LoneVirgin

Ok, this might be a little long, so be prepared. Let me start from the beginning. I met a girl last year, who was in my English class at community college. I'll call her Amy to protect her identity. We talked a lot, but mostly bbout school. Anyways, this year started, and I began to develop feelings for her. It took me about 3 months to get a friend to tell her how I felt about her (not the way I really wanted to tell her, mind you, but I was desperate to get the word out). A few days later, the person told me that Amy's reaction to my feelings were not good. Anyhows, for about a month, Amy seemed to be deliberately avoiding me. And just today, I found out from a good friend that I should probably stay away from Amy, because she thinks I'm stalking her. This hurt me, obviously, and I couldn't believe it. Now here's where my world starts to crumble: I caught her alone after what seemed like an eternity. Let me write this in dialogue form so you can understand better. Me: What's up, Amy? Amy tilts her head up to gesture hi back Me: Are you busy? Amy: Yeah (in a slightly angry tone) I should note that she was just putting her socks on, so she was basically trying to get me off her back. And I'll also say I saw rage in her eyes for the first time. Me: It doesn't look like you're busy, you're just... Amy: Well, I'm busy. Me: Well, whenever you're not busy, I wanna talk to you, we need to straighten things out. And now, the line that tore my heart out. Amy: Please, just leave me alone. And she walks away from me. I can honestly say that this was the worst day of my life. I absolutely love this girl, and now she hates my guts This is the first woman I really got to know in college. I'm so sad right now, I just wanna die I know you're probably saying "Get over it," but I can't!! Another bummer: She's really popular, and now most of the school knows how I feel about her. And eventually they're gonna find out about what transpired. I would go on all day, but writing this is making me even more angry, and I don't want to break the college computer So to sum it up, my friendship's over, I hate life, and I don't know what to do. Please help me out here, as you may be some of the only people who actually LIKE me anymore. By the way, I'm starting to HATE girls right about now.

Well, I guess I would if it were possible, but I don't know too many women with the name Michael

Anyone should be able to answer this. I ask this because I recently met a girl with my mother's name. We should have some classes together next semester and I want to date her. It would feel kinda weird though because she has my mother's name, but my mom is just "Mom," and I can separate the two. So, basically I want to know if any of you would date someone with your mother or father's name.

Yeah, I did talk to her, kinda. It was last Wednesday, and class just ended. I waited outside of the class for her to come out. A minute passed and she came with her friend and a guy friend. Then, finally, she was not talking to anyone, so I just went up to her and said "excuse me." She just looked at me, and I don't know if it was a bad look or not. I think I saw a little discomfort in her eyes. Anyway, I said "I just want to introduce myself. My name is Michael." About 2 seconds after I said that, she gave me her name. I couldn't believe she actually talked to me. Then she went to catch up with her friends, but before she left I asked her if she liked math, she laughed and said no. So that was the end of our conversation and the last time we spoke. Once again, I don't know if she likes me as an acquantice or not. Well at least I'll say hi to her tomorrow when college starts again. Perhaps you women can tell me if she hates my guts.

First off, let me start by saying that I am in my second week of college. Now, the problem is, there's this girl in my math class that I'm very, very crazy about. I saw her the first day of school, and I've been hooked ever since. Wednesday came along, and I managed to sit in the row behind her. I wasn't desperate to talk to her then, because I was so worried about math (I hate math). I just looked at her and admired her beauty. Anyhow, the weekend came and I decided that I was gonna talk to her. I even had it all planned out. So Monday came, and I was happy. I got into class early, and waited for it to start. She came in, and I just ignored, because my plan was to talk to her after class. Class ended, and everyone was leaving. I waited for a little while because she was still in there. Well, she was talking to her friend, and I guess that intimidated me. So, like a coward (a coward I say), I left the class!!!! WHY DID I DO THAT !? All my plans, any hope of anything, all gone!! I didn't go immediately home, but I wandered around the school for about 10 minutes, seeing if I can find her. But she wasn't there. So with nothing else to do, I drove myself home madly. I didn't care if I got into an accident. My life's over anyway. I thought about her all day yesterday, and I'll be thinking about her all day today. So, what I came here for is: how do I get the guts to talk to her? Now, understand I do NOT want to date her, and I'll tell you why: If I let her know up front that I want to date her, she will either reject me and not want to see me again, or we'll date and it'll fail. So in reality, I really want to be her friend. That way I can be sure she'll be around. But I'll never do it if I run out of time. I have until Wednesday to think up a plan. After that, it's only until NEXT Wednesday, because of Labor Day vacation. I only see her on Mondays and Wednesdays, and I doubt I'll see her on Tuesday and Thursday. I remember going to the lounge twice last Tuesday and didn't see her. But, I guess I'll just have to try again today, and HOPE I find her. Here, I even have some plans ready. Maybe you can tell me which one is better: A)Cheapskate plan. I write on an index card: "Hi. If you are not busy, maybe we can talk in the student lounge after class," and give it to her in class. It's cowardly, but at least she'd know B)The "maybe plan." I arrive early in class as usual (lots of people in class. Don't want to sit in the back without a table like I did the first day), and when she comes in I do this: I sit next to her, and I say "Hi, my name is Michael," and shake her hand. Hopefully she gives her name, and I ask her how she's doing. Then I ask her what she's doing after class. If she's not busy, I can ask her if we can talk in the student lounge. After that, I leave and go back to my seat. This is what I might do, because the sooner, the better. C)Just wait till after class to talk to her. Meh. I blew this already. Or just give me your suggestions. After all, it is about what YOU think. PLEASE, help me on this, or I'll just give up on love and life, period (and live to hate).

Oh yeah, one more thing. I DO NOT want to use women so I can say that I've had a girlfriend. When I said I want to breakup, I meant that I can at least have SOME confidence and say "hey, I can get a girlfriend." That's all for now.

Ok, the fact of the matter is, I'm lonely. I live in a small town so I can't go to a club or anything. I just want someone to love. Right now at this point (19, permanently single, permanent loser ) I will date anyone. I could care less if we break up in 2 weeks. Everyone says breakups are hard, but I wouldn't know. Maybe I'd actually WANT to breakup with the person so I would stop complaining. Then I can guarantee that I will be a happy person. Another problem is my color (I think, anyway). I'm black, and like white women. I'm also ugly too, so what are my chances. None, exactly. It's only one month until college (probably, I don't even know if I can get in because of all the money required), but I can't take it any longer. I used to just walk up to people in the grocery store and flat out ask them to date me, but I read that it's NOT the way to go, so I stopped. And now, there is absofreakinlutely NOwhere to meet women. At least most of the people here have friends to talk to. And, by the way, I don't have a job. I surf the Net almost everyday in the public library, and that's about it. My life's dull. I'm addicted to porn. What is my purpose. Nothing, that's what.

I am sick of everything. I have no friends to visit. Women hate me. Everyone hates me. I dont care if no one responds. See you later.

Alright, I'm gonna keep this short. In a couple of weeks, there is gonna be a festival in my town. I want to go there for one reason: to meet women. The rides are for kids only, and there are car shows and bake sales and whatnot. So I wanna ask you, is it okay for me to go there and find a few people I'd like to associate with. It's not like I'm gonna go up to everyone and say "Hey, what's your number?" I plan on talking to them about the town and where (if anywhere) they would like to move and etc. Then I could tell them I wanna talk to them again and get their number or something. I hope the answer's yes because this is in my hometown, and I could easily find them if I get invited over or something. So, once again, is a festival a good place to meet women? Hope a lot of you respond.

I wrote this in 2002: I hate loneliness Because I have it everyday. A game is in your face, But nobody wants to play. I've never been to a dance Because no one even likes me. They say love is in the air, But it doesn't ever strike me. I don't have many friends, And the girls won't even talk. One tried to ruin me, By saying I tried to stalk. I've never had a girlfriend. I'm not supposed to sweat it. I've never really lightened up, So now I regret. I don't have a best friend. Everyone treats me the same. People are being so mean to me That I'm wanting to change my name. I've known people since elementary. They change schools and then don't know me. I was in your 5th grade class, Want proof, say "show me." I have a problem with nobody. They have a problem with me. I'm worthless to whomever, Like a raindrop on a flea. I can't help my size. I was born to be overweight. 4 letter words are bad, So why have a lot of hate? I have two female friends Who are the nicest people I know. I don't know if they're moving, But I'll hate whenever they go. I have my personal problems, But there's nothing like this. My life's a cheese with holes in it, The kind that's called Swiss. I don't take stuff for granted, But you do and it's not right. Your friend has a nice pair of shoes, So him you want to fight. My friends have neglected me Though I see them everyday. I'm lonely and you don't care, So I have no more to say.

bzborow1, you asked why I needed a reason to talk to women. The way I think is, the grocery store is a place to get groceries, not dates. I feel that if I walk up to them and start talking that it would be an invasion of privacy. Like if I say "Hi," she'll say "Hey" very lowly and then just leave. And there are no bars where I live at, so that's not an issue. BTW, thanks for the advice!

Ok, I guess I should ask that primarily women respond to this topic, because that's who would know best. First of all, I'll be in college in a couple of months, but I wanna ask this first. Where I'm living at right now, there are NO clubs or sporting events that I can go to, so the ONLY place that I can meet women at is in grocery stores. And from what I know, that ain't a good place to meet women . So what I wanna know is, how long should I talk to a woman before I ask for a date. I can't just walk up to her and say "I wanna hang out with you," can I? And the next question, when I go to college, when CAN I tell someone I want to date them? Because right now I'm desperate, and I cannot wait for 3 months after I've been a friend with a girl to ask her for the date. But hey, don't get me wrong, I DO want women just as friends, but what if (Okay, WHEN) I see a girl who's not in my class and does not know me, can I ask her for a blind date? Next, how do I SHOW confidence? I definetly don't have it, but I at least want to fake it so that women will actually LOOK at me. And lastly, but darn sure not least, WHERE can we go for a date. The only place I can think of is a high-class restaurant, but what else. Thanks for reading this, and any help would be GREATLY appreciated.

Ok, I'm a lonely person who means nothing to this world. I'm 19 now, and never had a girlfriend. All through high school, I became attracted to nearly every girl in there. I sent 5 of them notes (through other people mostly) asking if they wanted to be just friends, and THEY ALL REJECTED ME!! So in 10th grade, I was a loose cannon, got suspended 2 times, and cared about nothing. In 11th and 12th grade, I slacked off so that I could get a good enough grade to pass and that's it. I was depressed on my graduation day, and am depressed one year later. I CANNOT get a girlfriend, no matter how hard I try. I AM THE UGLIEST MAN IN AMERICA!!!! You can say that looks don't matter, but a dog wouldn't even want to be seen with me!!! Another problem: I'm black, and I am attracted to white women. I'm sorry if that's wrong, but that's all that I'm attracted to. Trust me, if I don't look like Denzel Washington or anyone else, I'll NEVER get a girlfriend. NOT EVEN A DATE!!!! I frequent grocery stores, hoping to find at least an older woman. But no, they're with their man!!!! I'll be starting college in 3 months, but only to TRY to meet a woman. If you don't know already, my life is OVER!!!! I have nothing going for me, except my angry poetry. So PLEASE, anyone tell me, should I live and CRY everday, or do you REALLY (and I mean really) think that there's someone out there for me? I don't expect anyone to say yes.