don't think you deserve another chance with her. Remember next time to be honest.

How do you think you can have a relationship with her? Honesty and communication as the foundations. You have lied to her since the beginning.

I know I'm being harsh, but that's because I'm bearing my own baggage from past experiences. Games are good for no one and no one gets what they want.

Lady has it down pretty well. It's funny how we all find out these things on our own and the commonalities we all share.

I guess some things have to be experienced to be believed. When you are in love, no one can tell you otherwise, nothing matters but that other person.

It's cynical but I don't think I will give myself fully to anyone anymore. It just risks too much when so much can go wrong. Don't base your own happiness and well-being on someone else, be aware of your own needs.

Yeah, I think almost everyone's parents can drive them crazy.

There isn't a cure I don't think.

Sometimes you just really don't want to talk to your parents but they don't seem to "get it"

That's easy enough, common ice breakers at the grocery store.

Look at what they are buying and maybe talk about one of the items. Hopefully not condoms or pads/tampons hopefully.

At an airport/ bus stop, ask about their destination and what they are going to do there. Then you can ask where they are from and it opens up from there.

Street corner.. why would someone be standing there, I think it's harder. They could be waiting for someone. If a guy approached a girl on the street it could be difficult since streets are perceived as "danger area" especially at night. Usually someone walking on the street knows where they are going.

If they are tourists and look lost and you know something, help 'em out.

Most of the time people will be surprised. Strangers don't talk to each other. Of course this is dependent on the culture, what city you are in, type of person they are. But most of the time it is a shock.

Read what these people are saying. Separate your mind from your fears for a second.

You WILL regret it if you leave this world over this. Take control of your life. Take a vacation, make new friends. Talk to someone you can trust.

You must do that. The worst thing you can do is sit and brood about this alone.