sublimination

as a 14 year old whose not lookin to get married just yet... someone who's cute and fun to be around everything else is nice but not necessary

ive liked this girl for almost a year, shes in high school with me we're good friends however, i havent had the courage to do anything more with her than flirt she shows some sings of interest but nothing definite schools out so i cant really see her easily, we live in different towns, but ive been having conversations with her via email on the last one i slipped in at the end, could u tell me ur phone number, id like to ask u something without confusion; something like that so then im planning on calling her and asking her to maybe go out with me to the "center" in my town this saturday wheres theres like lots of ice cream shops and places to walk around what im getting to is that this is my first ever date and ANY tips at all would be hugely appreciated tips on asking her over the phone, tips on the date, how to meet her there, what to say if she says no, whatever! im excited, but nervous, so hopefully all u awesome ppl can give me some help and confidence -Tommy B-----

and plenty of the girls i know are saying "that guy is so hott" yes, with the two Ts, more than they need to...

derek u the man

i am still in high school, which means if i choose to ask out one of the many girls there, does this necesarily require legitimate dating right away. in other words, i will see this girl every day, and if shes my girlfriend, we can go into town sometimes and things, but if i ask her out and she says yes, am i expected to say "okay this friday at so and so place" or can she just be my girlfriend and see her each day and then go to the movies sometime just randomly. this may seem like kindof a weird question but i am new to this... thanks everyone !

your question kindof confused me...i think there is a terminology issue here. when u "ask somebody out" and they say yes, around where i live, then they are your "girlfriend", but as i know, everyone has different words for everything especially on a forum like this. anyone wanna agree/disagree i think this will clear up his question too...

i know exactly the situation youre in think about this: why are you friends with her? because you love being with her, you think shes pretty, whatever, you "like" her also, because by hanging out with her you think somehow you might get her to like you or find out if she likes you or somehow get with her now if you went out with her, that would be great, right? but if you found out she didnt like you that way at all, then you probably wouldnt want to hang out with her sooo much because youd look at her and always think, damn, ive got to just be friends with her now, if you never asked her out, so u never found out if she was interested in you, then you could go on hanging out with her and spending time with her and having a grand old time, but always wonderin if she wants you as well, which isnt so bad i guess so you've got a choice- 1. keep doing what your doing now for, well, as long as youre interest in her lasts, which could be a while 2. ask her out and she says yes, score (well this isnt really a choice)3. ask her out, she says no, and either you won't hang out as much because you hung out with her because you liked her, OR it wont be awkward at all, she'll say no, you'll say "alright, whats the math homework" and youll be friends like before, no hard feelings, life goes on and if u ever get around to askin her out, private message me i wanna hear how it goes

theres a girl im into, and she seems interested as well...although im not sure we flirt a lot but then again, it seems like she flirts with other people as well for example she touches me a little bit sometimes, she always laughs and smile at me, but all of these things she does with other people how can u tell if someone flirting with you is any different , if they like u any more than anyone else i know that sometimes i flirt with other girls but definitely this one more, just some advice would be AWESOME

sorry, i dont really agree with the ditzy thing, it can be okay but i dont really wanna hang out/go out with someone thats really ditzy, it gets annoying my big thing is not being easy/expressing a ton of interest sure it is good to express interest if you like a guy so he can take a small risk by asking you out, but its much more satisfying to get a girl you had to work for, it makes it a million times better than getting someone who was already all over you sense of humor and athleticism are all great as well -T

cute smile bright hair smooth soft skin, o yeah

so this girl im into says i look really good in this color, ie my eyes stand out and stuff i wear it occasionally just like i would normally, but should i wear it more than that because she likes it? or would that be kindof lame to do all what she says also, if i were to go out somewhere with her, would it be a good idea to wear it or not gracias

hey guys both those posts are totally helpful im still just wondering, both of you suggested that i "see her at the mall" or "do soemthing you are both interested in" this sounds great, but then what am I suppsoed to do, have my mom drive us? ive still got a few more years before i can get around on my own, and we dont live real close together anybody got a way to get around this? that would be sweet and anymore tips on the general post would be great too!

hey- i am a freshman in high school without much intimate girl experience, i.e. i havent kissed a girl before really theres a girl in one of my classes, we flirt a lot and im not sure if she likes me more than as a friend or not id like to ask her out, but without being able to drive i feel kinda limited also, id like to eventually move up to kissing her, but first i need to make sure she likes me and get closer to her, although we already know each other well ideas? would be great!