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  1. redheadone
    Well, it has almost been 2 weeks since I last talked to her. I still have not gotten any response from the mothers day card or the gift to her son. I guess I didn't really expect one. My heart is so lost right now. Went out with two friends friday night. One had broken up with his girl of 2 years on St. Patricks day and the other is in the process of breaking up with his girl/fience of 2 years. We spoke about the situation off and on through out the night. Until the first friend ex showed up at eh bar we were at. I could tell how hard it hit him to see her. It hurt me to see the pain in his eyes and scared me as to what I would feel when this happens to me. He had supposedly moved on and is dating a couple of girls, he had come accross like he was dealing with it well. I can't believe how hard this is. It is destroying my life. I am seeing a doctor on tuesday in search of some way to let the pain go. I can't go on like this something has to change. Thanks for reading it does help allot that someone does care.
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    Has everyone forgotten me? I wish more people would comment. I feel so alone. Please tell me something.
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    It seems that my heart has gone by the way side. I find myself being able to control the emotions better these days. Sundays are the worst because it seems that everyone I know is just hanging out with there significant others thusly being one of the loniest days ever. I have lost track of the number of days since our break up and am not seeing any hope. I had sent her the mothers day card and the gift to her son. I had called her last week to see if she just wanted me to drop the present off or send it. She didn't return the phone call. I have not heard from her since last Tuesday. I almost can't believe this is happening. I've been in this daise that seems to be lifting now. Reality is starting to set in. I know that I can do nothing et now to get her back. I realise that she is the only one that can bring herself back. So with this knowledge what is there to do. Continue the no contact, try to be friends, forgive and forget, etc? I really do appreciate your thoughts. Thanks
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    Iam really looking for some input. These days are still pretty rough.
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    I have been considering a letter stating how deep my fealing are and the things I have been working on, how much her love ment to me and all the good thing that our relationship has brought to my life. This would be a final farwell and a dignified "I am strong and will look at the positive side of this" kind of letter. I just don't know if this is a good call or not. Mainly because mt heart is breaking more and more each day. I am going to start to see coounsler and possibly see a doctor for depression. I just don't know what else I can do. It has been a little over a month and the pain seems to increase. Do you think that the relationship talk I had with her this past Tuesday has set me back with her alot.(for her to realize what she is missing). Let me know what you think. Thanks
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    Btrayed, I am curious as to what you had said in the letter. I too have recently broken up with a girlfriend did the begging thing the day she got her things, had a few phone calls over the past month and then a big relationship conversation on tuesday of this week in which she said that we will not get back together and that she has been on three dates in the past month. i need any help I can get. As to your situation I feel she is running away for the pressure of her life and you are the easiest part to get rid of. Needless to saw this guy is doing everything he can to comfort her, more or less take advantage of her situation, and that will ware off real quick. There is no way the 5 years can disappear that quick. If you can give more details as to why you have broke up. If you have some insight to my story "Son and Fiance Gone?? Need Advice." I would appreciate it. I hope thing turn out well.
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    Hi, It has been a long day. I plan to put a present in the mail for her son. His birthday is tomorow. I also had gotten her a mothers day card that is fairly nutral and was wondering if I should send it. I do believe that she is the one for me and she had felt the same for almost two years. She does have a history of making important decisions hastly and not looking back. I am trying so hard to not have any hope but find that I need that hope to get through the day. Please give some feed back on the mothers day card. This will be the last thing I will be sending to her. I just don't see any light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks for your comments.
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    Thanks for the interest. I am curious has your ex tried to get you back? Do you think 2 months is enough time to allow yourself to heal? I personally can't see getting into another relationship for quite some time(6-8 months) I really feel that the emotions from the previous relationship are influencing the majority of the decisions in the new relationship. As people say "filling the void" not really giving your heart the chance to care for the new person, for them. Well just a few thoughts. I hope you are happy in your new relationship. Once thank you for commenting.
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    razor, Hey, I appreciate the incouragement. I was wondering if you would read my thread "Son and Fiance Gone?? Need Advice. Please" It gets more into the details of the situation. My ex is casually dating 2 guys right now. She has indicated to me that she is not going to jump into anything, meaning sex. Also she says she will not introduce her child to them until she feels that they are the "one" . I would greatly appreciate it if you could give it a look. Also wanted to know who started the contact back up after the second month of no contact? How old are you two? or any other details that may be relevent Thanks for your time.
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    Thanks, I just hit bottom with it all again. I can't believe how much of a toll this has taken on me. The big fear I have is her stubberness. Even if she did realize she had made a mistake she would never admit them. Do you have much experience in thes situations? Why do you believe I should have hope? I really appreciate you input. Thanks
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    Today has been a challenge for me. I can't seem to control the emotions at all. I still want there to be hope but know it is best to not have it. How can I go on like this. I am not the type of person to let people into my heart. It has amazed me that she had created such a vast sea of emotion inside of me. I was the guy that people thought had no emotions or could control them explictly. I don't know what to do. This is starting to effect my job and it is not like that doesn't have enough stress already. Please give it to me straight.
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    razor, I have been in a 2 year relationship (in which we were engaged, she asked me) with a young lady that now has a 5 year old. I am 29 now and she is 23. We broke up 1 month ago(a week befor we bought a house togrther). At first I did beg her to come back but then went to no contact for the next 3 weeks. Just yesterday we spoke intensely about our relationship. I ended up following my heart and asked her to marry me, to show that I am not afraid of committment. Well she said no, that she did love me but not that way and didn't want to lead me on. She has started to date and feels strongly that we will not get back together. Well I am curious as to the steps that eventually brought your ex back, what techniques you implemented? Thanks for taking the time to respond.
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    razer, Can you explain the time line of your break up and get back together? Did you follow the no contact rule, had you broke down during the the no contact rule? Had she dated during the time apart? Was there sex involved? Any details would be interesting. Thanks
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    I am really freaking out here!!!!! Pleas egive me something?
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    I am afraid that it is completely over for me. I had another conversation with her which seemed to go better. Some time after the conversation I got a wild hair to ask her to marry me. Well I did! As you may suspect she said no. I was prepared for the answer and did not break down. I felt I needed the closure if anything. I think that there will be no more hope for her to realize her mistake. She still says she love me but not the same way, and that I am going to be a great husband and father someday. I don't know if I am in shock or what my feeling are in a really weird place right now. Any observation good or bad are appreciated. Thanks for listening to my story.
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