sax-a-mo-phone

So some of you may remember that I had an issue with the girl that I'm going to my senior prom with, in that she got mad and said she didnt want to go with me anymore. Well, as I suspected, she was only joking and it all blew over. We then decided that we were just friends, which really simplified my life because we were sort of on the line of friends/more than friends for a little bit. But that's all been resolved. Well, now I have a new question. It's not at all a problem, just want to get some advice. Here's the new story: I have known this girl, whom we shall refer to as Laura, for a couple years now. By this I mean that I've at least known who she is, and we had been introduced through some mutual friends and what not. Well were never really "friends" or anything, just acquaintances. About a month ago the two of us, as well as two of our mutual friends, began to hang out on a regular basis. We were still just acquaintances, though, who knew each other through the other two people in the room. Well about a week ago there was a school trip in which we took three buses to a music festival. Well, by some form of chance, we ended up on the same bus, for the long bus ride, and also began hanging out alot on the trip. One night, in the hotel that we were staying at, my room mates left the room and we were left alone. It was really the first time we had ever been left to talk like that. So we sat down on the bed and just talked about this and that. That's when I realized that she was a pretty cool person. For the rest of the trip it was basically the two of us being together, although more often than not, we were with other friends. Then on the way back home from the trip, someone had put a movie in (as it was a coach bus). She then asked my friend to switch seats so that she could "see the movie" but we just talked to each other the whole time and ended up cuddling etc, you know the deal, it was all in good fun. A week after all of this, we were with a large group of friends at a restaurant. We all decided to go back to a friend of mine's house for a few hours, and we all left. Everyone was getting into cars and I said "Anyone want to come with me?" and Laura immediately got in the car. It was just the two of us, in the car, listening to David Bowie and having another quality chat. We got to my friend's house, and we were the first one's there. We didn't really want to go inside, as we both would feel awkward being in a friends house without that friend being home. So I turned the car off, left the radio on, and I look over at Laura and say "Guess we should just wait for them", and I notice that she's smiling at me. So I put my arm around her, and the next thing you know we start making out in my friend's driveway. It was completely spontaneous, and the best part was that neither of us felt weird about it, it was a very natural thing. We made out for about 10 minutes, which is when our other friend's arrived. I had told her that I had to be home by midnight, so when she called her parents she said she'd be home before midnight. At 11:20ish we got into the car again to take her home. I was still slightly confused about what had happened earlier, so I wanted to test her, and see if she was perhaps interested in me and that was why it seemed so easy to start kissing. So I say, "Hmmm, looks like we're a half hour early getting you home", and she says "Yeah", so I take a chance, knowing that she lives on a dead end road, and I go right past her driveway just to see what she says. She says, very sarcastically, "Oh no, looks like we missed my house." We park at the end of her road and make out for another 20 or 25 minutes. At which time I bring her home, she gets up then leans back into the car and kisses me once more. We say goodnight, and I go home. The next day, we were back at that friends house, and the three people who were there had found out that we made out in the driveway the previous night. This is probably due to the fact that I told my best friend about it. So this time I needed a ride home, I had to be home around 11, and everyone decides that Laura should be the one to drive me home. She does, and we talk about how spontaneous the previous night had been, until we pull into my driveway. At this point I'm about 30 minutes late getting home. We look at each other again, she smiles, I smile, we make out for another 10 minutes. I realize that I'm very late getting inside, so I say good night. So that's the story thus far. My question is, is she interested, or just a spontaneous person. Should I ask to start a relationship? If so how? I don't know, I guess I just want to hear some non-biased opinions about this whole thing, as my friends aren't that much of a help. Thanks.

yea, she's really against that drug usage. But I think she'll be able to move on, thanks you guys. Also, I wasnt graveling for forgiveness, I just felt bad that she felt bad. I wrote the letter because I had time for it during a free period. Now I'm on April Vacation so I have plenty of time to call her and talk, go for lunch, etc. Thanks for helping me make sense of this.

So here's the situation: I'm 17, in highschool, and like most in my age group am getting ready for the whole prom season festivities. Unlike last year, I actually had a girl in mind to ask to prom. She's a sophomore, we'll call her Emily. I asked her because I really do like her, and I was hoping that we might start dating or something like that. She agreed to go to prom with me, and we talk a lot now. Now comes my problem. This past friday, we were talking in the library, and somehow the topic of marijuana comes up (probably because there was a ton of pot references scribbled on the tables we were sitting at). She knows that I sort of run with two crowds, one that frequently uses drugs, and the other that is a more straight edge crowd. She asks me if, since I hang out with the more "experimental crowd" if I have ever smoked marijuana. Well, honestly, I had. It was once about five months ago. I had considered just lying and saying no, but I knew that if I wanted to have a relationship with Emily, i would have to be honest about stuff like this. So I told her the truth, I flat out said yes and that it was only once and that I regret doing it and plan to never do it again. She seemed upset and even said that she couldnt go to prom with me (but I know she didnt mean it, if she did she would have walked out of the room, but she didnt). I felt really bad, so I wrote her a note (i know, it's stereotypcal) and asked her to forgive me for my poor choice. She seemed cool with everything by the end of the school day. However, yesterday I ran into on the street casually and she seemed so distant from me. I dont know what to do. I plan on calling her to talk things out. I'm pretty sure that word is going to get out to my 'straight edge' friends, but I don't care. I just want to get this skeleton out of my closet. If you have any advice on how I should go about making things right between Emily and I, I would really appreciate it. Thanks

yes to answer wing wha's question, it isnt primarily boys. In fact i think we have on girl more than guys. But Beth is usually hanging out with them, you know girls and their packs. ANd the party is only like 10 people. So its more of a shin dig than a party. if that means anything great.

I have this good friend, we'll call her beth, and I really really really Like her. Whenever i'm around her its like nothing can get to me. Well we are friends as i said, she's usually calm with talking with me, and i always love talking with her. well anyways, i wanted to tell her how i feel. School let out last friday, and i missed my chance. I was devestated and very upset. I've liked her for about a year and a half now, but we're only friends. Last year i never told her that i liked her, and didnt see her all summer, and i regreted it and still do. I don't want to go another summer without her. We hang out with a pretty tight knit group too. My fear is that me telling her how i fell will change things in our group. Plus, everytime i try to talk with her, i can't get her alone. I need to tell her alone so that she doesnt feel pressure from the presense of our friends. I just want to tell her that i really like her and all the stuff written above. I want to try to avoid asking for a relationship of any kind right away, because that's completely her call, although nothing would make me happier. So i blew it before the end of the school year, but i tried to talk to her alone believe me. Anyways, a friend of ours, Kevin, is throwing an end of school party in a couple weeks. I want to tell her then. how should i go about getting her alone briefly and how should i word it. I want to say it in a way that won't make her panick, because i know she isn't totally into looking for a relationship, but i know that she wouldn't hate the idea either. Another problem is that my friend Stan likes her. He really has a slim chance with her tho, because she generally can't stand him. He knows that, and i'm not trying to sound egotistical or anything. But lately it seems like he has been trying to ruin my chances with her because he doesnt think he has a chance with her. Whenever i leave the room, which is generally right after she does, stan will follow me and ask what i'm doing. Its annoying and really bothersome. How should i go about talking to this girl alone, for five or ten minutes even. Please Help...thank you

what, in your opinion is the best way to ask out a girl. Either gender can responde. the girl that i am interested in is kindof introverted, but loves to sing and be on stage, so she is kindof on the boarder of Introvert and extrovert like me. What would work better. Being direct, writing a letter, or something else. i'm open to ideas.

Okay, heres the story. I'm not the most popular, nor am i the most confident person in the world. I do have lots of friends tho, of both genders. One of the girls that i am friends with is more special to me than my other friends. We have been friends for about a year, and honestly i have liked her since that first day we met and started talking together. I feel comfortable talking with most of the time, and she laughs at my jokes and feels comfortable telling me stuff that has happened to her. I know that the chances of her liking me that much, or even more than just a friend, is very little as well as unexistent. Anyways, I really like her, and want to ask her out, but i don't know how to do this without making the both of us feel awkward, or to jeopordize our friendship. Please help, a year of thinking about this is too much.